To expect payment for ticket .............

[Guardsman18]

Help needed please!
Was very close to friend for years. She's rubbish with money but was good at spending mine! We don't see each other so much, but still chat and I went to her birthday bash a few weeks ago.

It took me a while, but the penny finally dropped and I no longer 'lend' her money. (Think 'loan' for £1000 seven years ago and have only had £200 ish back).

There is a band that we have always wanted to see - I know I sound about 10!), so we agreed that I would get the tickets on my card and she would reimburse me after Glastonbury - very expensive!

Here's the thing - tomorrow is the day we go and I think (know?) that she won't have the money.

WIBU to just not go with her? Am meant to be picking her up at 12 pm.

Thank you Sarah!

How did she give me the money if the cash point didn't work?! First one didn't so I drove to another one. That wouldn't work then she made a phone call and then it did work. Why on earth would I make that up?!

It can work that quickly. My daughter needed money from the cash point I transferred some to her account while we were talking on the phone about it and within minutes she had taken it out. Bank transfers can be almost instantaneously.

Did you get the £20 op?

Not saying you made it up, Guardsman.
I'm saying the cashpoint only "didn't work" because your friend had no money in her account, as she was expecting you to pay for everything.

I dare say you're right Mxyz, we'll never know, but because I was on here asking for advice on Friday and Saturday am, I just kept cool and drove to another machine (eat a sandwich!) and waited until the money was in my sticky little fingers!

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And sorry - I did misunderstand. I must be getting touchy!

You'll be delighted to know Corbyns that I haven't as yet! I'm probably expected to go and get it, but think it should be brought to me.

Will keep you posted though

Did she not reply when you rung her?
Maybe you need to take a bit of the attitude you have on here towards people offering well intentioned advice and dish it out to the person who's taking the piss out of you!

Indeed! Apologies, I just thought I was making light of things now having asked and taken the advice for which I'm really grateful.

Also many thank you's

Oh sorry. My misreading there

Why on earth is she spending £££, going to multiple concerts, when she owes you £800? Not only that, but you would appear to condone such spending, by being her companion on these trips.

You have done well to start being more insistent that she pays for stuff up front, BUT... can't you see, that you shouldn't be agreeing to go to any concerts with her, until she has repaid your £800? Because, going to concerts is expensive and a treat...and you don't treat yourself to non essentials when you owe someone £800.

Had she not gone to Glastonbury or Jay Kay, she could have probably repaid you £300 of her debt. Goodness knows what else she is spending on.

Tell her you need your £800 back, as Christmas is coming up and you are short.

Gah, I wasnt sure you'd get the £20 back. I don't think you can wait for her, you need to force it OP!

Guardsman, I think some people have nothing to add and ren’t in the mood to supportive so they just nit-pick and nag. Ignore.

You have done really well. I hope you get all the money back, but I also think that if you do, you could easily lose a friend. Whether that matters to you now only you can know and it’s not our business. Go for the 20, but the 800 may well push her further than she’s prepared to go. Not suggesting you shouldn’t at least try, but just a warning.

Anyway, good luck with your new mug-free life!