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To expect payment for ticket .............

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Guardsman18 · 03/11/2017 13:08

Help needed please!
Was very close to friend for years. She's rubbish with money but was good at spending mine! We don't see each other so much, but still chat and I went to her birthday bash a few weeks ago.

It took me a while, but the penny finally dropped and I no longer 'lend' her money. (Think 'loan' for £1000 seven years ago and have only had £200 ish back).

There is a band that we have always wanted to see - I know I sound about 10!), so we agreed that I would get the tickets on my card and she would reimburse me after Glastonbury - very expensive!

Here's the thing - tomorrow is the day we go and I think (know?) that she won't have the money.

WIBU to just not go with her? Am meant to be picking her up at 12 pm.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 04/11/2017 12:11

Really, the OP is making this much more complicated than it needs to be.
Ring her, clarify plans. If no money is forthcoming, go on your own.

Honestly, if this is the way you usually let people walk all over you, I'm not surprised that you attract cheeky fuckers

DaemonPantalaemon · 04/11/2017 12:12

Is it you that you really have no other friends OP, so that you basically have to pay someone to be your friend? Because this is what you are doing.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 04/11/2017 12:15

Even more confused now ... you mentioned that you were going to text her at 11 to check on the money and then pick her up at 12

Has all that gone by the board now?

streetlife70s · 04/11/2017 12:15

God there really are some horrible people on this thread. You sound lovely OP. It’s not your fault some people are dicks and don’t appreciate a good mate. They need to change, not you.
Anyway, any news? Tick tick tick tick....Grin

AlexanderHamilton · 04/11/2017 12:17

OP - Arena Birmingham is the one in the city centre so go to New Street Station. I'd walk it but I used to work there so you may find a taxi easier.

FrancisCrawford · 04/11/2017 12:17

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searose · 04/11/2017 12:17

Hope you have a brilliant time!

JustDanceAddict · 04/11/2017 12:20

She needs to pay you if you said it was a loan. I have paid for a friend’s v expensive concert ticket but I told her it was a gift (our financial situations are very different and I really wanted her to come with).

JonSnowsWhore · 04/11/2017 12:20

Yeah but she can’t just not contact her & then not show up. Just on the very off chance that she has got the money together, it’ll all come down on OP & she’ll look the bitch

Nannyplumbrocks · 04/11/2017 12:35

Regardless of what happens today what about the £800??? I wouldnt let that go

SandyDenny · 04/11/2017 12:39

I'm a bit confused now, I might be getting the wrong vibes but it sounds like the OP is going to go with her even without the money.

Hope I'm wrong, having to skim read to keep up

Geepee71 · 04/11/2017 12:42

Hope you're on the train ready for fab adventure/night out!

ChocolateWombat · 04/11/2017 12:43

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Wanderlust1984 · 04/11/2017 12:50

Some fucking horrible comments on this thread, what the hell? OP ignore the undeserved twatish comments and I hope you have a fabulous time

InspMorse · 04/11/2017 12:53

chocolate I wondered this too. I don't understand the haircut bit. Also, if you live literally minutes from this person's house, why are you sitting wondering what's going on? Knock on her door or phone her.

Tanfastic · 04/11/2017 12:54

Any decent friend would have text back and said, no prob, I have all the funds and I'm good to go, don't worry etc,. Etc.

Your "friend" hasn't.

She's mugging you off op!

You are moving the goalposts all the time to accommodate her shittyness and I expect because you've done so in the past she expects it.

You need to grow a pair and tell her straight. Stop fanning around.

Tanfastic · 04/11/2017 12:54

Fannying around. Bloody predictive text Blush

ChocolateWombat · 04/11/2017 12:57

Well if it is a wind up, the OP can be very pleased with how many people have joined the thread and the level of support and interest she has generated. Will be having a laugh and dreaming up more haircuts and things to string it out even further.

Appuskidu · 04/11/2017 13:00

and to be taking action based on them......but it's just a few details and drip feeding to explain away inconsistencies such as living 30 secs from train station and from friend but driving round to hers

The driving/train is the weirdest thing about all of this. If OP and the friend both live 30 seconds from the train station and from each other-I just don't get why OP (who doesn't like driving) would agree to drive to the middle of Birmingham on a Saturday.

People have replied saying the friend said she couldn't afford the train ticket so it's all perfectly reasonable that the OP would drive but I still really don't get it.

Original poster
Guardsman18 · 04/11/2017 13:02

Why the negativity?! Hair is good thanks - I hope Jay notices me!

Nobody has moved goalposts. I am going when I want to. Remember 12 was too early for me. I'm ready to go. If she's coming with money, great, if not I'm going on my own - when I want to which will be more like 2/2.30pm (if that's ok!)

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fudgyfudgyfudgefudge · 04/11/2017 13:04

OP to clarify, she was expecting you round at 12pm, you've decided to leave and 2/2.30pm and she hasn't made any contact with you yet to ask where you are?

SandyDenny · 04/11/2017 13:06

I'd imagine that the petrol shared between 2 people is probably less than 2 train tickets but for one person maybe there's not much cost difference

OuaisMaisBon · 04/11/2017 13:08

SandyDenny, from what the OP has written about her friend's past performance, I'd imagine the friend wanted the OP to drive so she could get away without having to contribute anything to the petrol costs.

streetlife70s · 04/11/2017 13:08

So what has been arranged with your friend now? Is she expecting you? I’m a bit lost. What was the 12pm deadline (sorry)

Tanfastic · 04/11/2017 13:09

Has she confirmed by text she's coming with all the money?

If not are you saying you will wait till you see her to have that conversation? Or will you wait till you get to the restaurant and the bill comes or the hotel when she announces her daughter hasn't come up trumps?

I don't get why she has seemingly text you more than once over the last 24 hours but nothing seems properly clarified.

I wouldn't wait op, I'd just text her and say, you've not clarified the money issue, if you can't confirm in the next half hour you have your share and won't need to borrow off me then I'll be going alone.

You don't have to feel guilty.