To think I don't need permission from dh to diet

[Jesstheblackandwhitecat]

Or do I?

I want to do a very low calorie diet - shakes and soups.

Dh has said no as he is worried that seeing me not eating will affect the children (they are already poor eaters)

I can't work out inches being an arse or not ...

There are plenty of things we keep private from our children and our feelings about food, our bodies and diet should be one of them.

I don't really agree, you're setting them up for a lifetime of a bad relationship with food.

As a kid I absolutely did notice that my mum ate less than me and had smaller portions. I always felt self conscious about eating more than her, even though we are both slim. Now in my 20s I've inherited all her eating habits. Kids are like sponges.

I understand why it’s hard. Maybe it’s a case of not having those foods in the house at all. Just a crap free zone. The kids can have treats while out as can your DH

I’m just concerned that the kind of restrictive diet your suggesting a, won’t work so will trash your self belief even more. And b, is the last thing someone with a history of ed should be undertaking. You need a healthier relationship with food and your body not a diet

My weight loss has been so slow for this very reason. DS1 is a terrible eater so I have to lead by example. Wholesome healthy meals- not a shake or a bar to replace meals.

I go to the gym three times a week- usually when kids are in bed and I talk to them about exercise and being healthy.

It's slow but I know I'm doing it the healthiest way and I'll keep it off

They're the basis of my diet and I've been size 8 all my life. Just in moderation - portion control is key.

Well lucky you. Not all of us can.

I'm going to sound incredibly unsympathetic here, but all I'm reading from your posts is I can't ! - can't eat healthily, can't exercise, can't have counselling, can't see a nutritionist... and its starting to sound a bit whiney. If I'm honest.

Do or don't do. that's all there is. If you eat more healthily, you will lose weight and set a good example for your children. If you don't, you won't.

It's as simple as that.

No one is saying it will be easy, but it'll be damn near impossible if you're just telling yourself that you can't and you're rubbish.

Grow up and take a bit of responsibilty for yourself.

Given your later replies, I highly recommend you read Brain over binge by Kathryn Hansen. It has radically changed my attitude to food and challenged my binge eating habit.