To wonder where the fuck my face went????

[PeapodBurgundy]

Had the first opportunity/occasion to put on a proper face of make up since I had DS. Had a leisurely shower, a face mask, sat down with a small amount of actual time to myself, excited to feel like Peapod again rather than a washed out Mammy. I applied my usual evening 'face', which used to look nice I think yet I somehow looked like a clown. I've aged soooo badly!! My face has sagged and is certainly not where I left it last time I paid it proper attention. What the hell gravity? I didn't sign up for this shit!

Anyone else care to share the point they realised they were no longer youthful? Or more importantly, tips to give the illusion that my face is still on the front of my head rather than dangling below my jaw?

Do none of you feel that you've matured, and that your face shows the journey you've had in life? When I hit 50, I had no more child based responsibilities, oh yes they were my kids but they were adults and could fend (for the most part) for themselves, they've were out leading their own lives. I had done my job and it was MY TIME, now ok I don't look 25 any more, I'm certainly not a size 10 but I get up in the morning, shower, do my hair, apply my make up and TBH I don't look half bad. My husband loves me just as much as he did years ago, my kids are happy and yes I have a few wrinkles, I have some dark circles and my jaw isn't as tight as it used to be, but I'm me and you all are fantastic women doing a fantastic job whether it's as a SAHM or juggling job and family..... Well done us!!!!

Nomoretears56

Lovely post.

How's hubby doing in the jowl department lol.

His jaw isn't as tight as it used to be either cathyclown and he's useless at growing a beard, we'll grow old together hopefully, by the time we're really old I'll probably have a better beard than him

Nomoretears56

You made me smile there!

I have the beard thing myself already, but will cope, it is what happens! All the best.

@littlechocola I hope to god they haven't stopped doing it, will try to attach a photo, possible they could have renamed it? Also it was a mumsnet recommends beauty product a few months ago, might be able to find a link that way?

cathyclown

All the best to you too.

What I hate is that when I put makeup on these days it just makes me look like an older, more haggard version of myself. This happened three or four years before DS —so I can’t blame him— who’s not yet 1 and I’m 39. In the good old days, I’d slap some makeup on willy nilly on a Saturday night and it would enhance my features but now it seems to accentuate all the bad bits I’ve totally lost my mojo and my motto is why bother cos you can’t polish a turd!

Is there a way of putting one’s makeup on as one gets older?? I’d love to know

Have 2 lines above nose, btwn eyebrows; named ds and dd.

Jaws?? Breasts! Nips under my armpits!

I don't have a sagging jaw but my under eyes area is sinking in. I asked about that on here a while back and I think the consensus was there is nothing to be done for it. It's an odd look and even though I've been sporting it for a couple of years now it never fails to catch me by surprise in the mirror.

TwoDogs9
Less is more, lighter colours and more natural makeup.

Abbylee
Bravissimo is your friend, I went in wearing 38C and came out 36G, it was amazing how different it made me feel and a decent well fitting bra really makes you hold yourself differently.

TwoDogs9
See my tips at 20.12
It works for me. Heavy make up is not good for older.

All of this. Sagging. Pasty faced. Skin like raw dough.
Horrid.

It’s the lack of sleep and care for yourself. My ds is 15months and I think I look awful. So tired, skin isn’t good (used to be great) and I’ve aged about 5 years in 15months.
A good highlighter helps a bit also (and I know it’s terrible for your skin) but a suntan helps.

This thread has given me a laugh. I look nostalgically at polo necks, I'm put off wearing them now because it's not a good look with jowls dangling over

Cathyclown

As no-one has come back to you on the eyelash thing, I'll let you have the little bit of info I have.
I have not had them but a friend had them for a holiday and they looked fabulous.
I'm tempted to try them
They cost her about twenty-odd pounds, local beautician in Greater Manchester (other areas could be more) and I think it's up to you when you "top them up" but it dosnt cost fortunes.
Worth a try for over Christmas, might do it myself.

Tried the 60 second RIO couldn't get on with it, fed up of havibg to keep resetting it
Have looked at the faradic ones, would like to know if they work any better?

My five month old DD has started grabbing the folds of my neck recently. I didn’t have them a year ago sob

I don't look the same in photos anymore it takes a few photos shots to get a decent photo nowadays. I don't really have wrinkles but I have lost the youthfulness I had and under poor light I can see bags under my eyes. I just look more tired now. I am nearly 39 and it is just now I am starting to see the signs of ageing.

Nomoretears That's a lovely perspective on it. In fairness, looking like shit on a stick doesn't bother me on a day to day basis, because I've put no effort whatsoever into my appearance, washing my hair is an acheivement some days (thank goodness for dry shampoo!). It was more the shock and disappointment that I tried to look nice, and couldn't.

Perhaps you're a little dehydrated. Drink water and smile a lot .

I LOVE this thread! I'm 40, heavily pregnant, have 2 DC under 5 one of them wakes me 3 times a night. Also have a part time job. I'm fookin knackered and look like shite. I discovered the other day that I permanently raise my eyebrows, must be decades of conditioning myself, I dropped them down and relaxed my face in the mirror the other day and nearly fell over! I look like a proper old grumpy/angry, evil antique crank! What a shock! I'm now using boots BB cream everyday, a lightweight powder foundation that just covers me up with a big brush, Laura mercier smudgy eye liner, mascara and lip gloss/tinted Vaseline type thing. It sounds a lot but takes 5 mins to do and seems to hold my eyebrows in place which is pretty bloody important after what I saw in the mirror! However, none of it disguises my jowls. Sexy!

dudsville I don't have a sagging jaw but my under eyes area is sinking in. I asked about that on here a while back and I think the consensus was there is nothing to be done for it. It's an odd look and even though I've been sporting it for a couple of years now it never fails to catch me by surprise in the mirror.

Yes, this is totally me and how I feel when I suddenly see myself under poor lighting in a mirror! Sunken under eye area developing.

O yeah.....and I quit shampoo and my hair looks brilliant (I was pretty shocked) but I wash it in water only and it's all full and flouncy. So much easier!!

The worst thing was that my friends 8yo pointed at a picture of dh and I and asked if that was me when I was younger.... it was only taken 3 years ago DH hasn’t aged at all.

I had a moment of vanity and got eyelash extensions last year from a reputable establishment. I went all out and had extra long Hollywood lashes. My DP laughed. My mum laughed. My teenage cousin was jealous of my new look.

After a few days I couldn't cope with them dragging on my lids so I followed the instructions I had been given to remove them, but only some clumps came out leaving matted spider leg like strands hanging from my puffy red lids.

Hours later I managed to remove the rest but was left with very few of my own lashes. They did eventually grew back.

I will remember the swollen, bald eyeball look next time I have a vanity moment. I advise you don't go for extra long lashes if you do decide to get them. If you feel you could be sensitive to having fake hairs glued around your eyeballs for up to a month, which fold and poke when you rest on a pillow, perhaps give it a miss.