To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

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Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

Some day, hopefully it will be very normal to see breasts, but at the moment it’s still a novel idea for some

And how on earth do you think we'll get to that fine day? Not by hiding in the toilet to BF like welwyn upthread, that's for sure.

You should be applauding the more confident breastfeeders (though how many do you actually see baring full breasts) as they're the ones paving the way and normalizing this process.

I,recently spent time in Buenos Aires and was pleasantly surprised to see mum's BFing everywhere. On buses, trains, restaurants, park benches. BAbies and children of all ages up to about 3-4 I would guess. No fuss, no drama, no attempts to cover up and no-one gave them a second glance. It was as routine as seeing someone eating an apple or drinking a cup of coffee which is exactly as it should be.

I frequentlyhave both boobs at in public at the mo, because my toodler is at that super delightful phase of wanting to fondle one while feeding from the other, and switching sides rapidly between the two, so I don't have time to put one away before he's wanting it back out. It's part of his natural development as he becomes less reliant on my milk as food and more as comfort and until he naturally weans, I couldn't give the square root of a flying fuck what anybody else thinks.

People complaining a pictures of women bf on social media. Do you have a problem with a picture of a baby having a bottle (of which I’ve seen many), photographs of a baby’s bottle next to ‘daddy’s beer’ again I’ve seen many. If you don’t have a problem with this then your problem is breastfeeding itself.

OP are you offended by shins?

• parts of shins
• the whole shin
• a quick glimpse of shin?

There's no difference between a shin and a breast. The only difference is in your perception between the two, because you're bought into the premise that breasts are for sex, and therefore taboo.

Please don't try to make the rest of us, who haven't drunk your koolaid, agree with you. It's you that's wrong, not the rest of us.

It's an assertive action in the face of the cultural idea that breasts are for men, and women being assertive are often told they are aggressive

What I suppose you mean is women breastfeeding confidently, proudly, happily without feeling the need to hide it. And this is interpreted as 'aggressive' in the society we live in. Because god forbid a woman could be happy and content doing what her body is primed to do. Better make her feel conflicted and shit then. Nice one.

Abso-bloody-lutely.

Now imagine if men breastfed, all the facilities, acceptance and applause that would go on.

It's an assertive action in the face of the cultural idea that breasts are for men, and women being assertive are often told they are aggressive

This

I have once seen what OP is talking about. It was several years ago in a cafe. The mum lowered her top and got her entire breast out before removing sleeping baby from the pram to feed them.

I am not sure, no matter how hard you find it to BF, that it is necessary to display your breast prior to taking the baby out of the pram.

I have no issue with BF discreetly or otherwise in public BUT I did think it was unnecessary for this woman to do this.

@PotatoesPastaAndBread If this thread shows you anything it's that 99% of people will:

a) support you, or
b) not give a shiney shit

Please get outside and enjoy showing off your baby

I just view breasts that are being used to bf in the same way I view a bottle, it’s just a delivery method so even a full breast wouldn’t offend me anymore than seeing a bottle of formula would. I guess I’ve been brought up to view breastfeeding as the norm and most people in the UK aren’t.

Personally I don’t think we should hide or cover up. We are feeding our babies and if someone has a problem with it because of personal hang ups around nudity that’s their problem not mine

Yes cherry - if men breast fed.....Very different world!

taratill That's not for you to judge.

How a woman breastfeeds is none of your business.

There could be any number of reasons a woman breastfeeds " indiscreetly".

Who exactly do you think you are trying to protect with your moral crusade?

Did you @taratill?

And did you also stop to think that this is the most convenient or comfortable way for the woman to give her baby it's meal? That maybe she struggles to wake a sleeping baby and fiddle about removing her breast from her clothes at the same time?

This was years ago and you're still judging. Fucking bully for you.

Yes, tricky to get a sleeping sometimes floppy baby up and positioned whilst taking your breast out and keeping covered up. Be much easier getting boob out first so can easily see why the woman would do that. I doubt very much she did it to force people to look at her boob.

Lapin: "Hack dear if anyone sounds ridiculous it’s you. And you might want some counselling or quiet reflection for your issues with men."

I'm sorry you find my concern with male violence - rape, sexual abuse, war etc, all the things I mentioned in my post - "ridiculous". It must be nice, I guess, not to be troubled by those things. But how strange, when you are so zen about all those terrible things, that you find women feeding their babies in public "aggressive".

There's no nice way to put this, but frankly: you're not the sharpest tool in the box, are you?

Just reading today’s additions to this thread while I aggressively breastfeed my son.

Crikey I don't understand why people have to be so rude. Maybe it was the case that she couldn't get the baby out and take her breast out to feed, maybe not. It certainly didn't seem to be that way, it was delay between getting her breast out before baby was taken out of pram which made me think it was a bit 'flashy', but hey ho no one on here is allowed to have an opinion or to say that sometimes a woman might display more flesh than necessary are they?

I am extremely pro- breastfeeding. Was a breast feeding counsellor, donated breast milk and genuinely couldn't give a flying fuck if I see a breast when a woman is breastfeeding or not. But on this occasion the breast was out and the woman wasn't breastfeeding and I'm getting shouted down for pointing out that sometimes it can happen.

genuinely couldn't give a flying fuck if I see a breast when a woman is breastfeeding or not.

But you clearly do care.

speakout I really don't, I'm just saying that what the OP was describing can happen. Many people on here have said they've never seen it.

That's why I commented, I have seen what the OP was describing.

Tara maybe she struggles to lower her top and undo her bra with one hand?

cherry that is fine, it was the passage of time between getting the breast out and picking the baby up which was notable.

But taking a selfie of doing it and making a point about doing it isn't necessary.

youarenotkidding, taking a selfie of anything is practically never necessary. But since when did necessity govern everything we do? Should we just ban selfies full stop? And what is "making a point of doing it"? Baby needs to be fed, baby gets fed. No-one deliberately prevents their child from being fed indoors just so that they can go out and feed publicly.

I meant get on with it like FF feeders as in just do it! No photos no SM posts about how marvellous you are and how your getting your boobs out to prove a point.

I've seen plenty of pictures of babies being bottle fed. Does it occur to you that people like to take pictures of their babies, and the fact that they happen to be feeding at the time may well be incidental? And how often have you seriously seen anyone breastfeeding where she is saying "Look at me, aren't I wonderful?" Because I never have, and I've been around an awfully long time. Apart from anything else, anyone with half a brain knows they are only doing what women and animals have been doing for centuries and no-one is going to be impressed.

It's an assertive action in the face of the cultural idea that breasts are for men, and women being assertive are often told they are aggressive

• yes!