I'm telling him it's over today.

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I’m saving me and my DC from this awful situation. Handhold please

Make sure you have birth certificates, passports, bank statements with you

Thinking of you. Please go, your children will be completely fine.

Take any important documents, a bag with a change of clothes and your children
Having your parents there to support you will make a huge difference
Once you're there, you will have people to talk to and you can make a longer term plan.

Go to your parents, and take the children with you.
You can put a plan in place, when you get there, and are settled in.
Go now Lovely, the school will understand.
Take any documents/bank book etc, that you may need.
Please leave whilst you can. 💐

I have the birth certificates, clothes and pyjamas for us all. Sat down and taking deep breaths trying to decide if I’m doing the right thing and looking at my beautiful DC. Remembering their faces when their Dad was shouting at them is making me so upset.

Hope it’s going ok, op. Xx

I’d take the kids to your mums. He may just turn up at his mothers and cause a scene with the children there.

No wise words but sending a hand hold lass.

He’s home. Luckily our bag is in my car

Go to your mums. Call her now and ask if she can call around the local schools. That way you can stay there for a bit longer if they have spaces.
Good luck OP. You’re doing this for you and your kiddies. It’s hard but living with a volatile person is worse in the long run than the short term upset

Hugs and strength to you

Although I have never experienced this so can't offer any advice, I also just want to let you know I'm thinking of you and am wishing you the strength and courage you need to go through with this.

You are absolutely doing the right thing by ending this relationship; your parents will support you and so will work and the childrens' school. You can do this my dear

Hand hold. You’re doing this for your children. X

Go. I did 7 years ago and there is not a second I regret it. You can do it x

We are all behind you. You aren't on your own.

Good luck op. You're doing the right thing.

You've got both my hands OP!

Does he work? If he's going to work tonight/tomorrow that might be a better option? (he's out of the house for several hours)

You need to leave with a clear plan (speak to bank about any joint accounts, find yours and children's passports and any other important docs, prescriptions, etc)

If I were you, if your parents are supportive, phone them or a close friend. Tell them to meet you at the house and then you can leave with them, or at the very least they can keep the children out of the way (in car) whilst you tell husband you're leaving and then you safely get into car.

If you're in a rented house, I would just leave. But you do need to get your name off that lease in case your husband does something stupid and you are held responsible. (Tell landlord/agent you moved out on X day (today/tomorrow)

I wouldn't pack and 'prepare' leaving whilst your husband is there, he will try to stop you and things could get ugly/violent. Is it possible to wait until he leaves the house? Maybe his mother could call him over to 'help' with something or you could give him an errand to run that could give you a bit of time to prepare yourself and get family over to help you?

I would wait until he goes out again now. Less distressing for all involved

Hope it’s going ok, op. X

Holding both hands, you are doing the right thing. Echoing what others have said that it might be safer to leave when he is not around? Thinking of you OP x

I’m meant to be shopping later on so could take the DC with me and go then? That just seems so cruel but I honestly think that if we talk it will all get blown over. I think this is the way I need to end it but I need a plan and to decide where we could stay. Ideally I don’t want to disrupt their school etc so staying here is the ideal thing but I just don’t know where to start. Back to thinking about going to his mum now. I know she would help me financially too. My head is all over the place

Why not go to your mum's for a week? One week off school won't hurt, and it will give you space to get your head together, consider your options and work out what's best. You could always either visit or phone his mum during that week to see what support she would give you. But you need a bit of distance between you and him, and some real life support

I'd go to your parents. His mum is likely to side with him. My ex's mum did, even though I'd left him because of DV and she'd seen the black eye I had after he punched me once. (She asked me how I got it and I gave her the classic "Hit it on a cupboard door" answer. I could tell by the look she gave me that she didn't believe that.)

If you're meant to be going shopping later, go then, without telling him. It's not cruel, it's self preservation.

Just go. No point in talking, he's not listening.

Go to your parent's. Don't worry about the DC's school. Don't allow yourself to be sidetracked with issues that can be worked out later. The important thing is that you take that first step.

Go.

Going to your mum's for a week sounds like a good idea. Make sure you take all the important paperwork with you.

Explain to the school what's happening and that you're you're doing this to keep the kids safe. The teachers may be able to give you some work for the kids to do while they are off school.

Also ring Women's Aid 0808 2000 247 and see what they advise.

You know you are doing the right thing OP.