About MIL copying me?

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Just to clarify- this is not a MIL bashing thread. We get on really well and she is a lovely kind woman. But....

She has form for copying me which doesn’t generally bother me but this time I’m really pissed off.

We have a family wedding coming up next month. DP needed a new suit so he went out and got himself one. 2 weeks later MIL and FIL also go and get a new suit. As she’s showing me I notice it’s exactly the same suit that DP got. She laughs and says ‘Yes but FIL’s suit is slim fit not skinny fit like the one xxxx got.’ Still it’s the same colour, brand and style so is the same suit in my opinion. He’s also got the same style shoes to go with it and the same colour shirt to wear with it. DP was a bit annoyed as they will be dressed pretty much the same.

Fast forward a few weeks and MIL asked me what I’m planning on wearing to the wedding. I show her the dress that I’ve got (navy lace) and the nude shoes and bag to wear with it. She said ‘that’s nice’ and not much else. A couple of days later she said ‘I think I’m going to look for a navy lace dress to wear to the wedding’. I was a bit but thought no more if it.

Today she’s sent me a picture of the dress, shoes and bag that she’s got and it is pretty much identical to mine. The whole bloody lot of it!

Why? Why? Why? Does she not realise we are going to look like a load of twats all wearing the same thing? I mentioned it to DP but he became quite defensive saying if it bothers me that much I should change my dress. AIBU to be so pissed off about it or should I just take it as a complement?
Also I’m now debating changing my dress and not ever telling her anything again but I absolutely love it and will struggle to find anything else I like quite as much.

Take it as a compliment but absolutely wear something else and don't tell her

The Hobbs "burgundy lace" above is absolutely beautiful (in either colour). I would love to be able to wear that.

Whatever new dress you choose, colour co-ordinate your DH's tie to complement the shade you choose, and change his shoes.
That way, you will be a couple, rather than looking like a set of twins (which is what your MIL would like, I think).

Next time she asks you what you are going to wear, show her this:

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Reply “Actually no need to worry, I’ve tried it all on again and realised it doesn’t go at all and looks awful so I’m going dress shopping at the weekend”

Warehouse lace green dress is beautiful

I used to have a friend like this...I got a new top she got the exact same we looked nobs on nights out! She did it with my coat etc as well bloody strange.
But you shouldn’t have to change your dress she should...bring it up as a joke “god we are gonna look a right bunch of dicks” type thing.
If she doesn’t get the hint yes you are fucked so you will have to look a dick or get a new dress!
Some people are just oblivious.

Take it as a compliment! It's sweet

It's not sweet.

redandgrey, how did you get on?

Have you spoken to her?
What was the outcome?

Did you end up having to get a new dress?

So DP and FIL will wear the same suit and you and MIL will wear a very identical outfit. You will all look like a bunch of twats. Sorry. People might not notice the suits as much but the ladies' outfits will definitely get noticed.
Oh, and it's not sweet to be copied. It's weird. I haven't got much sense in clothes but every now and again I find something that really suits me and I love. I'd be fuming if a friend copied that for something we were attending together.

Bloody hell how bizarre!
Next time you are going to be at a function with her and she asks you what you are going to wear, totally lie to her. Show her an outfit that is really expensive and would not suit her. Do it every time and if she asks why you aren't wearing it just say you changed your mind at the last minute before buying.......

Change the dress, you can always wear it another time when MIL isn't around. You can say something like 'well, DH and FIL wearing the same thing is one thing, but is turning up matching would have looked a bit daft'. Hopefully she will get the point.

Oops sorry, I can see the thread has moved on now. Good luck with your dress hunt, OP. You might find something even better x

I think it's a lovely compliment to you - but I would get another dress. I'm sure you will find one

OP I’m the same height and colouring as you & find a lot of my stuff at Lindybop. They do a wonderful range of dresses & deliver quickly, the customer service is brill and there are usually good deals to be had in the sale section. If you like the bodycon style, look in their wiggle dresses.

I feel your pain as my own DM does this - thankfully not with clothes any more but with perfumes, hobbies and decor.

Good luck x

My MIL used to do this as well. Then she used to do the tinkly laugh thing and tell everyone that my husband had obviously married his mother. MORTIFYING for all!!!
I don't go anywhere with her now- and tell her NOTHING!

What is your new dress like? We need to know so we can copy it!

Wear something different.
I wore the same outfit as my MIL years ago & it scarred me for life.😱😱 I cringe whenever I see the photos. 😖😖😖

Hi OP, has the wedding happened? How did it go with your MIL?

Very creepy.

I 2nd the Green Warehouse dress and also like the Karen Millen one