To wonder where the fuck my face went????

[PeapodBurgundy]

Had the first opportunity/occasion to put on a proper face of make up since I had DS. Had a leisurely shower, a face mask, sat down with a small amount of actual time to myself, excited to feel like Peapod again rather than a washed out Mammy. I applied my usual evening 'face', which used to look nice I think yet I somehow looked like a clown. I've aged soooo badly!! My face has sagged and is certainly not where I left it last time I paid it proper attention. What the hell gravity? I didn't sign up for this shit!

Anyone else care to share the point they realised they were no longer youthful? Or more importantly, tips to give the illusion that my face is still on the front of my head rather than dangling below my jaw?

Thanks all for the information about the eyelash extensions.

It's ok I will live with my little spider webs for the foreseeable!

I don't to high maintenance, but will do the necessary. No one will notice if I have fluttering eyelashes at this stage of my life, but they might notice if they fall into my soup on a naice date night (rare), just the same. LOL

You have all heightened my spirits tonight. All for one, and one for all.

You know that old saying that after 40 you have to choose whether you prefer to look younger ‘coming or going’? Meaning if you carry a bit of fat, your face will be less wrinkled/gaunt but your bum will be chubby. And vice versa, a toned bum means not enough fat for your face.

Somehow I’ve managed to be saggy and wrinkled at both ends simultaneously.

I mainly notice it in (rare) photos, I actually like myself in my mirror. It’s like 2 different people, but neither is the one I was pre-kid (or pre 40, I guess I’ll never know which was the culprit).

Clinique actually works and losing alot of weight normally gets rid off double chins but just realise being sexy doesn't have to mean looking perfect

I think you can tell women over 40, as the bottom of their faces succumbs to gravity, unless they're very lucky.

One top tip from a former boss of mine: put a mirror on the table. Lean over the mirror. If your jowls fall forward, this is what your other half sees when you go on top. Time to either throw your head back in ecstasy or start doing the reverse cowgirl...

(Boss was female.)

Somehow I’ve managed to be saggy and wrinkled at both ends simultaneously.

Well that's just rude. And it should be illegal.

I'm pondering botox for the big frown line between my eyebrows, and one day I might even do something about my ever-present, at any weight, double chin thingy.

Go to somewhere like Debenhams, John Lewis and book a free make over at one of the make up counters. You will get tips that way for free. They can't force you to buy any of there products though toy may want too. You usually get a discount vouchers. Some do charge a nominal amount and take it off any products you buy

Thanks for the tips itsonky and nomoretears 👍🏼

I've put no effort whatsoever into my appearance, washing my hair is an acheivement some days - glad it’s not just me, I don’t aspire to having any kind of beauty regime but more than 2 or 3 showers a week would be nice!! 🙄

Quickly putting an extra layer of Pertect and Perfect, turned 40 on Saturday, it’s happening to me!!!!!! Under eye bags!!!!!!!!!!!!

Botox. You look awake and rested. Not too much though.

I'm late 40s and not overly concerned yet despite my greying hair (since late 20s), eye wrinkles (I don't mind my laugh lines, at least they're not frown lines), and my increasingly heavy upper eyelids. But my god, my hands! If I could go back in time I'd tell my younger self that although tanned hands look nice FFS put sun block on them. Now they're crepey and freckled and I find myself looking at them disappointedly numerous times a day

I now stay resolutely upright when, ahem, I am ‘on top’. My husband doesn't need to see that when I lean over to kiss him
I know exactly the look you mean Maid, and I'm very careful on top for that reason too!

Huh, unless your DH is half your age I doubt they look like an Adonis in bed either and should be grateful for what they've got IMO

Yes!! So true about the hands.

I think the thing is when your preggers the hormones make you look more youthful, when they go back to normal though there is a price to pay!!

When a bitch collegue repeatedly said I can't believe you are younger than me, are you really ? No your messing about. I'm not im 6 years younger than you and bloody look it. She really has a magic mirror that makes her look younger, thinner and generally much more attractive than the rest of us think.
A smile helps, honestly no one would look at lines whrn you look happy.
A mac lesson for 1.5 hours is £50 and you get that much to spend with them afterwards.

I look nostalgically at polo necks, I'm put off wearing them now because it's not a good look with jowls dangling over

Don't worry, the hot flushes will put you right off polo necks

Warning: Daily Mail link! The article is about women who feel more confident in their 50's and 60;s- they do all look pretty good, it has to be said.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5040925/Ugly-ducklings-silver-swans.html

Yes I do have a theory that it all settles down in your late 50's and 60's. So you see all these dramatic changes in your 40's which are quite hard to deal with and every day there seems to be new wrinkles popping up! Then you stay the same from late 50's onwards, maybe another decline when you hit 70.
I swear my mum had looked the same for the last 10 years and she's 66.

If I was in my 40s I'd live with it, I'm not even in my 30s yet

@PeapodBurgundy I feel you, I only turned 30 in August. It’s definitely tiredness.

@janejeffer can't you just tuck jowls inside a polo neck? This whole thread makes me want to weep.

I tried an experiment once, when I added 10 years to my age so that people could say "You look so young for your age!" Nobody did. Christ, that was depressing.

A silk pillowcase is really good to prevent waking up with pillow wrinkles on face and I find my hair is less messed up too.

Also, I've discovered Beauty Pie for makeup and skincare, £10 a month and then buy everything at cost price. I used to go to SpaceNK but can't afford it now.

Delatron: So you see all these dramatic changes in your 40's which are quite hard to deal with and every day there seems to be new wrinkles popping up! Then you stay the same from late 50's onwards, maybe another decline when you hit 70

I reckon menopause has a lot to answer for. It is a cliff face what the withdrawal of hormones does to your looks.

I do wonder if it starts to be beneficial to carry a bit more weight at this age- the thinner you are the more haggard you can look? (she tells herself to make herself feel better for needing to lose a stone!)