Splitting restaurant bill

[idontwanttodothisanymore]

I’m one of those people who like to pay for just my meal. I hate splitting the bill by how many people there are.

Me and DH went out with his friend and his OH the other day.

Mine and DH meal came to: £31.57
I had pizza and water, he had chicken and one coke.
DH friend and OH meal came to: £49.78
They had ribs, lasagne, chips and 3 drinks.

Final bill was £81.75
DH friend had two vouchers for £20 off, so they both used that.

Then the OH said we could pay the rest. So we ended up paying £41.75 - £10 more than our meal!!!

I had never met her before and was completely shocked that she wanted us to split by 4 when our meal was cheaper.
She was very intimidating anyway so I didn’t want to say anything.

We were going to do 2 bills but the waiter was all flustered so we said don’t bother. Regretting it now!

I know it’s only £10 but our circumstances are so different. They both work and she has one child - he works full time and she works part time. Whereas DH works part time (and overtime if there is any) but I don’t (I had to leave my job due to medically issues), and we have 2 children.

DH doesn’t think I should be annoyed but I really am!
AIBU to be annoyed?

I don’t think I’ll ever see her again anyway, I didn’t get a good vibe from her and she’s just not my kind of person at all.

Good for you if you and your mates even things out over time. But funnily enough there is a world outside of your life and not everyone follows the pattern your group does. It does not make other people who pay the amount for what they eat tightwads. The lack of self-awareness is staggering on this thread.

If anyone thinks that only people with vast disposable income, enough to chuck £30 towards literally nothing, should eat out, and everyone else should go to McDonalds, then I’m afraid they’re a bit of a nob.

I also suspect hot didn’t realise the comment that revolted her so much came from one of her ilk.

Someone pointed out earlier how good is an emotional topic. I think that’s spot on and I suspect there’s a lot of guilt from certain posters who may feel they have unwittingly shortchanged or guilt tripped their friends.

Yes absolutely Cherry, it does seem to cause a lot of emotions in people and the word 'guilt' has come up a few times in varying forms.

Petty and grabby. Did you add on a tip? - @Whisky2014 the OP has mentioned the tip a few times. Can I just ask - and this is a genuine question, but what is it that the OP was grabbing? What was she trying to get that makes you call her grabby?

900+ posts over 9 quid

I also suspect hot didn’t realise the comment that revolted her so much came from one of her ilk

Wrong. And I have no ilk. If you'd managed to follow along you'd know that from the start I've said that it's fine to split, and its fine not to, as long as you are not inappropriate and aren't a dick about it.
Whoever said that comment was being a dick about it, I don't care what side they are on or what they said before.

There is some really twisted logic on this thread....those of us wanting to pay for what we ate and not wanting to pay towards others gluttony are called tight.......whilst people wanting their meals subsidised are generous....haha what a strange world we live in !!!

Oh, dear. Twisted indeed to view any bill splitter as a glutton. There are some really quite nasty people out there, indeed, perhaps sitting in a restaurant this weekend eyeballing their dining companions with distaste.

Btw, is the person still a "glutton" if they pay for their own meal, including larger share of tip? I'm sure the restaurants like gluttons, because there wouldn't be any restaurants if everyone had tap water and a salad (and left no tip).

There is some really twisted logic on this thread....those of us wanting to pay for what we ate and not wanting to pay towards others gluttony are called tight.......whilst people wanting their meals subsidised are generous....haha what a strange world we live in !!!

Yeah I don’t get it either, apparently these people are grabby, tightwads, tight as a ducks arse etc

Both calling all equal splitters gluttons, and calling those who wish to pay for themselves tight arses...is silly IMO.

@LadyinCement there have been posters on this thread gleefully announcing that they will have 3 courses etc due to the bill being split...so yes i call it gluttony....as ive said before if people had to pay for what they consumed they would eat and drink less.

but nice try at being totes hilair

Are you trying to sound cool, Rebecca or are you actually 12?

I find it quite apt that this thread has run to nearly 1000 posts about people arguing over a hypothetical bill. I’m glad I’m not at dinner with you lot IRL

God sake...so they used a voucher and you end up basically paying the rest of their meal.
They should have said they had a voucher so just pay our own and you pay your own.

Bloody cheek

I amazed that some of the posters on this thread have any friends willing to tolerate their company through an entire meal.

'I went out for dinner with a colleague last night. We had exactly the same except she asked for an extra topping on her pizza. She owes me 75p.'

That scrounger! The cheek of her, expecting to be subsidised in life.

Sheer gluttony....

YABU for not wanting to split the bill
YABU for knowing down to the penny how much everyone owes!
However they ABU for turning up with vouchers which they either didn't have for you or didn't share - that seems pretty rude!
And to be fair I always try and be mindful if there is a big discrepancy - ie one person not drinking or having starters etc. Although even they I wouldn't split so specifically, just do a general 'we will pay xxx more because we had starters'

Silly said: I went out for dinner with a colleague last night. We had exactly the same except she asked for an extra topping on her pizza. She owes me 75p.

A pp above quoted that and added: That scrounger! The cheek of her, expecting to be subsidised in life.

But I'm assuming that surely Silly was just joking about the 75p?

However they ABU for turning up with vouchers which they either didn't have for you or didn't share - that seems pretty rude!

They had vouchers because it was only the 2 of them going out originally.The op messed up her cinema times ,so these people invited them out.

Plus the vouchers where actually Tesco clubcard vouchers.Not vouchers out of a paper.

But I'm assuming that surely Silly was just joking about the 75p?

Yeah, I think expatinscotland was just joking about calling the friend a scrounger who expected to be subsidized.

@Whisky2014
yes I left a tip. I decided to have water because that’s what I wanted to drink!
You know some people actually enjoy water?

I can’t believe this thread is still going though..

It's pretty impressive, idontwanttodothisanymore. How many replies did you think you'd get? About 150?

You need to take it up with your DH. He offered to take care of it so he did. He also doesn't see it as a big deal.

Me and DH haven’t even talked about it anymore! This thread has spoken about it more than we have haha!!

Someone said I was having a go at him - I didn’t at all! It’s not that kind of marriage in the slightest. He knew I was annoyed, but I didn’t blame him.

I thought I’d get a few replies but not over 900 🙈

Bonkers, isn't it? I left it days ago and it's just come up on 'threads I'm on'.

Really, take no notice of posters who profess to know the situation better than you do or who know your marriage and relationship better too. They don't. Threads like this just bring some ridiculous and insecure people.

1000 posts is the limit so it will all be a distant dream soon...