**Have you really taught your daughter to feel afraid of being in a safe space with men?
Sorry, I dont know who asked that question but came across a response and want to add my own.
Firstly scared is probably not the right word in most circumstances. I think cautious, wary and suspicious are probably more apt
Secondly, are you f kidding me??!!The vast majority of us are programmed from a young age to be wary of our own behaviour, especially when it concerns men. From being told to sit with knees together rather than in a more 'boyish' ( and often more comfortable) legs splayed out, to being told we are now too old to sit on a male family member/friends knee ( often when we are too young to understand why it was ok last week yet not ok now), being told how wrong it is for a male to touch our bodies ( again before we understand why its wrong and why we are being told).We are taught to ask a policeman or a lady if we need help ( eg if we are lost). We are told what is appropriate to wear. We are told there is safety in numbers so keep with the group of friends when you are out. We are told not to get too drunk as we need to remain in control.
In instances of child abuse, the victim is threatened not only with their own safety, but often with threats against harm to loved ones. We have had years of rape victims having their sexual history dragged up, what they were wearing questioned and how much alcohol they had consumed as well as questioning why the rape victim put themselves at risk by being in a certain location.
We have had years of being told we need to be wary of men and our behaviour. Why? Because the threats are real and surprisingly common. The few women only spaces we have also give us the advantage of knowing if a male enters those places, they are usually ( but unfortunately not always) seen, questioned and asked to leave. It is the little power we have. A man who had followed me into the female only toilets and backed me into a corner was confronted by two women who had walked in only a few seconds after he had. He left when one started yelling for staff. I was useless and froze. Allowing men into such areas takes away our right to question their intentions unless they are obvious in their intention. Their mere presence will no longer be an alarm bell. Notice how we ( despite how young we are) are the ones taught to alter our behaviour?!
Do we teach daughters to be scared ( wary) of men in safe areas? Damn right we do...and our few "safe" areas are being snatched away from us as we speak.