AIBU to think it's a bit weird to put your photo as a bride as as your main

[LoveforPGTipsMonkey]

profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

I learned a lot from this thread. Women who use wedding photos that are deemed by OP to be out of date are trying to prove something, especially if she also doesn't like the makeup, and by challenging OP on this, I am merely "showing off".

I get the feeling this OP will not be happy until every woman in the world is hiding under sackcloth and ashes with a huge "KICK ME" sign on her back...

Sure a bit unnatural make-up is usual at weddings as it's done professionally not as the woman usually does herself (unless the artist is amazing) - I don't think that's such a negative, I admit the same about my wedding photo. I thought I was being complimentary that she looks better and more herself in her nonb-wedding ones with less makeup. I never said it was a bad photo, just made her look like someone else a bit. And the veil comment- I did say it with a laugh, if this was a friend, I don't think they'd be upset. But obv I wouldn't say it to an acquaintance purely as I don't know how would they take it. None of this was insulting. Mildly bitchy? maybe that but no malice.

Gherkin, I 'm really not judging. You have your own reasons, I was wondering about hers - she has many other good photos. As I've explained, this was way after the wedding, like nearly 2 years, but I ve already accepted other posters views that she may just likes herself in it.

SomethingNew I find it odd because I haven't seen that before (on twitter) but as I mentioned, I'm not the most active user! Lots of people just post wedding photos but not really as profiles. Anyway I'm not saying it's odd for everyone, in any situation - for example have you only used wedding photos? if so it may be a sort of feature which makes sense. Or if you a chameleon and keep changing all sort of pics, then again, it's a style. But in that case it's not in her usual style and witht that long gap after wedding. But I understand that to you it make sense as they are the best you have! some bridal photos looks not that obviously bridal (say, tiara or hat).

Hmm I don't know OP, I'd be a little bit insulted by comments like that. I'm glad you aren't supposed to be her friend.
I don't really get what point you're trying to make, then - you say you aren't being bitchy, it's not about her looks, you don't think it's a 'crime' to portray yourself as a wife first & foremost - so what are you actually getting at?

sorry for typos, Something.

OP... I think you'd glean from your posts that you're really hitting close to the bone for a lot of posters on this thread. That's why you're getting a bit of a pasting.

Reasons why this is sensitive (for some - and there might be several applicable) could be:

1. It's just what some are saying - that they like the photo, for whatever reason, and it's as simple as that.

1. They are proud of being married and putting up a photo that represents that is important to them. I don't personally think this is the reason that women do put up wedding photos.

1. They're not confident in their looks and their wedding day is a day when they looked and felt their best so are confident that that particular picture won't draw censure about their appearance.

1. Linked to 3. they want to be admired for how they look. Even if compliments aren't forthcoming they would like people to see them through their eyes, looking at that particular photo.

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You've hit a nerve because you're questioning something that is important to them, for whatever reason. The fact that the same ruffled posters can quite happily bitch about a female celebrity on any given thread doesn't phase them because it's the same kind of rationale as they/ their partners, having 'fantasy' crushes. This is removed from real life. As soon as actual RL crushes form it's a problem. Ditto this peering into their reasons for putting up a photo.

So, now you know. It's only my opinion and I'm sure it won't be shared, but that's what I think. I'm surprised, if you're a woman, that none of this would have occurred to you and I think there's a bit of a clue in your name, Monkey. Don't be too 'wide-eyed', that never goes down well.

I think OP has tried to backtrack now that it's clear the majority of posters don't agree with her. I'd like to know where she was hoping to go with this, given that she's now saying she isn't meaning to be bitchy, it's not about appearance & being proud of being a wife role is 'no crime'. I don't understand what OP's opinion on the picture is, given that she's now saying it's none of the above.
And not all women bitch about celebrities either!

That's why I said 'some', SureJan. I don't bitch about them either.

Anyway, does it really matter? I think OP has posted her explanations, they haven't been accepted and everybody else who is posting is just wanting to prolong the argument and/or give OP another kicking.

That's pretty bitchy!

I was married 2 years ago and my picture is from my wedding day, with my 2 children.
Why? Because I look lovely, my children look beautiful, it's a gorgeous photograph and it depicts the happiest day of my life. Therefore, it makes me happy every time I see the picture.
I think the issue lies with you, tbh

I think yabu trying to analyse her use of the photo! ‘Is it like saying I’m a wife first and foremost’ what difference does it make if that was her thinking?

No, YABU.

What is weird though, is those that have their wedding photos as profile pics on their dating profiles.

Nope. I often put mine on as it reminds me of when I last looked put-together!

The amount of money you pay for those pics and to look that good in them I’ll be using them when I’m 80 and look even less like that

I think it is lovely.

Hopefully it is one of the happiest days of your life, and even more hopefully you only get married once!

Yeah I think it's the make up and hair and good photo thing..and happy memory day... hopefully lol

Why not? You have professional make-up and a professional taking a photo, you might as well get your value for money!

Yes that is kind of weird if you do that.
Maybe there is something going on?
Trying to warn people off the Husband??

YABU to even care, let all be start a thread about it. Why do you hate this poor woman so much

People really do worry about the most pathetic things on here

I’m confused as to where the OP was going with this too.

OP said it’s not the woman’s usual style using a wedding photo. I’m not sure how you would notice her usual style if a) you’re not friends with her and b) you say you don’t use Twitter very often!

I don’t have Twitter can you even see a profile of someone you are not friends with?

Without question, the daftest AIBU I’ve read all week

Why wouldn't you ?
I don't FYI ,im not even married but can't say the thought has ever crossed my mind

No. I think it's lovely.

Please have a day off!
No it's not like saying "I'm a wife"'first and foremost - it's like saying, when I get the chance to dress up , I look hot!
My dress was amazing, my hair and makeup looked amazing and it was the best and happiest day of my life!