To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

I'm convinced that what actually happens with these threads is this: two people can look at exactly the same incident and see it in completely different ways. One person sees a woman feeding her baby with maybe a very quick glimpse of nipple because babies aren't always cooperative. They think to themselves "good on her!" and possibly "oh, I remember that age, so hard to get them to concentrate on feeding when the world around them is so interesting." The other person sees a woman "getting her whole boob out, oh the shock, the horror

The person you’ve described isn’t who I was talking about. And I think you know that

Why does it matter to you?
What people choose to do in the name of feeding their child matters not a jot to me.
Wind you neck in.

Again, some places do require more discretion

Why? Does the sight of a breast put you off your food?

How often have you actually seen a woman get a whole boob out and then leave it there for some time while picking up the baby before latching the baby on

Not a lot, and I’ve seen a lot of breastfeeding take place/most of my friends breastfeed.

It just isn’t necessary to have the whole breast on show really

two people can look at exactly the same incident and see it in completely different ways. One person sees a woman feeding her baby with maybe a very quick glimpse of nipple because babies aren't always cooperative. They think to themselves "good on her!" and possibly "oh, I remember that age, so hard to get them to concentrate on feeding when the world around them is so interesting." The other person sees a woman "getting her whole boob out, oh the shock, the horror
Or there's people like me who think most people feeding might show a bit of boob and I couldn't care less but if someone is shoving it in our faces then we feel a bit . (Yes people on facebook who upload regular boob shots of milky cuddles for no other reason than drawing attention to how you feed)

OP post the photo so we can all see what level of exposure is being discussed here.

I personally don't like seeing people with multiple ear piercings. For some reason it just sets my teeth on edge. That doesn't mean people shouldn't cover up piercings, it means I should look away if I feel uncomfortable. Same applies to people who are uncomfortable with seeing part of a woman's breast when she's feeding an infant.

Why do you care? What is the sight of an uncovered breast going to do to you? It's just a breast ffs.

The only time my boob is completely on display is when my nosy baby comes off to have a look around.

And even then, it's only a boob. The majority of women have them, and they usually come in pairs.

Women are feeding their children, not brazenly swinging them about whilst attempting a moulin rouge style performance.

former It May put some people off or make them feel very uncomfortable.

That’s why this whole beach nude/celeb debate isn’t comparable in this case.

You don’t see people who go beach topless remaining topless at places like restraunts, do you?

You can’t just walk on by in restraunts as you can in beaches. You can’t not look at that eye level the whole time you’re within that place of eating.

You can Close a lad mag. You can walk off from strangers on beaches etc.

Not a lot, but actually how often? You've said one woman once. I've breastfed three children over 7 years and have never seen this - if you are going to feed a baby you get them on the breast straight away, you don't leave them in the pram while you drip milk every where

^ I mean "doesn't mean people should cover up" - I'll learn to type one day.

former It May put some people off or make them feel very uncomfortable.

So that’s when they turn their eyes away. It’s not difficult.

I was Uber discreet as I bloody hated bf in public - I don’t want anyone seeing my breasts thank you very much!! My children had the muslin draped over the wherever we were unless i was at home

Doe st really bother me if others flash their boobs about but I’d rather they didn’t sit with breasts bared if at all possible - there are ways to be discreet

You can’t just walk on by in restraunts as you can in beaches.

What about if you're happily lying on a sun lounger and you'd have to pack up all your stuff and move elsewhere.

OP post the photo so we can all see what level of exposure is being discussed here

And why would I do that? I’m not going to expose the poor woman

^You can’t be serious? You expect me to save the photo of this woman and publish it on MN?

Blur anything identifiable.

The woman who took the photo in a public place and then published it in another public place?

Choosing to be naked at a beach is not comparable to breastfeeding your baby.

It's attitude like yours that made me hide in bloody toilets for the first couple of months of DS's life, until I realised that the world wasn't going to end if I flashed a bit of nipple.
I have large breasts and as hard as I may try to be discreet, is doesn't always happen.

Not only did I have enormous engorged boobs but in order to latch DS on I had to use a nipple shield. No doubt some people saw my nipple while I did this. I wasn't trying to show my boob off I was breastfeeding my baby. Quite frankly anyone watching should have counted themselves lucky not to get sprayed with milk!

former It May put some people off or make them feel very uncomfortable

Well, they must be incredibly repressed, strange people if it has that affect on them. I'd suggest they seek help if it causes such a response in them. It is their issue to deal with rather than a bf mother's issue.

The very fact a lot of you are wanting to see the photo/in doubt this type of thing takes place just proves my point about it not being necessary to have the whole breast out.

Most people we see feeding don’t have their whole breast out because it isn’t necessary, hence the reluctance to believe what I’ve seen from some.

But those who do have their whole breast out aren’t doing it because they need to, to feed their babies.

Not only do most female family members of mine/friends feed via breast, I also work somewhere where I see BF every day.
I don’t see anyone getting their whole breast out their so why do the odd few feel it necessary?

It just isn’t needed. And the added bonus of a small bit of discretion is an added benefit because some people don’t want to see a whole boob