To ignore her?

[AwayInLalaLand]

I received a series of Facebook message recently from a woman I don't know at all and have no mutual friends with. Apparently, in 2011, I went on four dates with her current boyfriend.

Her messages are very long and she asks a series of personal questions including did he get you pregnant? Did you have an abortion? She asks because "he can't remember". I didn't respond and she's been messaging since calling me unfair for not answering.

I never slept with him.

She is saying it's upsetting him not knowing if he has a child and I owe him an explanation. Funnily enough he has messaged me or attempted to contact me in anyway. She has given me her mobile number and is demanding I call her.

Am I being unreasonable ignoring her and just blocking her or should I respond and fix his memory? I just feel that six years later it's ridiculous to message me out of the blue about impossibilities.

Just to add all the messages have come from her to me. I haven't replied once.

I would not engage at all with this. Just block both of them.

Blocking was the right thing to do.

X posts away. But I would block him also. Let them sort themselves out, you owe them nothing. Seems to be getting more dysfunctional and you don't want to get dragged into that rubbish.

wait, now the supposed father of your imaginary love child is messaging you accusing you of harassing his gf?
These people (or person? You never know on the internet) are getting scary!
Maybe tell him that you've done no such thing, and you'd appreciate it if neither messaged you again or you'll be informing the police. And that you have all the messages saved. Then block him too?
I don't think you should get into a convo with them or answer their questions, but I'd verbalized that you want to be left alone.

Nope. I'd not ignore the messages from him now. She's intruded massively on your privacy, she has bombarded you with unwanted and inappropriate contact and now she is lying about you.

Send him the screen shots. Let her deal with the fall out of her own actions.

Thing is, if he hasn't told her anything about me then I'm not sure how she found me. As I said in a previous post - he and I aren't friends on FB and I'm pretty tricky to find. I am tempted to send the screenshots of her messages and block him too.

this is beyond WEIRD folks

I definitely wouldn't have replied to her, but I might have replied to him. It would just be something like "I have not messaged your gf. She has sent me 14 messages in 24 hours and appears aggressive and unhinged. I have nothing to say to either of you" ...and then block.

actually no- what Dustbunny said. Much better idea.

Don’t respond, just block him too. If you respond you’ll just encourage them. They both sound batshit.

I would send him the screen shots of what she sent you and leave him to deal with her lying about you

on a personal note.... I loathe FaceBook.. how dare this pair of numb skulls think it acceptable to 'message' themselves into your life.. pair of deluded twats... Block block block Sweetheart...

Stay safe Lala

Do not engage at all. Otherwise there will be a she said he said situation and you will be caught in the middle

You don't really know who is messaging you. It could be a nasty wind up

You owe her nothing - who ever she/he is

You owe him nothing

If it is him then he clearly has no idea how human reproduction works and you are well rid.

I agree with Dustbunny. I might call the police non-emergency number at this point too, just so it's logged.

The police do not have a big log of “crimes that may happen” for fucks sake.

I would just block him too. Let them get on with their weirdness together.

Oh gosh :(

In light of your update, I would send one message to "ex" from 6 years ago and do very much what Dustbunny has suggested. I wouldn't message him to engage, just to make it clear to him/them that you are not fucking around with their nonsense.

So mention the fact that he obviously must have been discussing you with this girl or how else would she know even who you are, and then you need to send him the messages and explain that you have not engaged with her in any way so whatever and will be keeping it that way. End with some form of "don't contact me again" and then have them both blocked.

People are fucking bizarre and social media brings out the absolute worst in them

I'd reply saying I didn't even sleep with him so no I wasn't pregnant to him or have an abortion to him. Please don't message me again, this whole things ridiculous.

Just so she doesn't spread any lies about you to someone who could know you.

yep, I'd be going to the police about this now. Maybe even messaging them both saying "police have been informed", but hey, take advice from the police first. Call 101. This is rubbish and they have no right.

Omg he has messaged you too !

Stupid is as stupid does

Block both - right pair of crazies

I also wouldn't respond. But maybe it is a good idea to not block him so at least you are aware if things escalate.

In light of your update I would message him this

"Your GF found and contacted me with questions about our history. I did not respond to any of the 14 messages she sent and blocked her. I shall be blocking you following this message. I do not wish to be contacted by either of you again and will inform the police should you do so"

OP, are you sure that it is actually him messaging you now, and not her pretending to be him?

Block them both.

Is there a function on fb where you can block all messages from anyone you're not friends with, or am I imagining it?

I was quite happy for you to block her but this is getting silly, I would definitely reply to him saying you have never contacted her and then Send screenshots and tell him thT you want to be left alone and block him too.