To wonder where the fuck my face went????

[PeapodBurgundy]

Had the first opportunity/occasion to put on a proper face of make up since I had DS. Had a leisurely shower, a face mask, sat down with a small amount of actual time to myself, excited to feel like Peapod again rather than a washed out Mammy. I applied my usual evening 'face', which used to look nice I think yet I somehow looked like a clown. I've aged soooo badly!! My face has sagged and is certainly not where I left it last time I paid it proper attention. What the hell gravity? I didn't sign up for this shit!

Anyone else care to share the point they realised they were no longer youthful? Or more importantly, tips to give the illusion that my face is still on the front of my head rather than dangling below my jaw?

Men do seem to, on the whole, escape the ravages of time. Why don't they get jowly?
It's so unfair.

Who really gives a shit? I bet few men out there are worrying about their jowls at a certain age, they just carry on regardless, or grow a beard (I'm getting one of them in the chin area, but plucking is your friend lol.)

So while I notice a bit of sagging here and there, and the double chinny chin chin, I just get on with it and don't fret about it. A good haircut every six weeks or so, a bit of foundation/light blush, good lippie and off I go. I never use eye make up now.

Interested in the eyelash extensions as I have tiddly ones. How does it work, anyone that has had it done? How long does it last, that kind of thing. Thanks.

I too am going grey rapidly (tough, wiry hairs, not the lovely soft glamorous silver/white you see on older models) the only thing that vaguely saves it is it's all in one patch so I can flatten it with my ghds to vaguely resemble a trendy streak (in my mind anyway!).

I can however highly recommend benefit's erase paste (lightly dabbed on with a finger tip, don't use a brush or it just fills the wrinkles) and the No 7 'tubing' mascara, it's the only one that doesn't end up 1/2 way down my face after an hour...

Adore this thread. This year my age has caught up with me. I feel old and tired.

Hmm, I’m 40 and my face isn't slipping down past my chin but....

A little while ago, I found myself in the position of bending right over to pick a smallish (A4 size, framed) mirror from the floor.

It was terrible. The image is burned into my brain.

I now stay resolutely upright when, ahem, I am ‘on top’. My husband doesn't need to see that when I lean over to kiss him....

I suddenly started looking like a Basset Hound in a Hallowe'en wig

Such a funny comment You don't need looks Spiderlight you have PERSONALITY !!

alwaysanauntie What is benefits erase paste? I looked on their website but can’t find it.

OP, when did you last sleep properly?

I looked horrendous when my DC were small, and I only knew how to do make up for my pre-children, youthful, well rested face, not the tired, pale, puffy eyed creature I'd become so it looked stupid, as they started sleeping through the night I started looking better but in the mean time I got someone to teach me how to do make up that worked with my sleep deprived face.

Enjoying this thread too... over indulgence pre-dc and then a few years of sleep deprivation post dc = face/neck sagging at 38

In the first year of DDs life, I aged about 10. Eye bags, wrinkles, jowls, dry patchy skin... I also had the horrible moment with my first face of makeup exposing my new old lady face at 29 and cried for an hour! The saggy boobs from a year of bfing don't help either

My time management must be abysmal! The only time I get to do anything for myself is when I'm feeding, which pretty much limits my activities to the laptop, TV or a book. Battling with the house takes up nap time if DS bothers and he doesn't go to sleep until about 11pm, so I'm up until about 1am straightening the place up, the only thing I'm fit for by that point is tumbling into bed. How do you all manage to keep on top of yourselves? I've not had a haircut or had my eyebrows done since I had him with not being able to leave him, and it's too much to expect him to sit in his pram that whole time, but I haven't even managed to do any DIY patch ups on myself either I really must up my game!

As I watched the CCTV camera images on screen, I saw MY MOTHER sitting there , in my clothes, on my seat !

That's odd. A couple of weeks ago, while shopping, I caught a glimpse of a woman, who looked just like my mother, in Debenhams window as I walked past. She was wearing a coat like mine too.

It gave me a proper start, as my mum died in 2010.

SparklyUnicornPoo Probably before I was pregnant, I had HG and SPD (it was a good job he came out cute ) so it wasn't the most restful of pregnancies I'll put my violin away now

Gently asking again for info re the eyelash extensions.... anyone?

I have tiny eyelashes so would love to know a bit more about it from those who have had it! thank you.

um....cathy, you say "who gives a shit" and then ask about eyelash extensions?

I am 47, in ill health, i look and feel about 70 havent the energy to moisturise

Fat saggy face, yup, got dark chin hairs, dark circles under eyes, grey hair, have a permanent bedcrease on right side of forehead, it never goes away!

And yes, i look like my mother

I don't know why everyone says men don't age badly. I work with lots of middle aged men and they are not, in general, a handsome bunch. Not that I mind that, but I really don't think grey hair and jowls look better on men than women and there's lots of paunches. There's a few dashing types, just as there's a few very attractive women whose faces have held up well. The rest of us just have to take the hit of ageing, I'm afraid.

Teal star** please tell me what your toning machine is , does it really work, ?
Might try that,one side of my face seems to have sunk, lol

@Slimthistime

Ah you shouldn't be so harsh! We are all in it together.....

I mentioned eyelash extensions in my PP that you referred to aswell.

Sometimes it's the little things....

I've never had eyelash extensions Cathy as I think I would pick them off.

I have bad LVL though which is like lengthening and curling and they make my stumpy lashes look great and lasts around 6 weeks for me.

cathy - yes, I know you did.

I was just puzzled why you said one thing and then the other! I was hoping for a real "who gives a shit" post so I was surprised how it ended, that's all.

I’m 52 and, I know it’s shallow, but the sight of my face and neck depresses me beyond measure. Every time I apply make up I have a voice in my head saying, “it’s like putting make up on a pig.”
I hate that I feel like this in a world where there is so much else to worry about but I really do. Even worse, if I had the money I would do whatever I could to feel better about it and that’s come as such a shock to me.

I have an 8 yo DD and live life in fear of being mistaken for her Grandmother.

Oh God babe, you really made me laugh 😂😂😂😂
"Tips to give illusion my face is still on the front of my head not hanging under my chin"
Bloody wetting myself!
Awww love!
You were probably knackered and believe me, knackered and full war paint is not a good look.
My tip for knackered face makeup:- lots of moisturizer, cucumber on eyes, lie on bed for ten mins. Wipe off excess moisturizer, pat eyecream around eyes (No eyecream, just pat bit of moisturizer round eyes).
Now we're looking dewy!!!????? Tiny amount of foundation, then concealer round nose etc (very light touch).
Eyes: pale shadow, or none. Eyeliner on eyelid (nowhere else)
Mascara, loads and loads (bambi eyes).
Bronzer (lightly). Around face, down nose, cheeks and chin.
Lipline lips, pat bit of lippy on. Done! Looking gorgeous!

Bless you! You made me laugh!

Slimthistime.

No worries. I just don't do eye make up so was looking for a solution to my little, sorry TINY eylashes!

Was just curious about a maintenance free thing that might work for me since I don't do eye make up or mascara anymore (no fkn point now!)

All together now.....

Used to be transfixed by one of aunts when I was a child who had quite severe lines from sides of her mouth that made her look as if she was doing a cartoon frown. Guess what! I’ve inherited it. Was tempted at dentist today by their Botox whatever treatments. But think I will just stick to not looking in mirror and photos only at dusk.