To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

I don't understand. How is it physically possible to breastfeed and expose the whole boob? I mean the baby will have the nipple in their mouth and let's face it, baby heads aren't small my vag remembers that very well. So how? Unless said baby is invisible or you have ridiculously stretchy, straw like nips so the baby is still in the pram and you're sitting on a chair.... the breast will always be covered somewhat...

The thing is this YOUR problem, you’re banging on about how women don’t need to do this or that and should cover up to protect your abnormal views about breasts but it’s down to you and your frankly offensive mindset.
Stop making it their problem and responsibility to appease you, stop trying to control other women in order to get what you want.
Instead look at why you find this so offensive and sort out your issues, they’re doing nothing wrong you’re just judging with conditioned eyes, you’re conditioned to think boobs are sexual objects and therefore rude or dirty so you get offended when you see them outside of that context.
Stop oppressing and degrading women and own your shit.

I’m still waiting to hear what awful thing happens to the people who feel uncomfortable with a baby being fed. Do they melt? Combust? What happens?

I think they all combust upon the mere sight of a boob.

I once fed a very hungry baby DS on a train when the ticket inspector came around (late birthday treat for DD as DS had decided to fuck her birthday plans up with his arrival ).

Ticket Inspector didn't bat an eyelid.

Come ON everyone, we all know ‘that mum’ who makes such a song and dance about breastfeeding

No, but I do know mums who worried about what people thought about them feeding in public, especially one friend who had latch issues so had to unlatch sometimes.

OP Less discreet than that image in the toilet?

Where are you eating? I have never ever seen more than that photo. And I work with mums and babies/toddlers, plus I have BF four of my own (and continue to feed my 2.5 year old).

I think you are pulling everyone's legs/bored/writing an article for DM.

Pack it in...

OP YANBU!! Come ON everyone, we all know ‘that mum’ who makes such a song and dance about breastfeeding it is enough to put would be breastfeeding women off as they might think they too will have to display their breasts while feeding, the same type tend to keep proffering the breast to disinterested toddlers incase the audience thought for a minute they formula fed! God forbid!

Your sarcastic reply just proves that indeed, these women are rare.

Most people do cover

Most people haven’t seen anyone who’s flashed the whole breast

Again, these women are few and far between because you can feed without having the whole breast on show.

Most people are discreet

The thing is this YOUR problem, you’re banging on about how women don’t need to do this or that and should cover up to protect your abnormal views about breasts but it’s down to you and your frankly offensive mindset.
Stop making it their problem and responsibility to appease you, stop trying to control other women in order to get what you want.
Instead look at why you find this so offensive and sort out your issues, they’re doing nothing wrong you’re just judging with conditioned eyes, you’re conditioned to think boobs are sexual objects and therefore rude or dirty so you get offended when you see them outside of that context.
Stop oppressing and degrading women and own your shit.

^^ This! Bravo MadBum. I couldn't agree more.

OK I'll bite.

Oops bold fail.

Oh and please stop looking at boobs while I feed my child.

Come ON everyone, we all know ‘that mum’ who makes such a song and dance about breastfeeding it is enough to put would be breastfeeding women off as they might think they too will have to display their breasts while feeding, the same type tend to keep proffering the breast to disinterested toddlers incase the audience thought for a minute they formula fed! God forbid!

Well yes. I have one on my fb but I happen to just scroll by and unfollowed them. I can't be arsed to work up the energy to be offended by it.

"Come ON everyone, we all know ‘that mum’ who makes such a song and dance about breastfeeding"

No, I don't, I really don't. I have never seen this ostentatious breast feeding, breast completely uncovered and waving about thing that seems such a staple of these threads. Which is why I'm inclined to think that 99% of these threads (obviously not this one as OP has assured us she's on the level) are made up to start a spat/get column inches in the Daily Mail.

Sorry maroon I’m too tired to grasp sarcasm. Too busy indiscreetly breastfeeding overnight.

YABU. Absolutely none of your business how much of a woman's breast is exposed whilst she feeds her baby. If you, or any other sensitive souls can't bear to see a breast (the horror!) doing what's it's anatomically designed for, then surely it's much easier for you to look away than for the woman in question to concern herself with covering up.

Sierra Have you read my thread at all then?

The person pictures feeding is not at all what I’m referring to.

Bit pointless posting that - Since that IS discreet feeding

I didnt unfollow because of the endless BF selfies. I unfollowed because of the endless Britain First posts they also posted.

May I helpfully suggest that if someone is breastfeeding, you don't actually look at their breast? If you don't look or stare, surely it can't offend you? I will never understand how people can whine on and on about breastfeeding mums "exposing" themselves when clearly the only reason they are aware of the breast being out is because they are LOOKING. Stop staring! Look away!

Rant over.

It is interesting how the OP has ignored all the posts from people explaining why they get their whole breast out when feeding

YANBU OP, feeding discretely is clearly important... who would breastfeed continuously?

I'm a terrible klutz and this thread has put paid to any ideas I may have had of trying to breastfeed in public if so many people interpret women who don't meet their personal standards of covered-up-enough as insensitive "showing off".

Nobody is flashing you.

ShowMe You can’t always look away. It isn’t that easy.

Anyway, these mums who do expose their boob completely aren’t very common. Hence me not understanding why they need the whole breast out.

Again, Sierra, that picture you’ve posted isn’t in any way relevant to the thread

ShowMe You can’t always look away. It isn’t that easy.

Why? Have you seen an optician about that?

salukish don't be put off. As far as I can see, the thread's split about 90% - 10% between those of us who think "meh, if you're offended, that's your issue, not the bf woman's" and a small minority who support OP.

Most people won't notice/won't care/might feel a bit of a warm fuzzy feeling because seeing a newborn snuggled up is lovely. Don't let OP's attitudes put you off.

Why can't you look away?