To expect payment for ticket .............

[Guardsman18]

Help needed please!
Was very close to friend for years. She's rubbish with money but was good at spending mine! We don't see each other so much, but still chat and I went to her birthday bash a few weeks ago.

It took me a while, but the penny finally dropped and I no longer 'lend' her money. (Think 'loan' for £1000 seven years ago and have only had £200 ish back).

There is a band that we have always wanted to see - I know I sound about 10!), so we agreed that I would get the tickets on my card and she would reimburse me after Glastonbury - very expensive!

Here's the thing - tomorrow is the day we go and I think (know?) that she won't have the money.

WIBU to just not go with her? Am meant to be picking her up at 12 pm.

If she has an iPhone /iPad and she has her notifications set you can read messages that way - so it is totally possible she has seen message but hasn’t “read” it via the app.
My money will be on a message at the very last minute saying only just read the message it’s too late to get to cash point I’ll pay you for tickets but you will have to sub me the hotel/petrol/food.
Incidentally logically the “she can’t afford to pay up front for train/bus so I have to drive” train of thought completely ignores the fact that the Op “pays upfront” to run her car via the original cost price insurance tax wear and tear and running costs which are completely ignored when all she (might) hand over is petrol and she might justify not doing that on the basis the OP is going anyway so her sitting in the car costs the OP nothing.
Book your train and sell the ticket when you get there and stop being this spongers private bank.
Also think about doing something aboutvgetting your £800 back too

I am just agog! Have a fab time!!

A few years ago, I went to a concert alone. Actually, my sister was there also as a volunteer steward, so wasn,t with me for the duration of the concert. I had a great time, and felt like a teenager (i was in my 30’s, married, 2dc). Enjoy!

This is dead exciting!

I reckon her daughter hasn’t even agreed to lend her the money. She will have seen the FB message pop up on her screen but has chosen not to open it so you can see It has been read.

I'd still go. Text her beforehand and ask her for the money ready, so that you can use it for spends whilst you're there. Have a lovely time!

I think you may be right. I am going to look at train times as I type.

After all the advice I've had on here I have no qualms about just going this afternoon. I will wait for the 12 pm deadline - I was never going to go any earlier anyway. At least she will have had the chance to get back to me.

Quite excited now!

She sounds an exhausting friend!

She is Nap!

If she ends up not going, make sure you put on FB what an amazing time you had!

I think you'll have a great time op just doing your own thing.

If you sell the ticket don't tell her. Tell her she still needs to give you the money. That was the deal and she taking the piss.

It's gone 10.
Ring her!

You just want me to report a slanging match when I come off the phone!

I hope you have a lovely time

How can you 'make' someone book an hotel?!

If that is a serious question, I actually can see why you have got into the pickle you are in whereby someone owes you £800 and is also leaving you dangling over tonight's concert.

You just want me to report a slanging match when I come off the phone!

quick, run, we have been found out!
:o

Have a great time later OP :D

My money will be on a message at the very last minute saying only just read the message it’s too late to get to cash point I’ll pay you for tickets but you will have to sub me the hotel/petrol/food

Ditto

TBH my real concern here is that, if she doesn't get to go, this sponger will consider herself hard done by and the friendship probably over ... which doesn't matter in itself, except that it'll make getting the £800 back even harder

Appu - I'm glad that's cleared up for you!

Wow she sounds awful.

Hope you enjoy yourself at the concert.

Thanks for your concern. It is a hard one - she'll be pissed off whatever today. Don't think I was ever going to see the £800 anyway.

I'm so glad you are going regardless of her. I go to gigs all the time on my own, some I'm just in my own bubble other times I make loads of gig buddies. I love it (and not many people I know like my favorite bands so is drag them and their unenthusiastic faces or go alone and get right in amongst it)

I too like the train travel, listen to music, coke and a twirl (my routine lol) and just enjoy being.

Have a great time!

Don't think I was ever going to see the £800 anyway

Sadly I think you're probably right, but at least you're avoiding throwing any more at her

I couldn't be bothered with messages about something like this, I'd have either rung her a few days ago to discuss or gone to see her. It's so easy to palm someone off with bullshit when you can't see or hear them.

Good luck OP I hope you enjoy the gig.

So what happens at 12, will you just go? Or are you contacting her before hand to see if she’s got the money? I’m betting on her not having it as well 😬