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To be upset friends didn't invite me out?

182 replies

Ilovecoleslaw · 04/11/2017 17:41

Gone shopping with my two best friends today which has been planned for a while.
Everything was going fine, normal chit chat until friend 1 mentions she went out last night and that she met a guy. Later on I ask about the guy and whether she took him home to which she said 'No, friend 2 was the only one in my bed last night.' And then says whoops and looks at friend 2.
I say thanks for the invite, where friend 2 doesn't mutter a word and friend 1 says 'well you were driving today'.
Now I'm not sure whether I'm being unreasonable in being upset over it. There's never been a time that I know of where one the three of us hasnt been invited out if the others were. They both knew I was free last night but clearly didn't want me to join them, which I feel really upset about.
The day shopping hasn't felt like we've been together at all. When I've wanted to go into any shops, they've gone into separate ones together, which I'd also wanted to go into, and said for me to go into the ones I want on my own.
I've had problems with both of them in the past and this has really got to me. Problems being friend 1 telling my now partner I was raped before I told him. Friend 2 telling me to get over my miscarriage and hers was worse because hers looked like a baby and mine supposedly didn't.
I really don't have a problem with them doing things together without me, they often go for coffees together etc, but it feels strange that we all planned today together but they didn't want to invite me out last night.
Please give me some advice mumnetters :(

OP posts:
MadMags · 04/11/2017 18:37

Jesus!

Go home. These women aren't your friends. You can find new, decent friends, OP!

WhatchaMaCalllit · 04/11/2017 18:38

OP - I don't have any friends and to be honest, if I were you, I'd prefer to stay that way than be the glorified taxi driver to these two bitches.

No one miscarriage is worse than another. They are all awful. To have something like whatever your 'friend' said to you thrown back in your face.
As for the other one who divulged a deep personal secret to your partner before you had an opportunity to sit down and explain.

I really do hope you left the carpark when someone else posted above to leave. They don't deserve your friendship. They are not nice people to be around and sap you of your positivity.

Betsy86 · 04/11/2017 18:40

Ps sorry for typos Blush

BMW6 · 04/11/2017 18:43

They are only with you for the lifts OP. Seriously.
Ditch them and find some real friends.

Angrybird345 · 04/11/2017 18:44

Go home! They’re not friends. Sorry.

DeathByMascara · 04/11/2017 18:44

You need to bin them off. Immediately. Bloody users! I’m so angry on your behalf!

BMW6 · 04/11/2017 18:45

Actually no friends at all would be preferable to being with people who only want to use you.

fia101 · 04/11/2017 18:50

Either they’re 13 years old or in a relationship.

Aeroflotgirl · 04/11/2017 18:53

Sorry they don't sound like good friends tbh, as they say 2 is company, and three is a crowd. It seems like they are pushing you out and don't really want you around. I would distance myself from them.

Ohmyfuck · 04/11/2017 18:54

Did you drive off? I really hope so. X

luckyDuvet · 04/11/2017 18:55

They're being v mean OP.

Flupi · 04/11/2017 18:57

I think you'll be better off with new friends. 💐

Aeroflotgirl · 04/11/2017 19:02

Just leave, they are rude and horribal.

Thinkingofausername1 · 04/11/2017 19:03

I get this all the time. Refuse my invites for coffee; but splashing all over Facebook who they are with in the holidays and weekend.
I’ve unfriended them all, even if it’s not meant to insult me, I’ve done it for my sanity.
I’d put some distance in with these too because it sounds as though, you’ve been used for the lift.

Bratsandtwats · 04/11/2017 19:04

Give them a 10 minute warning and then leave. With or without them.

elQuintoConyo · 04/11/2017 19:05

Bloody hell!

They aren't friends. They aren't.

If you don't feel like you can drive off without them, send a text/whatsapp with a 10 minute warning that you will be leaving. Drive home with music of your choice and refuse to change it/turn it down. A quick 'bye, see ya' when you drop them off.

Then block on fb and phone. Block. Block. Block.

Friendships are fluid, some last longer than others. It is ok that you have outgrown them. Head up, move on with your life without them dragging you down. Friends should make our lives lighter.

Flowers
DamsonGin · 04/11/2017 19:05

I'm sorry, they sound like a right pair of shits.

Hauntedlobster · 04/11/2017 19:06

Sign up for meet up

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 04/11/2017 19:07

They sound vile. Honestly don’t bother with them anymore.

UrsulaPandress · 04/11/2017 19:08

Hope you dumped them.

Aeroflotgirl · 04/11/2017 19:11

They used you for a lift, op.

ColinCreevy · 04/11/2017 19:11

I hope you left them but I don't suppose you did, it sounds like they're left your self esteem on the floor and you feel like you need their friendship. You don't. They aren't friends.
Shake them off and move forward. You're better off with no friends than "friends" like that.

Mittens1969 · 04/11/2017 19:12

They sound awful, sorry, OP.

I’ve been there, taken advantage because of having a car, when I was young and single. Once I stopped being a mug I felt much better.

You will find other friends, believe me. If you stop spending time with these 2 piss takers women then you will have time to get to know people who genuinely want to be your friends. Flowers

ChasedByBees · 04/11/2017 19:15

They're not your friends and I hope you didn't wait too long OP.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 04/11/2017 19:17

Oh please tell us you left them there!

They don't deserve you waiting on them.

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