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Things your mum was right about...

127 replies

NonnoMum · 28/10/2017 17:22

I'll start.

Don't buy venetian blinds. They're such a pain to clean.

Yup. You were right mum ( as I cough up a dust cloud and they still look grubby...)

OP posts:
WillWorkForShoes · 29/10/2017 01:46

Nothing.

pigeondujour · 29/10/2017 01:48

Everything.

To laugh at myself.
How to wash everything.
That everyone gets a turn at being in and everyone gets a turn at being out.
To choose a kind man.

Itsonkyme · 29/10/2017 01:02

"Marry a man who loves you, more than you love him."

I never did and each time these arseholes who I adored let me down, I heard her words!

Now all I love are my gorgeous family and my faithful dogs.

Oh just thought of another one, a bit rude though.

"I wouldn't marry another man, even if his dick was studded with diamonds". grin

And I wouldn't marry another man if you paid me!!!!!!

Surfingwhippet · 29/10/2017 02:47

You'll understand when you have children of your own

echt · 29/10/2017 03:21

If you want your to-be husband to change any horrid habits, e.g. talking with mouth full, etc. do it very early on.

echt · 29/10/2017 03:22

Oh, and don't live with your in-laws.

Now I think of it, my MIL said this, too.

WetsTheVet · 29/10/2017 04:01

Literally everything. I miss her a lot.

WetsTheVet · 29/10/2017 04:01

Literally everything. I miss her a lot.

Reppin · 29/10/2017 04:16

Don't drink cider. She's right, it's filthy stuff.

HashtagTired · 29/10/2017 04:25

“It’s tiredness”

That was the answer to everything when I was a child.
I’ve got a headache... it’s tiredness.
My neck hurts...it’s tiredness.
I’m hungry... you’re tired.
My legs ache.... you’re tired, get an early night.
I’m grumpy.... you’re overtired.
I’m tired...

Truth is, I’m all those things and more when I’m tired and almost everything can be cured with sleep! And cuddles

I find myself telling my dc the same thing!

flyingpigsinclover · 29/10/2017 04:38

That you can only make one first impression.
That I'm not a nice person.

Mummyoflittledragon · 29/10/2017 04:57

Umm. Errr. Ummm.

Her Kenwood spatula is precious and irreplaceable. NOPE
Just after my father died when I was 16: he would have been devastated if knew what I was really like. NOPE
Just after my stepdad died earlier this year, he never forgave me for how I reacted to finding out he had a degenerative illness. NOPE
I was a terrible, awful teenager and a shrew. NOPE
My brothers violence as a child was my fault and the continued threats and violence are either not going to happen or my fault. NOPE

I think that’s probably a no, isn’t it?

furlinedsheepskinjacket · 29/10/2017 05:00

nothing

i too use the exact opposite of her actions as a parenting model

BertrandRussell · 29/10/2017 05:27

"“It’s tiredness”

Grin Mine was the same.
Practically anything could be cured by any combination of 1) a nap 2)something to eat 3) a glass of cold water 4) a walk in the fresh air (or, if a child, a run in the fresh air) 5) putting an extra layer on - usually warm socks. 6) massaging hands with scented cream.

She was, I find, largely right.

counterpoint · 29/10/2017 05:42

Once you have the money for it, that's the best time to buy.

Always buy the best that you can afford.

You can't take it with you so make sure you leave it to your children.

Most practical and loving mum ever.

Thanks mama. Xx

Her0utdoors · 29/10/2017 06:06

Ugly women get raped too.
She had a grim view of life, not with out good reason.

speakout · 29/10/2017 06:25

It's very refreshing to hear of so many bad mother role models.

When my late husband was beating me black and blue her advice to me was to " agree with him more".

Thanks Mum.

SkafaceClaw · 29/10/2017 06:33

‘Wearing all those ballet pumps and converse will wreck your feet.’

They did and now I value the comfiest, most supportive shoes!

Be financially independent - so glad she instilled this in me.

wineusuallyhelps · 29/10/2017 06:37

That when I have my own house, I WILL care about the muddles and want people to tidy their stuff away.

Fair play, Mum Grin

cuirderussie · 29/10/2017 06:59

She was right about everyone we brought home to meet her. Most of whom she liked, but the occasional wrong un...oh it was annoying when she was right! Smile

Therealslimshady1 · 29/10/2017 07:05

Don't be intimidated/impressed by money, status and success, you are equal to anyone.

Coupled with:

Don't judge anyone on looks, size, job status. Don't look down on anyone. Don't think you are better than anyone.

speakout · 29/10/2017 07:12

Struggling to think of anything.

Things my mother has said.

  1. Don't get ideas above your station.
  2. Always make sure your husband's shoes are polished.
  3. Never use salt or pepper as it will give you a taste for the high life.
  4. Watch out for women who paint their nails as they could easily become prostitutes.
  5. Never buy a newspaper with horoscopes because Satan will work his way in.
  6. Don't try to be as good as your husband, it will end in tears.
ChickenVindaloo2 · 29/10/2017 11:42

Haha,

On the "painted nails = potential prostitute" theme, my mother always said she judged women with fancy nails as they obviously must be slatterns who don't clean their house. (Having a cleaner was unheard of in those days in our circles).

Itsonkyme · 29/10/2017 11:57

Oh! Just thought of another one, this is one of the best Mum sayings, bet yours all said it too.

Regarding neighbours who dressed well but who she knew, usually from being behind them in the butchers, when the woman would be buying a quarter of mince and four sausages. God! that would be a snack for our house!

Anway her saying. "All fur coat and no knickers that one" Grin

cuckooplusone · 29/10/2017 12:14

My mum is amazing, she has never told me what to do, she has encouraged me to be resilient, hard-working and curious to explore the world (and worried quietly). She showed me through example that it's important to be generous with your time to help people and that the journey should be as much fun as the destination.