Tattoos

[DaisyRaine90]

DP doesn’t want me to get any more (I have 3 In discreet places)

I want a cuff tattoo to cover self harm scars and a Phoenix to symbolise me rising from the ashes on my back.

Would I be U to get them done anyway even though he doesn’t want me to?

And AIBU to have one in a visible place (cuff)
Would it be better to have a tattoo or self harm scars on show?

I might enter a social work or academic profession and would like to run a shop one day. Would a tattoo hold me back at all or are we in a modern era?

I already had the tattoos before we met (and the two planned which I wanted)

Do you have tattoos? Do you regret them? Has it affected your work in anyway?

Thanks 😊

[DaisyRaine90]

• Contesssabontessa
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  Not with proper care and getting them recoloured or shaded when they need to be 😊

[DaisyRaine90]

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Sounds very therapeutic and very Much why Id love to do it 😊

[Tabsicle]

The other thing I'd say - I've never been turned down for a job due to tattoo. I have been sacked for having self harm scars. In my experience, tattoos are more acceptable to employers than a clear sign of poor mental health.

I mean, both show a shitty attitude on the part of the employer and I prefer not to work for judgy twats. But my personal experience is that there is more judgy twattiness about self harm and MH than tattoos.

[LenaLoveWitch]

People do judge on tattoos. There’s no getting around it

[Liz38]

I can't bear tattoos. They make my skin crawl. I recruit and have recruited people into a wide variety of roles and have line managed lots of people. I would never not employ someone because they have a tattoo, I cannot see how them making a personal choice about their own body that I wouldn't make has an impact on their ability to do a job.

[itssunnybehindtheclouds]

It would be a real shame if someone didn't hire you simply because of your tattoos. It's small minded and Lanakanes is right, those employers are losing out on great candidates. I think you need to consider if you are willing for some employers to be put off and if they wouldn't hire you because of your tattoos would you want to work for them? I do a little recruitment for a very large company and I would expect to people to be prompt, smartly dressed and prepared. I wouldn't care about tattoos.

[PoisonousSmurf]

I'm 50 years old next year. Had my first tattoo at 44. I now have 4 of them. An owl on my left inner wrist, Azrael (from the Smurfs) capturing a Smurf on my right shoulder, Gargamel chasing Smurfette and Papa Smurf on my left shoulder and a dream catcher on my right hip.
No one really sees them at work and I'm self employed.
Hasn't stopped me getting work and they don't make me less of a good person because I chose to 'ink up'.
Employers who stick their nose up at tattoos should take a long hard look at themselves and enter the modern world!

[mydogisthebest]

I don't understand why so many people jump on the bandwagon of having tattoos. At one time they were unusual but now are so common it's ridiculous. People are such sheep

Personally I think they are awful. I think I must have a bit of a phobia about them because they make me actually feel sick especially on legs. Arm sleeves are revolting and as for ones on a woman's boob!!!

Don't see the point of having them on your back when you can't even see them. All that money and you can't see it!

Also they fade as time goes on so look even worse

[LoniceraJaponica]

“Most people now have at least 1 tattoo”

I wouldn’t know whether that was true or not. If it is then most people must have discreet tattoos because it isn’t obvious to me that most people have tattoos. Of the people I work with only one has an obvious one.

I really dislike neck and head tattoos. They scream “look at me I’m a rebel/edgy”.
I have never heard of medically necessary tattoos. Have they replaced the identity bracelet? DH is very allergic to Penicillin, should he have a tattoo to state this?
Why don’t the Japanese like tattoos?

OP, given that you mentioned you have health issues, would having another tattoo impact on this?

[burntup]

I've never met a lawyer or a
Doctor with a visible tattoo. None of the parents in my upper middle class area have them either (not visible anyhow) but I have noticed the secretaries where I work are plastering themselves in them. Strikes me as another thing to spend money on and is demonstrative of our Instagram culture.

Your body though. Do what you want.

[Welshmaenad]

I'm a social worker and I have tattoos and facial piercings. I did one of my student placements with bright blue hair. It's never been a problem. The adults with learning disabilities that I worked with were delighted and fascinated by the hair especially, I think it broke down barriers.

[RebelRogue]

@burntup I got my first tattoo in 2007. Nothing to do with Instagram.

[LoniceraJaponica]

Rebel I think burntup means that the rate of increase is faster due to social media influence. I don't disagree with that.

[Coriandertasteslikesoap]

It’s not BS- gone are the days where people got tattoos to be “different”. Most people now have at least 1 tattoo

On the contrary, most people don't have any.

[LoniceraJaponica]

I suppose it's possible that most people within a certain age range or demographic might have them.

[DaisyRaine90]

He said “go for it it will look sexy and if you can’t find a job then I’ll support us or start a business and you can work for me”

😂 god love him^^
He also said
You don’t need to cover the self harm marks you can barely see them, but if that’s part of your healing process go for it, you can do what you like with your body”

Last time I mentioned it he said “I don’t want you to get any more tattoos, they’d look horrible and you’d never get a job”

😂😂😂^
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Men, eh?

[Creambun2]

Tattoos are much more prevelant in certain socio economic groups.

[Blankuser1992]

i have three highly visible tattoos and it has never stopped me getting a job, the current one I have now is for one of the nations biggest banks in a management role.

I feel you choose not to hire someone based on outward appearance ( within reason) you belong with the dinosaurs and are stopping people who could provide great ideas from coming into the work place.

[mrsRosaPimento]

First of all, it’s your body. You can do with it as you wish.
You can cover it with a bracelet, sleeve or sweatband for work.
I have a butterfly tattoo on my wrist to remind me I’ve got through my horrible childhood. I love it there because I can see it whenever I need to. I love the idea of a Phoenix. There are some beautiful ones on Pinterest.

[Coriandertasteslikesoap]

Personally I think they are awful. I think I must have a bit of a phobia about them because they make me actually feel sick especially on legs

I've a similar distaste for tattoos but it's the neck ones that I find spectacularly awful. The only full face one I've come across was when I was visiting my brother in a mental health facility. I was in two minds whether or not to open the door to a heavily facially tattooed man who was hammering on it. I was nearest the door. A nurse nodded to me that it was OK to let him in. This was a facility for extreme mental health issues so I would appreciate being forgiven for having a wobble.
I realise that some might find this attitude inflammatory, but he looked very scary. This is quite recent so is not the reason for me finding tattoos distasteful.

I do, however, have an extreme physical reaction to nose piercing.
I can't explain it, but when I see someone with a nose piercing, even just a little stud, it makes my eyes begin to water uncontrollably, and it's unstoppable. It's embarrassing and I wish it didn't happen.
My 30 year old dd had plans for an elegant little nose stud, which I'll grant can look very pretty. But she (very considerately) abandoned the plan when she saw the dramatic effect it has on my tear ducts.
She had brought a friend here (with a pretty little nose stud) while she was visiting home and had assumed that I must have a cold because of the copious tears streaming down my cheeks.

She had previously told me of her plans for a nose stud. I had previously told her that it makes my eyes water to look at it and that it would make me uncomfortable - but if she wanted to then go ahead.

She then realised that I wasn't making it up, or being controlling.

One of our social workers ( I have an adult SEN child at home, with multiple and complex needs) has triple nose piercings, multiple septum piercings, tattoos all around her neck and wrists, who must think I'm a complete emotional wreck because every time she sees me I break down in tears. (Obviously I don't 'break down in tears', it's my reaction to her self-mutilation) I've explained to her that my eyes water as a reaction to what she has done to her face. From feedback from social services, she describes me as 'tearful'

Well of course I'm fucking tearful! You've got big metal barbs hanging out of your nose and face, and what look like nappy pins over your eyebrows! And torturous horizontal things sticking out of your nostrils. It just makes me think that you have nothing to teach me. It doesn't shout 'normal' You are not a person whose advice I want to take , because of the really appalling decisions you take on your own behalf.

So her personal decision on what she does with her own body actually impacts on her ability to do her job.

[Ollivander84]

Lonicera
https://kotaku.com/why-is-there-a-tattoo-stigma-in-japan-1249980905

http://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/cancer-in-general/treatment/radiotherapy/external/planning/skin-markings

[LoniceraJaponica]

Thank you Olivander. I had no idea about the radiotherapy tattoos.

[DownstairsMixUp]

Tattoos are much more prevelant in certain socio economic groups.

Care to enlighten us?