To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

Oh my god - do it in a toilet, do it under a fucking blanket and all the rest? Don't you realise how utterly victorian and backwards this sounds? And how much damage the whole spectrum of this attitude does.

Lumping breast feeding mum's in with 'that' mother who keeps geting her whole boob out and waving it about bla bla bla (who i've yet to see) ... don't you see you're being 'that' prudish idiot? You're just standing along side 'that' person who perpetuates the awful women hide your tits unless it's for sex bollox?

If no one gave a fuck about seeing a Whole Breast then 'that' mother (who ever the hell it is) would cease to even be because no one would care! It's the nose wrinklers who have created this straw argument 'that' mother.

I really really hope that by the time my youngest is old enough to have her own baby that everyone who looks back on these ''so offended by seeing a whole boob, why not go and sit in the toilets'' comments literally laugh out loud at them and say 'really?'. Just like we do at the 'Stick disinfectant up your fanny in case you stink' ads of the 20s. It's just the same bloody stick being used to beat women with.

I’ve never suggested another mother should feed her baby in the toilet just because its what I did. Each mother should do what she feels comfortable with

Just half an hour ago I saw a WHOLE pair of boobs in STARBUCKS. Brazen and for all to see - nipples and all. Was it on a breastfeeding mother? No of course not - it was on page 3 of a certain newspaper being drooled over by a bloke a few tables over. He could have at least put a muslin over his head...

Babies need fed, its simple, if you are out for dinner so is your baby, however saying that you don't whack out you boob for all unsundry to see. there is no harm in throwing a muslin over your shoulder to sheild the rest of your breast, thisi s alway how I fed my dcs, and apart from anything else I always found I was freezing unless i used a blanket or muslin.

Oh and breastfeeding in a public toilet? How very unhygienic! There aren't enough Milton wipes in the world...

Bluesap are you doing it outside in the winter? !

Bluesapp surely the top of your breast is the bit that is totally socially acceptable to have exposed? Or should every woman in a scoop neck top balance a muslin over their chest?

BlueSapp and that's fine for you.

I didn't give a shiny shit about anyone getting offended by seeing my breast.

Their problem.

Re the toilet. I walked in to
the empty room and sat on a chair, I didn’t have cause to touch anything else. My baby fed in peace and quiet. Now, public changing tables, that’s what there aren’t enough wipes for.

I'm thinking 4 nights every 6 weeks is on the high side

Sorry, i missed this bit. Yes, i'd agree.

Occasionally if the weather is particularly nice and we're all out in the garden ect then in-laws will stay longer. A full day. That's long enough even though i like them well enough If you see them too often there's nothing to talk about!

Ha! Wrong thread

The daily fail have latched onto this thread..lol

Breasts are there to feed your babies, nothing else

They have a sexual purpose too though

I’m not saying they do in a BF context, but still, that statement simply isn’t true

Just half an hour ago I saw a WHOLE pair of boobs in STARBUCKS. Brazen and for all to see - nipples and all. Was it on a breastfeeding mother? No of course not - it was on page 3 of a certain newspaper being drooled over by a bloke a few tables over. He could have at least put a muslin over his head..

Yeah, okay. Because that really happened

They have a sexual purpose too though

I’m glad where I live we don’t share the same ridiculous, prudish attitudes. Hmm, our breastfeeding rates are also much much higher too.....

They have a sexual purpose too though
Some people find eyes sexually attractive.
Some people have a thinh for feet.
Some people love hips and bums.
Some people love hair.

All of those things can be sexual. It doesn't give them a sexual PURPOSE.

The purpose of breasts is to feed babies. They may ve attractive to men. They may be nice to touch and be touched. However that is not their purpose.

Protectingmydaughterfromfilthbutnotfrommisongynisticdisgustingviews

Some people find eyes sexually attractive.
Some people have a thinh for feet.
Some people love hips and bums.
Some people love hair.

All of those things can be sexual. It doesn't give them a sexual PURPOSE.

^I have to disagree there. Women’s breasts are a distinguishable sexual feature, and play a part in arousal. They even become aroused during sexual activity for a lot of women and respond to touch in a few different ways because of this.

I’m not saying this is relevant when BF but I have to disagree that feeding a baby is their only purpose at all

I'm with you OP! No need to show the whole thing

Pooshweens breastfeeding will at times be "indiscreet" for a whole host of reasons.

It's part of the process.

Strange how the Mail picks up the thread about breasts but not the one about Universal Credit.

I always tried to layer up so I could pull a top up and then bra and other top down so I had a top sandwich with a boob for filling and I found that the most comfortable way to feed. However if I’d gone out on a quick errand not expecting child to be hungry and wore a scoop neck then it was up and out as an only option believing the top of my breast was less offensive than my whole mummy tummy lol.

It literally wouldn’t bother me in any way, I find myself struggling to not high five women feeding their babies in public proudly. Just because of how hard it felt for me to do it publicly sometimes with the stares and judgement even when doing it discreetly.

Strange how the Mail picks up the thread about breasts but not the one about Universal Credit

Quite. If the UC bashed poor people rather than tried to raise awareness for poor people then they’d be all over it like a rash.

The mail love a thread about women's bodies, laughing at poor people or any excuse to mock immigrants.