To expect payment for ticket .............

[Guardsman18]

Help needed please!
Was very close to friend for years. She's rubbish with money but was good at spending mine! We don't see each other so much, but still chat and I went to her birthday bash a few weeks ago.

It took me a while, but the penny finally dropped and I no longer 'lend' her money. (Think 'loan' for £1000 seven years ago and have only had £200 ish back).

There is a band that we have always wanted to see - I know I sound about 10!), so we agreed that I would get the tickets on my card and she would reimburse me after Glastonbury - very expensive!

Here's the thing - tomorrow is the day we go and I think (know?) that she won't have the money.

WIBU to just not go with her? Am meant to be picking her up at 12 pm.

So what do you plan to do now OP?

She obviously wasn’t planning to give you the money op if the day before you are due to go she’s saying she’ll have to try and borrow it. Clearly she was planning on turning up without it.

What a shame you didn’t suggest that as you were getting the tickets, she should book the hotel (which would mean her giving card details and having to pay even if she didn’t turn up).

Stay strong. ✊

You can't win in this situation. I wouldn't chase her any more, just do your own thing. I'd bet money that she doesn't message you until AFTER the concert

How can you 'make' someone book an hotel?!

Just out of curiosity OP - why don’t you phone her?

One thing in my favour - by saying I'd pick her up at 12 pm, I can wait a while for her to contact me, then if/when she does/doesn't off I pop on the train with my book. Voila!

@Love. It's a bit early atm and to be honest I don't see why I should. I think by keeping on at her, it's as if I'm begging her to come with me. If she has the cash by 12 pm great, if not I'll go alone on the train

I can't believe the brass neck on your friend. And I can't wait to see what happens later. Good for you op for standing up for yourself this time

You're totally leaving this all up to HER to choose what YOU are doing. She isn't being a friend. A friend wouldn't leave you hanging like this

How can you 'make' someone book an hotel?!

Seriously?! You say, “How about I get the tickets and you book the hotel”?

No reasonable person would say no. It’s a fair division of labour and means you’re BOTH committing towards the overall cost.

Obviously you can’t make her do that, but if she refused then most people would see that as a warning sign and not go ahead with arrangements.

CF indeed!
Take it you’ve still not heard back

No debbs, I'm not. Nothing has changed for me has it? I'm going anyway

How can you 'make' someone book an hotel?!

she made you do it....?

Have you told her to meet you at the station? That the fare is £x ? Don't pick her up in your car otherwise you will get railroaded into driving.

Early? I take it the friend doesn’t have kids then 😂

I did mean last night but I’m not criticising - your friend is in the wrong here.

I’m surprised your not more worked up about it, I’d be trying to peel myself off the ceiling with anxiety! 😬

Yes you are going regardless but you are also waiting to see if she will join you.

Rather than just tell her not to worry any more, that you sold her ticket

Not young ones, no. I would be anxious, but I have you lovely lot helping!

Have a terrific time with or without her OP - enjoy lovely Birmingham!

a) I haven't sold the ticket and b) she may have the cash by midday.

I'm not waiting for anything, just having a cup of tea - honest!

Enjoy the concert x

Hope she turns up with the money and you have a lovely time (or you have a lovely time on your own).

Fingers crossed she comes up with the money.

My bet is you'll be going on your own but will sell the ticket outside.

Good luck on your solo adventure @Guardsman18

If it wasn’t for promising to take my little one to a firework display this evening, I’d ask to buy your ticket at full cost, join you, and buy you a drink as well.

Sell it outside the venue, and have a great time!