To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

Lethaldrizzle - the opposite of offended is a good phrase, sums it up exactly.

don’t care for who sees my boobs but I wouldn’t just whip my boob out and feed DS in a restraunt because other people aren’t always comfortable and that’s fine.

You’d seriously let your child go hungry in order to protect the feelings of strangers?!

I don’t need to have my whole breast on display to feed DS so why shouldn’t I be that little bit discreet?

But you are aware that everyone’s different right? Just because YOU don’t need your whole breast put to feed doesn’t mean everyone doesn’t.

I’m still waiting to hear what awful thing happens to the people who feel uncomfortable with a baby being fed. Do they melt? Combust? What happens?

I wouldn’t just whip my boob out and feed DS in a restraunt because other people aren’t always comfortable and that’s fine

It's not fine. It's actually really weird.

You know what? Thinking back, I was discreet about feeding and it made things really awkward for me. It meant wearing a vest under a top so I could pull one up and the other down. Not wearing dresses apart from specialist BFing ones. Wish I’d just gone for easy straps and just wapped it out.

OP - you keep banging on about how it isn't 'necessary'. Well, if it isn't necessary - why do you think you they are doing it? Are you trying to suggest some breastfeeding mothers are flashers or exhibitionists? Because I really think that must be where you are going, while trying to sound reasonable

It isn’t necessary, because there’s a just as easy option really

Most people don’t have the whole breast out. And that is because you don’t need to.

We practise a small bit of discretion because you don’t need to go to any extreme lengths and it’s just as easy as having the whole breast out really

Why can’t I respect someone else’s feelings in a place such as a restraunt, whilst also feeding my baby?

You don’t need to have the whole boob out to feed.

but I wouldn’t just whip my boob out and feed DS in a resraunt

Don’t whip your boobs people!! (Have someone else do it for you )

I think OP is playing a game where she gets points for every time she says “whole breast”. Perhaps she works for KFC.

You’d seriously let your child go hungry in order to protect the feelings of strangers?!

Sorry, when did I say that? I’d never let him go hungry.

I’d feed in a restraunt, no issue.

I just wouldn’t have my whole breast out

The people who are put off their food by the sight of a woman's breast. WHOLE BREAST mind you, are the ones with an issue. The attitude of the sight of a whole breast being something offensive is the weird one. It needs to change now because it's bloody silly.

OP once upon a time the mere glimpse of an ankle bone was considered obscene. Did you know? Times change.

I need a whole boob out to feed if I'm wearing a wrap dress - I pull the fabric to one side. The baby's head surely covers anything "offensive"?

ODFOD

And please stop staring at other people's breasts. It's rude, you weirdo.

If you come near me I'll squirt you.

I bet you read the daily mail

Yabvu.

Op posts are getting stranger. So you wouldnt mind breastfeeding whilst completely nude but don't because you don't want to offend anyone! Eh?

RESTAURANT

I haven't had a baby but I am looking down at my buoyant E cups and failing to see how I would breastfeed without exposing most of it. The baby would be a good few inches out in front.

OP you said It isn’t necessary, because there’s a just as easy option really But you didn't answer my question - why do you think they are doing it then? Care to answer?

Jesus, that picture is brilliant!!

I have small boobs but also a very wriggly baby. She would quite often unlatch and try and hurl herself onto the floor. I’m pretty sure I flashed a lot of people quite often. Would have preferred not to. She also would not tolerate any kind of feeding cover (not that you’re saying babies should be covered). Sometimes I would just wear a vest and pull down (didn’t even need a bra my boobs are so small!) so the top of my back on would be exposed. I usually had a shirt on to sort of cover the side a bit but not if I was too hot. I personally don’t give a shit if a woman has her boobs out. What I wouldn’t do is then post a pic of most of my boob on social media! I don’t mind the discretish ones that are part of the pro-breastfeeding campaigns.

I found BF bloody difficult. I would need to get my boob out and check latch.
I'm unsure how you're supposed to get out half a boob. And as for the accusation that women "leave it hanging out" for too long?!
Should we be setting a timer?
They're feeding a baby. It's not a lap dance. It's not offensive.
No wonder some women hate feeding in public.

Also, OP, it's restaurant, not restraunt.

Normally I wouldn't dream of picking people up on their spelling (except at work, I'm a teacher), but you've really annoyed me.

some people don’t want to see a whole boob

Indeed they don't. So please don't leave your house, OP.

Oh grow up! It's a baby eating/drinking.

I was RUBBISH at discrete breastfeeding with a baby that had to have my nipple repeatedly shoved in his face every feed to get the idea. I tried so hard to cover up but we both just got annoyed and sweaty so I gave up and had nothing but a positive experience. Most people are too busy getting on with their own lives to notice! YABU!

It's milk, not urine or sperm. Half said people are probably eating something including cheese.

Oh dear. They're feeding a baby. Not modelling in a double spread for playboy.

OP YANBU!! Come ON everyone, we all know ‘that mum’ who makes such a song and dance about breastfeeding it is enough to put would be breastfeeding women off as they might think they too will have to display their breasts while feeding, the same type tend to keep proffering the breast to disinterested toddlers incase the audience thought for a minute they formula fed! God forbid!
FWIW I breast fed all of mine, without fuss and always felt frustrated that ‘mum’ acted like it was a badge of honour!