To refuse lift to smoker because she smells?

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Obviously not as blunt as that but she lights up just before getting in the car and it stinks. So AIBU to tell her to get the bus if she can't wait?

I can't believe in the space of about 25 years, we have gone from allowing smoking pretty much anywhere to quibbling about one smoker

Previously we didn't have a fucking choice! Now we do...

"I drive past friends at the bus stop who are smoking" wtf. I bet most of these outraged non smokers are the same ones who accuse people of being drunks for having a glass of wine a night whilst proudly proclaiming they have an annual sherry on NYE.

Lol, do none of you ever fart in the car or have a slight bit of BO?

Or had a child with a shitty nappy/ being carsick and vomiting?

Your being so precious! All those things are FAR worse and stronger then cigarette smoke off someone's clothes.

Don't worry OP, chances are you car stinks anyway!

I don't smoke, and I don't like the smell of cigarettes, but I wouldn't refuse to give someone a lift because of it. It's not as unpleasant (in my opinion) as sweat based body odour. I wouldn't allow anyone to smoke in my car, but I don't know anyone who would do that nowadays.
I've allowed a couple of friends to smoke in my house on two or three occasions at times of great stress for them. The smell hangs round for a while but it doesn't take hold if it's not constant.
A bit of Febreze takes care of it. Neither my husband or 2dds could smell it the next day.

YANBU and I say that as an ex smoker (who was always very considerate of non smokers). Smoke stinks.

I wouldn't have someone who reeked of cigarettes in my car. Third hand smoke is still dangerous and it sticks to fabric. I put my baby in my car, I don't want stale smoke in it.

I also don't allow smoking at my home. That's not to say smokers aren't welcome, but no one nips out in my garden to smoke and comes back in (no one has ever smoked inside anyway, me included). Smoke was the one thing that made me feel pukey when I was pregnant (FIL and DM smoke) so I asked them not to when they were visiting me, and then told them actually I didn't want anymore smoking at my home when baby was born either as I didn't want a newborn being snuggled into stinking clothes. Two years on, no one smokes at my home and it's staying that way.

It's your car, and you can have or not have whoever you like in it.

@derxa those who have never smoked are highly likely to have a far more sensitive sense of smell than anyone who has ever or still smokes! Smoking inhibits your sense of smell.

Smelly shits make me heave but they are essential to life so fair enough, stale or otherwise smoke or vape isn’t it.

And they are non-smokers as well, I hasten to add.

@WitchesGLove RUDE post. proves my point about how selfish and entitled some people are.

Although I am sure she will post now to say she ISN'T a smoker.

But she is.

I hate lots of smells: smoke, perfume, air-freshener (gives me an instant headache), and car exhaust, are just a few of the things I hate.

I would never refuse someone a ride if I could help them out. Being nice makes me feel good more than a nasty smell makes me feel bad.

I would put a picnic blanket, an old rug, or a bin bag on the seat if I were you, to keep the smell from getting into the fabric of the car.

There are a lot of mean spirited posts on here.

Yanbu. If she wants the privilege of being given a free ride, she should be considerate of the driver (and their vehicle). Most smokers smell fucking awful, but genuinely don't realised it.

(I did also ban my friend's boyfriend from my car, because he'd go weeks without showering and wore the same pair of leather trousers every day for three weeks on the trot...)

Jeez, I wonder how some of you coped before 2007. Or just being tolerant really.

Victoire

Your last post clearly shows you don't understand the issue.

It is not about being 'outraged' that people smoke, it is about not wanting the stink of smoke in your car or on your clothes or having it drift into your eyes and mouth when you're beside someone smoking.

Someone who's had a few glasses of wine isn't inflicting a horrible stink on people around them, or forcing them to imbibe along with them.

Depends how good a mate she was, depends how inconvenient/dangerous/time consuming/expensive her alternative was. Best mate at 3 in the morning in the middle of nowhere obviously yes. Casual acquaintance to save her a safe twenty minute walk on a nice day - naaah.

I was in a hotel recently with the kids - non-smoking room obviously, and It was detectable that the previous occupant had hung a smoky coat on the coat hook because there was a whiff just there. I didn’t throw a wobbly and demand a new room, but it was definitely not nice. Now that most people don’t smoke it’s really noticeable.

I would explain politely that I find the smell of cigarette smoke lingers in the car, so I'd prefer not to give her any more lifts.

It's your choice I suppose.

How do you ever cope on public transport?
What if your adult child took up smoking? Would they be banned from your car and not allowed to visit your house?

Jesus, so many dramatic, intolerant and pathetic people around! And I don't even smoke!

I love a mn smoking thread. They're hilarious. So many noses are so easily offended!!

I've never been a smoker but dh is and our car/ house etc doesn't stink. Because he smokes rollies they don't smell as chemically. He even smokes in the car occasionally and it doesn't smell afterwards as long and it gets a good airing. I d always give a lift to a friend regardless of if they smelt of smoke or baby sick or horrible perfume.

YANBU. There's smoke smell and there's smoke smell, though. Some people absolutely stink of it, maybe because they smoke in the same jacket/cardigan/jumper day after day? It's the stale smoke that's so awful. I have this problem with a friend. The smell actually makes me gag, it's so bad. I don't know if she realises or if she would even care. The last time I gave her a lift it was a long journey and I felt really sick through the whole thing.

I don't think it's mean. It has nothing to do with the person themselves. I couldn't share a car with a barrel of tar, either, and to me the smell is on about the same level.

Does this apply to any bad odours or just a cigarette smell?

Body odour, bad breath or flatulence can be quite offensive. Some people can't stand strong perfume or the smell of dogs.

Where do you draw the line?

I wouldn't refuse a friend and I hate the smell of smoke.

It does wind me up when smokers have to have a fag right before they get in the car, then jump out at the destination with a fag in hand! Doesn't matter if they've been in the car for 10 mins or 6 hours!

Perhaps I should tell the kids I work with to go away when they come in smelling of smoke(parents). Or perhaps I should just carry on as I am and get on with life.

Where does it say that the smoker is the OP's friend? I assumed it was a work colleague or similar.

Or perhaps I should just carry on as I am and get on with life.

To be fair, I think that could be applied to almost any AIBU.

I used to get horribly travel sick on public transport as a child due to smoking, I hated it but there was nothing I could do about it. The lack of second hand smoke is a huge improvement to daily life, no smoke smell on buses, no fug of smoke left over on all of my clothes after a night out. I grew up in a no smoking house and it was really nasty coming into contact with smoke.

If it was a one off I would febreeze my car afterwards I have given lifts to smokers but it is your car and your choice.