AIBU to think it's a bit weird to put your photo as a bride as as your main

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profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

it is kind of tragic ( and weird) to post a profile pic of yourself as a bride if the pic was taken years and years ago and you look completely different now.

Oh well it's a good thing I look exactly the same as I did when I got married five years ago then, isn't it!

If you only got married 5 years ago, you will no doubt look the same.
My cousin has an old wedding photo as her profile pic. It was taken over 20 years ago!
I find that really odd!

It's sad that she has so little confidence in her looks now, that she has to keep posting old photos.
But she's not hurting anyone and it's keeping her happy, so it's one of those things we will all have to agree to disagree.

I love how the OP keeps stating it's unusual, like that is a fact. Do you have some stats to back that up?

I have so many issues with this I dont know where to start! Why does it matter to you? Your profile picture on social media is hardly a 'statement of who you are' (I clicked on this thinking you were goinh to say Linkedin which would be a bit inappropriate). I know plenty of people who will randomly change their picture to one of their wedding.

I think this is the mosy bizarre thread I have ever read. I think you are the weird one, not the very normal person you are clearly jealous of. It is weird how you keep banging on about her age - I didnt realise after a certain age you aren't allowed to use pictures fron your wedding. Can you let me know what the age is so I dont fall foul of your arbitary rules?

Filthy, it's odd that you're getting so worked up about it.

Take a chill pill.

And what's wrong with being a wife??

I don't get that attitude? If you're not proud of being married to someone then why do it?

I want the world to know my husband is my husband, he's amazing. Feel sorry for folk who seem to think being married makes you less of a person.......gives me happiness and strength to be myself even more than if I were alone.

So I'll have wedding photos for my profile pictures if I want to. I'm not a celebrity, never will be mega rich, it's the one day of my life where I was wearing an outfit worth ££££ and had professional hair and make up, why the f wouldn't I want those photos up......

Not worked up at all. Just find it really odd thar the OP is this annoyed at something that literally makes no difference to her life

I see your point.
It's odd to get worked up about it.

Like I said, it's not hurting anyone.
But it doesn't stop people having private opinions about it.
I privately think it's a bit sad to have an old wedding photo as your profile pic (but wouldn't normally dream of voicing that opinion, because it would be cruel) and if the OP hadn't started a thread asking for opinions, my thoughts would never have seen the light of day!.

I got married last time in shorts and a top. No hair do no make up.

Sometimes I use the one picture in existence as a profile pic. Who cares

If someone changed their pic to a wedding one, I'd assume there was a reason eg wedding anniversary; anniversary of date they met; said they'd help advertise the hairdresser/makeup artist, etc.
I wouldn't think - there's someone defining herself as a wife

I think this is the mosy bizarre thread I have ever read.

Did you just join today?

Nope. Basically I have never looked as good as I did on my wedding day😂

This will throw you in a tizzy OP.

I've never married. My profile pic on FB is me dressed as a bride. Not even kidding.

It was a photoshoot, I was practicing getting good snaps of dresses etc. Picked up a hideous 80s dress from a charity shop and had a blast with my mates. At one point we all had pictures of us in the exact same dress.

I think I might do it again soon.

A few of my friends will put their wedding photo up for a while on their profile and then change it to something more recent and free awhile put their wedding picture up.
I just assumed they all liked the picture.
One always has the big picture on hi profile of him and his husband cutting the cake and laughing together but regularly changes the small picture.
Another friend always has the big picture of her and her husband but alternates with her being the bride or a family shot.
They are all lovely pictures.

That said, I prefer profile photos where you can see who it is - not your cat or your rose bush or your favourite inspirational meme or the back of your head
There are many reasons why people don't have an actual photo of themselves. My picture is of an ocean. I work for children's services and I ( and other) staff don't want certain people looking us up. It's just another layer of privacy. ( we also alter our names) same with the people in other agencies that we work with (social workers, teachers,police, etc)

So what if someone puts a 20-odd year old photo as their profile pic? Maybe they're not trying to 'mislead' anyone, maybe it's not about how they look in the photo, it might be that it's just a happy reminder of a special day!
And no, that doesn't mean that she's never had any other special/interesting/happy days since her wedding, how stupid to assume that.
Seems like some people think women who get married are just vain/self-centred/attention seeking/normally ugly/insecure about their everyday looks, and have no identity except 'wife'

I think you have too much time on your hands OP. What about people who put their baby or pet? What does that signify to you?

I have me as a bride as my FB profile picture and background(with dh) . I sometimes change the profile picture to temporary ones.
I'm proud to be married to my dh and using those pictures shows that . It was a happy day and the pictures are more natural then selfies.
Nothing wrong with keeping the memory of your wedding alive.

My profile pic on my social media accounts are of me and my husband on our wedding day and I couldn’t give a flying fuck what some nosey cunty fucker thinks.

I can completely understand people wanting a photo up that's of them looking really happy, with beautiful make up and the most expensive dress they'll possibly ever wear. If I was married I'd probably do similar in all honesty.

But to my mind it feels sometimes as if there is an undercurrent of 'there is no greater achievement a woman can have than getting married.' It is a way of signalling social success. It is still more important than anything to get a [high status] man to put a ring on it at the end of the day, alas. It's particularly noticeable if you look at someone's friends list rather than individual profiles. With some of my friends, 80% of their friends' profile pics are of very slim, very blonde, very wealthy brides. Very few of my actual friends are married so it's fascinating seeing the photos en masse like that. A few of them graduate on to having photos of them with their babies. I probably wouldn't have read anything into it if I was happily married but I'm not. It does feel like an way of society saying I'm a failure having not achieved what I'm ultimately supposed to as a woman.

Yep, it's weird if you haven't just got married.

The only picture of me on display in my house is one taken on my wedding day because I didn't look like a horse's arse for once in my life.

Nope not weird at all. Maybe it was the day some people felt the most special. Or the most pretty. Or the most happy. Etc etc etc or maybe they just like themselves in the pic. I personally like my wedding pics as happiness is just radiating out the pics.

Copperkettles I think that's all in your head

A lot of my my male friends have their wedding day as their profile pictures. The other picture is usually of their car or doing an adventurous pursuit!

I'm tempted to see if I've got any wedding pictures to put up but I didn't look that glamorous in my grey suit!

You what? Just .... what?! Talk about projecting! You're reading far too much into this and assuming far too much about how and why people use social media. I don't give a rat's arse whether you want people to have a full, identifiable face photo on a profile, it's not YOUR profile! Just ... wow.

Mine's a long distance shot from my wedding day four years ago, because I like the photo. No other reason. I've had a grand total of 3 different profile photos since I joined FB 10 years ago, I might never change it, I might change it tomorrow, my mind is blown that it actually bothers you enough to post on here about it!

I think it is in practical reality saying "this is the only time i've ever had a professional hair and makeup artist do me up, and a professional photographer take my photo, so I look my best".

Given how much it all bloody costs, I find it hard to judge people choosing to reuse the photos!

There are plenty of my male friends on using wedding photos on Facebook as profile pictures but I doubt anyone is going to accuse them of "defining themselves as a groom".

Wouldn't it be great if women were able to upload photos of themselves without being judged on the clothes or context, you know, a bit like men do.

This thread just confirms my growing view that when women are criticised for what they wear it's actually the person judging who is uncomfortable with the thoughts and feelings they inspire in themselves, and instead of dealing with them, hit out with judgey comments. Society is so endemically misogynist that women all seen as legitimate targets, whereas men have free reign to dress how they like (how many derogatory terms for men's appearances are there compared to women?) This reminds me of the Daily Fail sidebar of shame.