AIBU to think it's a bit weird to put your photo as a bride as as your main

[LoveforPGTipsMonkey]

profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

I used mine because it was a beautiful professional photo of me, my DH and my DD.

Oh for goodness sake. People can upload whatever photo of themselves they wish. Why wouldn’t a married woman be proud to put a pic of herself in her most special day when she probably felt like a princess. I often switch my profile to my wedding day when it’s my anniversary as a little way of marking the day! I don’t see anything strange in it at all. To be honest I’d think it’s weird to put a profile pic of yourself in your pyjamas or looking like a dog’s dinner!

I think it’s totally U to even question it. You need to get a life!

She could have changed it for their wedding anniversary, she could have changed it because she had been chatting to a friend about her wedding, she could have changed it just because she felt like it.

It is a picture on social media. Let's be honest, it is not going to change your life, or even hers. It doesn't matter enough to even give it a passing thought, let along post on here saying it is making a statement! Weddings make a statement!

I haven't rtft but i think it's understandable if the day has just happened. If it's 7 years ago and that 'bride' looks nothing like what stares back form the mirror today then find new hobbies. Scrolling through old photos not a hobby

I’ve got mine because i look fit!!!! And not a weathered old hag

What I hate though, is the anniversary photos! ''15 years since I married blah''.
And everybody says congratulations. Again.

The men never do it.

You sound really bitchy and bizarrely obsessed. Honestly op this thread isn’t reflecting well on you at all. The subtext of your post is that you don’t think it’s a good photo but she obviously does. I have a photo of myself as a bridesmaid. I’m not making any statement other than I think I look good in the photo and it was a happy day. I’m not sure anyone is making ANY kind of statement with their social media profile photo

I posted to congratulate myself for getting through a decade since I left my x so maybe I cannot criticise. To me it felt like an achievement I could be proud of. The bravery to leave, the willingness to relocate, the adjustment, the saving, the planning, the earning, everything I had to build, find... do , on my own . People don't get it though. To me I think a good marriage must make life easier, it's not a difficult achievement.

Only girl+boy is spoken. Girl found boy. Girl held on to boy. Well done girl. That's what I see.

Anyone disagreed with an evening detention and taken it further with the school and succeeded?

To the latest posters - if you did read my earlier replies, I did say I shouldn't have called it 'weird' (I thought 'a bit weird' would not be taken so seriously) and that yes, I can see other points of view.
Never did I call it 'so terrible' or been outraged about it
Nor did I condemn anyone - I felt like a bit of a discussion on Sun eve after just seeing it.
I really did not lose many sleepless nights , and was interested in opinions if people think it's a statement re a woman's priorities - after reading . Hence 'Aibu?'

So let's just wrap it up as really I'm amazed that this topic has made it into 'hot threads' (really?). I was genuinely curious and after some opinions fgs. Thanks to all who expressed themselves without screaming !

I think it’s weird to put any picture of yourself on social media. It’s like saying “Look at me! How gorgeous am I” I’ve got a picture of my dog. Now, he IS gorgeous.

PGTips, there you go, being all reasonable again. Don't you understand that you need to be eviscerated for even daring to think what you thought... never mind the sheer audacity to post your thoughts...

Take no notice. You've kept your composure and, whatever was behind your question, you were entitled to answer it. The frothing responders are largely being unreasonable and oversensitive. See how many of the you can spot on the next hot-judgemental topic thread.

*entitled to ask it.

You haven't been rude on this thread either which is more than can be said for some of the replies here.

Yorrick you sound very triggered to use a teen expression! Why so angry?

Fwiw I think it is ok to put a wedding photo up, but only one of my FB friends has and both her husband and a few guests are in the picture. I think possibly a full on facial one with veil might be a bit odd.. I can't put my finger on why though!

I cycle a lot and so my profile picture is one of me cycling - that just seems obvious, I am unlikely to put one up of me in tons of make-up, high heels etc as not that type of person. There is truth in our profile pictures saying something about ourselves but normally I think it just brings back a happy memory.

SureJan to answer your genuine question, I was wondering whether she's making that statement, as it seemed out of character/not her usual style on social media (hence the ill-advised use of 'a bit weird', I meant unusual for someone with that background) - without saying it's a bad statement to make iykwim. I've nothing against women who decide in later life that they are a proud wife, it's a change of attitude compared to their past that interests me. But as many posters said, it's not necessarily that statement anyway. Hope that answers it. As far pure taste on s.media goes, I wouldn't do it, and I didn't see others doing it, but horses for courses - I agree.

I got married a few weeks ago and looked fucking awesome. I also looked like me, just the best version - combo of a great make up artist and happiness. I have not changed my profile picture to BrideHun on FB though, so on the back of this thread might wait 5 years to do so.
Anyway. FB, Twitter, IG, Pinterest - fine to be whatever you want in your profile pic. LinkedIn: NO. No bridal, no boozing, no tits out, no kids, no friends, no sunglasses, no 'I'm mad, me' poses, just YOU.

I know someone who posts loads of selfies taken for no apparent reason, not doing anything in particular - now that I find a little bit strange. A photo to me conjures up memories of something (hopefully happy) but a memory of some description. Taking a filtered photo of yourself on a Tuesday morning and having it as your profile picture is just vain and a bit vapid.

I always find it weird how much other people judge what someone else puts on their FB pages.

No I think it's getting your money's worth out of the photographer the make up artist and the hairdresser. Not to mention the dress. Although mine was just a phone snap. You are over thinking it 😀

I think YABVU

Surely if you choose to get married you are absolutely choosing to define yourself as a bride? Sometimes motherhood just happens, sometimes a job is just a job, but becoming a bride is a choice.
The bride chooses to define herself as married, So using a wedding photo as a profile picture, seems to me to make perfect sense. ( I myself would never use a wedding photo as a profile picture because I’ve chosen never to marry- but that’s my choice, and if others want to do otherwise, then hey, that’s theirs, so yes, you are being unreasonable.)

Wow, whenever I have put a pic of myself and my hubby on our wedding day I never dreamed that someone would be so judgemental. Its a happy memory that many of our friends shared too. Ive also put pics of me and my dogs, my dogs, me and the grandkids, me and my kids, my kids, my woodburner, me and my sisters, my sisters.
So what the fuck am I first and foremost? Confused for a start.