Things your mum was right about...

[NonnoMum]

I'll start.

Don't buy venetian blinds. They're such a pain to clean.

Yup. You were right mum ( as I cough up a dust cloud and they still look grubby...)

That difficult times are temporary and that I am strong enough to cope with anything life throws at me. That you should look after your skin and that you can be kind but take no shit. I miss her...

never marry a man who won't dance with you....

i miss my mum so much...

Youll probably need a coat

It's ok to carve out a slice of life for you alone: self care and self respect are important and you don't owe anyone your time, approval or secrets.

Absolute honesty is fatal to almost every kind of relationship except the one with your GP where dishonesty could prove fatal.

For god's sake look after your teeth and gums.

That man's an arse.

Always was your feet and pits with soap not shower gel
Never use self raising flour in Yorkies
Always buy a washer with a hand wash cycle
Loads of random stuff actually, but telling me that joining the forces would be the making of me was so right, it got me out of a nowhere town and I had an absolute ball despite my initial “what the hell have I done” moments

You have to learn to make yourself happy, you can’t expect someone else to do it for you.

Never a borrorower or a lender be.
You'll make a rod for your own back with DD's bedtime routine (we did).
You only need 1 washing powder tablet in the machine.
Always warm your dinner plates.
Stews, curries etc, always taste better the second day.
Cooking salt on your front path (when icy).
Always have an emergency tenner on you.
Ahh, my lovely, clever, funny mum, miss her so very, very much.

Oh, and NEVER wake a sleeping baby.

My mum is right about many things, but wrong about sprouts. I'm 37 and my tastebuds still haven't changed.

I remember the day my daughter said she should have listened to me.
Picture the scene, lovely hot day, daughter is driving down the motorway, window down, life is good. A bee flew in the window, smacked her right in the forehead, stunned itself and dropped down her cleavage. She went from 70 to 0 in about 2 seconds, leapt out the car and frantically tried to get the bee out before it carne round and stung her.
The first thing she said when she got home was " now I know why you always said not to drive with the window wide open!" Oh I laughed ( and I was right!)

That their is more to life than this.....
Lost her at age 13. Never got to really know her. Miss her every day for the last 27 years.

I live my life doing the exact opposite of what my dm would say.

Never trust a man with 2 phones

Oh dear I have 4

There's more than one way to skin a cat.

White shoes make your feet look big

Mostly everything. She's fantastic.

Everything

Everything...

Dm wouldn't ever buy those silver balls for decorating cakes however much I begged because "they're so hard, you'll break your teeth on them."

As an adult I thought I could finally get some. First bite... I broke a tooth on one.
I've never told her.

I dunno. She mostly snorted and shrugged, she didn't really give advice. But she did let me go my own way, without trying to tell me things...oh, and she made sure I grew up wearing shoes that fitted properly.

Still miss her, even though she was pretty fallible.

That 'things will seem better in the morning'

Be nice to everyone, you never know who will end up being your boss (I live by that one, she was right)

Getting something started is getting it half done

And....make your own money, you don't ever want to rely on a man.

Her and my dad are very old, decrepit but still love each other, but she always had her own money and business.

I'm a single mum, the last piece of advice was her best.

“It’s nice to be nice”
“Things always seem worse at night”
“Nothing stays the same”
“He won’t want a dummy when he’s 15”

Last one in relation to my eldest ds who was 2 at the time, wanting 5 dummies all at once. Needless to say he is now 15 and no longer wants one 😄😄

That something is only a problem if you can do something about it. In which case no point in flapping or wallowing, get on with trying to do something about it

And if you can't do anything about it, it's not a problem - it's a situation, it's a fact. And you can either accept it and deal with things as best you can, or not accept it and go bananas

Also:

'This is not a rehearsal'

Coming up 5 years since I lost her - I miss her deeply.

Bananafish - love that

Yes, that wedding dress DID look better on than it did on the hangar...

Thanks Mum