AIBU to think it's a bit weird to put your photo as a bride as as your main

[LoveforPGTipsMonkey]

profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

Shedmice, I use twitter very often, I just don't look at 1000s of profiles, I normally look at regulars and she's in that network. Yes, twitter is public apart from a small minority of private accounts, everyone can see profile pics as they come up next to your every comment and 'like' and also in the lists if they follow your own followers. I also did see her in rl a couple of times. I never said she looked bad!

Lying no these reasons did occur to me but I still don't understand why people are that sensitive. I imagine someone commenting on me putting a wedding photo on - saying they wonder what my reasons are - I would really just explain that yes, I 'm a proud wife, or no it's nothing to do with that I just like how I look. HGow can it become that emotional? no idea. I get emotional on issues that really matter, or say if someone said I looked dreadful, but as far as choices of how to portray myself, I'd just give y reasons if they asked. I'm hardly accusing her of anything bad, just wonder what motives could people have. And I know now ALL the poss motives haha. Thank you, Lying, I'm genuinely grateful to have you here. And previously as I remember. I should ;learn from you how to express my opinions.

I think it's just people remembering a day they (hopefully) felt amazing about themselves, and the person they share their lives with. A day they had professional photographers, a dress costing a fortune, and lovely hair and makeup, on a prosaic level, and made a commitment to create a family, on a less material one. I didn't do the big white wedding thing so no personal investment in this, but it makes me smile when people do. It's nice to see friends feel positive about their lives and themselves.

I look nothing like my FB profile picture. It is my first ever school photo and was taken over 50 years ago. I use it as I work in a school and it means I am not constantly getting friend requests from pupils or their parents. It's unlikely I would be searched out by old friends and acquaintances - for a start, most wouldn't know my married name. I don't find it strange. Why not have a picture that reminds you of a (presumably) happy day?

left I did say before that I completely get the group/couple pics, they express who your fave people are (or animals - I LOVE owner&dog profile pics), or your fave activities. It's the bride alone that's unusual to see. Just a fact that there aren't MANY of such profile pics.

But for the 100th times, I accept it's NOT a bit weird and sorry for coming across as bitchy to all and sundry.

No-most brides look amazing on their wedding day!

LMAO aibu to think that this post is weird?!
It's their profile pic. People put all sorts up. If I felt I looked my best on my wedding day and was feeling nostalgic I would also do this. The fact that there are ppl out there who would be judging me is a sad thought.
It certainly doesn't represent her being a wife first and foremost, and so what if it did. You sound a bit petty op. You could say that a profile pic of someone as a bridesmaid means they value themselves as this first and foremost, or a Halloween outfit - they value themselves as a pumpkin . Come on! Open your mind a bit.

I’d think it was weird if it was on a dating site

My FB picture varies. At the moment it is a group shot of me, my sister and my DD. I change it every so often depending on how the mood takes me - maybe a recent shot of me, or of me and DH, or of me and DD, sometimes its an old photo and yes, its probably even been a wedding shot in the past. I dont think that hard about it. It can often just be that Ive been looking through some photographs and found one I quite like for any one of many reasons, and might use that.

But then my FB profile picture isn't there to let people know what I look like. I only have family and friends on my FB and they know what I look like. I don't necessarily want lots of people looking me up anyway, so don't care if it isn't overly clear which one I am, or if it doesn't look exactly like me right now.

original poster- i would suggest taking up a hobby..

OP not having Twitter I really cannot comment on if it’s unusual to see a bride photo.

I do have FB and I suppose I don’t see many bride photos, compared to other photos as profile pictures. I’m never thought of it as weird though, if I did see one.

I’m sure most people often use their better pictures as oppose to their worse ones, is about as far as I thought about profile pictures!

At the age of 57 , I finally married my dear friend this August past , who my family and I have known for 40 years through all our shared life experiences / mutual ups and downs . It truly was one of the happiest days of my and my children's lives so we both will continue sharing snapshots of that glorious dual for as long as we all take pleasure from seeing us all look that happy and content . Nothing weird about that - simply sharing the love .

Thebelle that's great - I mean it sincerely.

No.

I'm a radical feminist and I don't think it's weird. It's just a nice photo from one of the best days of your life.

After the wedding fair enough but I think if it's there a little too long after the wedding than it looks alittle crazy to be honest. Wouldn't you update it to a holiday pic or something else. Just looks alittle obsessed to have it on for years after when life moves on.

Oh and I don't know anybody that really thinks their wedding was the best day of their life, most find it really stressful and can't wait for the honeymoon!

Oh...my profile pic is my wedding pic 🙄 but you wouldn’t necessarily know as I didn’t wear a traditional wedding dress. We just look like we are going to a wedding. Can’t tell it is ours though.
I don’t care what people think though. I never do selfies so why not? It was only taken last month too.

That sounds lovely mumof3boys33 👍🏼😃

I bloody loved my wedding day. All my best friends there for a massive party with all my favourite food and drink... what’s not to love?

LoveforPGTipsMonkey - please tell us what your profile is ?? I’m sooo curious !!!!!!!

I’ll start with mine ... I’m holding a glass of cocktail in my hand whilst smiling ! No , I’m not an alcoholic, I just really really likes this pic ! It hides my dark circles and makes me look pretty!

Your turn !!

Normally it’s not weird although I do know someone who has themself as a bride as their Facebook profile pic despite the fact that the marriage only lasted a very short time and the split was acrimonious and it was all about fifteen years ago!

I think it's weird that you mention it. Not your issue.

I think that if someone’s profile photo causes you some kind of upset (i.e. no other, serious problems?), and if you have the time to start and participate in a lengthy discussion about it, you’re one happy woman. Well done!

It’s not weird at all 🤷‍♀️
It’s weird that you’ve put so much thought into it though.

YABU, it's not weird at all. I often change my profile pic back to me on my wedding day with my late Grandad for various reasons.

1 - I felt great and felt like I looked nice on my wedding day (and I was quite slim then, not the chubster I am now where all my pics make me look like a baby elephant)

2- the picture I usually use is a really nice, natural shot which had been caught by accident - I'm looking towards my Grandad, and it's just a naturally great picture

and 3 - I really miss my Grandad, he was my superhero and I treasure that picture as it was the last one I had taken with him. I often change my picture when i'm feeling nostalgic or feeling like I'm missing him a lot.

I got married 10 years ago, so not as though it's a recent picture either.

Why is it acceptable to have a thread about someone else’s photo. You sound jealous.