To be upset friends didn't invite me out?

[Ilovecoleslaw]

Gone shopping with my two best friends today which has been planned for a while.
Everything was going fine, normal chit chat until friend 1 mentions she went out last night and that she met a guy. Later on I ask about the guy and whether she took him home to which she said 'No, friend 2 was the only one in my bed last night.' And then says whoops and looks at friend 2.
I say thanks for the invite, where friend 2 doesn't mutter a word and friend 1 says 'well you were driving today'.
Now I'm not sure whether I'm being unreasonable in being upset over it. There's never been a time that I know of where one the three of us hasnt been invited out if the others were. They both knew I was free last night but clearly didn't want me to join them, which I feel really upset about.
The day shopping hasn't felt like we've been together at all. When I've wanted to go into any shops, they've gone into separate ones together, which I'd also wanted to go into, and said for me to go into the ones I want on my own.
I've had problems with both of them in the past and this has really got to me. Problems being friend 1 telling my now partner I was raped before I told him. Friend 2 telling me to get over my miscarriage and hers was worse because hers looked like a baby and mine supposedly didn't.
I really don't have a problem with them doing things together without me, they often go for coffees together etc, but it feels strange that we all planned today together but they didn't want to invite me out last night.
Please give me some advice mumnetters :(

Take it from someone with experience! Ditch them and move on! The only aspect they’ll miss of your friendship is having a free taxi whenever they want to go out! You don’t need people like that in your life. They aren’t friends they’re users! You’re still young and the world is your oyster. You mention that you work? Why not see about going out for a coffee or a few drinks after work with one or a few of your colleagues? I actually met my Best (and only) Friend 3 and a half years ago through work. He’s 18 years older than me but we clicked straight away! We didn’t actually work together. He works as a HGV driver for the company I used to work for! I made him a coffee we got talking and we’ve been inseparable ever since! Probably even more so since I was finished from job. We do live 98 miles away from each other but I go up there two-three times a year for a few days at a time and whenever he’s over this way delivering we meet up for his break. We text each other everyday and speak on the phone a few times a week. We’ve helped each through some really tough times. Been each other’s shoulder to cry on and just been there for each other in general and tbh the older I’ve got I’d much rather just have this incredibly kind amazing guy in my life than 3 or 4 friends that use me!

Thanks Radley - years of MNetting have taught me well!!

You don't need friends like that. I was in a similar situation during the 6 weeks holidays just gone. I have a group of friends but me & 2 others were particularly close, had a few bumps in the road with friend 1. They spent over 2 weeks together, day in day out & didn't think to even acknowledge me at any time. I live further away from both (they live closer together) and even when they went shopping for the day, which is less than a mile from my home, they didn't invite me. When I asked them about it, I didn't know at this point they'd spent all this time together, they brushed it off as random days out & all unplanned. Even had a night out, unplanned also 🤔 Heard that word so many times during all of it. After finding out everything, I called bullshit & told them is was inconsiderate & thoughtless seen as we were meant to be friends. I had it out with them & they apologised but said that they didn't think to invite me along & they're sorry they hurt me but will not apologise for putting their own happiness first. Needless to say, we are not friends anymore. I've kept it civil as our children are at the same school but that friendship is over. Hope you find some new friends that don't take you for granted & won't invite you out when it's at their convenience.

You really don't need friends like this, there are many many potential friends out there that will not treat you this way! So please go home and let them walk back. They are using you for sure.

Sorry op but who needs enemies when you have friends like that.

Did you make them walk?

It seems they've used you for a lift today it's convenient to them as u weren't drinking last night, they've left u out had you hanging around and didn't take your feelings into consideration not once! There prob busy gossiping about last night while your sat in the car waiting 🙄
These are not friends it seems you've prob outgrown them
Believe no friends is better than friends like these
Let them have their fun and do as they please but please don't be took the piss out of!
Iv lost many friends over the years and I can tell you there is not a single friend I'd want back.
X x

If she was a real friend she'd be very apologetic, not telling you that it was your fault.

Sorry.