To expect payment for ticket .............

[Guardsman18]

Help needed please!
Was very close to friend for years. She's rubbish with money but was good at spending mine! We don't see each other so much, but still chat and I went to her birthday bash a few weeks ago.

It took me a while, but the penny finally dropped and I no longer 'lend' her money. (Think 'loan' for £1000 seven years ago and have only had £200 ish back).

There is a band that we have always wanted to see - I know I sound about 10!), so we agreed that I would get the tickets on my card and she would reimburse me after Glastonbury - very expensive!

Here's the thing - tomorrow is the day we go and I think (know?) that she won't have the money.

WIBU to just not go with her? Am meant to be picking her up at 12 pm.

Lola

Your not a very good story teller are you. I expected a few more fireworks which would have made for a better read. Oh well

There's a phrase up here that sums this post up nicely.

"Thick as mince"

Well done OP.. Your a new woman

Proud of you OP. Great updates. Love you've found your sassy self through this weekend 💃💪👸 Don't lose it again. If you feel yourself slipping come back and we shall kick you back into shape.

Seconded, Piffle, still that’s MN these days [grin)

OP. I think you sound like a lovely person. I really hope your friend realises this and stops taking the mickey. Glad you have got some strength from this thread. Ignore some of the harsher comments. Stay as lovely as you seem but perhaps don't be afraid to say NO!

Wishing you all the best.

X

u gotlost-why not phone her to see where she was

Fantastic! I’m so happy to hear back from you and that you stuck to your guns. This is the start of a brand new assertive, but still lovely, you!

Well done OP! I just rtft and was holding my breath til I knew how it turned out.

dexter0, you are seriously missing several points.
Try another thread.

That's great news OP! Glad you had a good time and got your money. Keep being assertive!

Glad to be proved wrong well done op.

So you've lent her another 20 quid? How is that a victory? She already owes you near a grand. But you're confident you'll get this back. As you were with the rest I suppose?
You seriously need to take a look at this friendship op. If you're celebrating being taken for less of a mug than you expected as a success it's really not on.

Oh OP! She’s taking the piss still

Yes - she owes me £20. Difference is she knows it and I will ask for it.

I don’t understand what this means. Does she not know she owes you £800?

OP, please speak to her about ALL the money she owes you.

She doesn't owe you £20, she owes you £820.

She doesn't know the difference. She paid the bare minimum to get herself cheaply to the gig. Meanwhile your £800 sits in her account earning interest whilst you are out of pocket for all that plus the tickets.

I know I am labouring it. It may well be that you are prepared to write off the £800. But, if you really want a new approach you need to start as you mean to go on. Don't listen to her sob stories. Don't lend her the money. Don't answer late night calls, then go to pay middle of the night taxis. Then drive her home to her front door. My 20 yr old DD wouldn't take the piss like this. I wouldn't let her.

All she knows is she has had an £820 loan off you, and no doubt more freeloading. Not to be repaid. And you drive her around. She may be great fun but she is playing you for a fool. You may as well give her a magic marker to write MUG across your forehead.

Well done OP, I suspect you lent her the £20 so she wasn't lost in a different place. No harm in that. Just make sure u get the money back. I'm assuming you've wrote off the £800? X

I think you’re facilitating her attitude that it’s ok not to pay you back soon - or ever. She owes you £800. Why would you be encouraging her to spend money going to a concert before she’s cleared such a massive debt to you?

You’re giving her a very loud and clear message that the £800 isn’t important- that it’s ok to spend money on a concert, hotel etc rather than put the money towards clearing that debt. No wonder she’s dragging her heels.

Glad you enjoyed it.

I hope that no one would leave someone stranded in a place they don’t know without being able to get home.

Thank you Cupo. I wasn't going to defend myself anymore on this thread. The posters who have been helpful, I've thanked and yes, I hope that whatever has happened in the past, I never become the person who would leave someone stranded at 3 am

Good for you OP.