Aibu to think a 2 and 5 year old will be fine being vegan for one lunch?

[mauricesom]

It's my birthday next week and I've booked somewhere nice that does a vegan high tea. I've invited my daughter (veggie) and her two sons 7 and 5.

I've booked us all for the vegan high tea but daughter says the children will need ham and cheese else they won't eat it. As I'm paying for it I don't really want to buy things I'm ethically apposed to.

Aibu to think they will be fine with hummus and carrot sandwiches for one meal? They both eat food like that at my house without any issues.

It's no big deal, if they don't eat much they can get a McDonald's on the way home.
I would be more than happy for my dc to go.
Just out of curiosity, how do you make vegan cakes ?

Unrepentant carnivore here. But no one needs to eat meat every day or for every meal.

Your daughter is being ridiculous. What is your relationship usually like?

Even if they don't eat the sandwiches i'm sure cake, scones with jam and biscuits will go down.

can't they have something that a child would like more - cucumber sandwich (actually more high tea than carrot)?

I don’t think you can compare a dietary choice to religion. It’s not offered the same protection under the law for starters.

I have had vegan cakes, I am not vegan. The ones I have had have never tasted like "healthy" cake, but have been delicious. Much better than many shop bought cakes.

They'll survive one vegan meal. Honestly, for all that vegetarians and vegans are complained about, some meat eaters are so precious.

Regardless of it being vegan I do find it a little odd that you're feeling the need to dictate what they must eat
Same

Op is not being selfish and entitled

YANBU

My 2 (not vegan or veggie) would love houmous for lunch!

mama did you post on the right thread?! “Enabling the behaviour”? She’s taking her family out to lunch.

How is it selfish and unreasonable to choose the venue for one's birthday celebration? That's kind of standard.

Seems like a lot of people get very weird about the thought of having one meal without any animal products in it .

They are going out for afternoon (or high, it's unclear which it actually is) tea, so the selection of food served is fixed whichever they have, so it's not like they'd get to choose exactly what they have, even if it was a 'standard' afternoon tea.

OP is being selfish and unreasonable and you're enabling the behaviouR

Erm, it's not the OP being the selfish and unreasonable one, it's the ridiculous behaviour of the daughter who won't even try anything and poo poohs it before even going!
She's a veggie, and her kids eat vegan stuff fine when at Grandmas.
So not a problem! I wouldn't have bothered saying anything, as she wouldn't be able to tell the difference between that and veggie!

I think that any cafe worth its salt would be able to rustle up a little something for the kids if they won't eat what's offered, and since you all want to have fun on your birthday it would be nice to make sure the establishment is able to cater for fussy kids or none of you will have fun. That doesn't mean it has to be non-vegan - I'm sure there will be something to tempt the kids on the menu so that everyone has a good time. Most eating establishments have 'kids menus' for this very reason - kids are notoriously picky with food and as adults we have a choice either to cater for their tastes or force them to eat things they find 'yukky'... whether that's a battle you want to fight on your birthday is another matter...!

SELFISH??? By inviting her family out for something different - which they might enjoy???

Poor deprived little children.....

Haven't read the whole thread, but as non-veggie I I usually chose veggie food when out because I like to try some thing different, and I know the world will not end if I don't get meat daily. But to the carnivores whinging about how they wouldn't serve meat to a veggie so why should a veggie serve veggie food to them- there is one huge difference.... a vegetarian CANNOT eat meat, but a carnivore CAN eat veggie food.

Yes, the 'my DCs neeeed ham' attitude is very strange for a vegetarian. You'd think she would be pleased that they were going for vegan afternoon tea.

This has nothing to do with veganism though and everything to do with trying to impose your choices on others.

Does not sound very appealling, but they will be fine, mum can always buy them non vegan food from there if they don't eat it.

Take the vegan aspect away and imagine I invite some family/friends out for a meal - my treat. But I don’t agree with eating food containing palm oil so I have ordered them a meal that fits with my beliefs regardless of whether they want to eat it or not. They can pick at the bits they like. That would be pretty bloody weird!

I’m taking it the mum and dd don’t get on that well/there is some resentment about the dd only being veggie or feeding her kids meat.

It depends exactly what the place will be serving.

Dd has always loved hummous & do a hummous sandwich would be fine.
Ds on the other hand would eat nothing but cream cheese on a sandwich. Neither would eat ham.

So I agree with others who say it's not about it being vegan per se but about ther bring something on the menu the children will eat.

If ham/cheese is their favourite & it's available then that is what they should be allowed to eat.

ps. I agree with CorbynsBumFlannel that the fact this has been posted online suggests there is a weirdly barbed passive-aggressive relationship between mum and daughter here which doesn't bode all that well for birthday tea...! I think scones ought to cheer everyone up unless, like me, you're gluten intolerant and couldn't eat the scones or sandwiches anyway ;)