To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

Don't look then! Baby needs to be fed. I have never seen a bf mum with her breasts on display, Mo's of the time there's nothing to see. Why should baby be covered under a blanket or cover, very uncomfortable for baby, your not supposed to put anything over the babies head anyway.

Well senza I’m not OP and have already agreed that other women shouldn’t give a damn about my pov, and vice versa. I’m not trying to change their behaviour. I just prefer to feed the way I did and look or move away if there is a nursing mother with her full breast out. I’m not trying to justify my viewpoint or expect agreement

why should paying customers have to suddenly turn and stare at a wall

You must eat in some very odd places if the only options you have are to look at a breastfeeding woman or a wall

@Protectingmydaughterfromfilth are you for real???? Wapping their tits out to get attention?

They’re feeding their babies just like you are!!
Get over it. If you don’t like it don’t look.

This is part of the reason why breastfeeding rates are so low, the negative attitudes.feeling like your restricted to home. I did not bf my children as I had so many difficulties, but managed to pump my milk for 9 months for 1

Super depressing to see this thread. I loved breastfeeding my baby but it was very intimidating in the early days when out and about because of exactly this attitude.
I used to try and cover up but baby would pull whatever I tried away and would come off the nipple dramatically leaving milk to spurt everywhere. Most people who breastfeed for any length of time have had something similar happen.
Mothers just can't win. They make baby slightly uncomfortable trying to cover up or don't get their boobs out quickly enough and baby cries - people look and judge. They feed their baby in a normal way that makes baby happy - people look and judge. How about just enjoy your meal like a normal person and let the baby enjoy theirs.
I live partly in brighton and have to spend my entire summer seeing fat men walk around with tits out that are bigger than most breastfeeding women's.
My boobs aren't the result of morbid obesity and are serving a very important purpose- yet fat man is free to flaunt his tits all summer long and I have to hide under a tarpaulin like some hideous freak? Nope.

agreed protecting! Why should anyone have to stay home?

I think those people protesting the suggestion that breastfeeding mothers carry a muslin or shawl are missing the point slightly. The cover could be very useful to discreetly drop over the head of anyone so transfixed by the sight of oh my god boobs!!1!!! that they loose the ability to turn their head or blink.

The only time I've had significant comment on public bfing was waiting for a delayed train on a rather cold station concourse when the manager came across to say 'don't be feeding the baby there...... come in to the office where its warm and we'll find you a cuppa while your at it'.

Shockingly, I recently bf DD in a busy M&S cafe at the same time as DSis was bfing her DD. Blatant exhibitionism. We even ate scones while feeding the babies

People should stay home if they are offended by the sight of a baby being fed.

I think the whole thing boils down to the fact Brits are very weird about nudity of any kind. If it's on a sunny beach abroad then fine. But god forbid a woman was to be topless on a beach here. There would be uproar! Think that's why it's so shocking to some people to see a bare breast in public, even if it's being used for its sole purpose of breastfeeding. It's so unusual to see any level of nudity in this country. It's sad that it's like this and I'm not sure it will ever change

Protectingmydaughterfromfilth so you managed to plan your day. Woopie doo for you

Many women can't for so many reasons. And why should they? You've bought into the misogyny big time. Those mothers are equally as important as you, so just look away in future.

Fuck me there's some right ones on here today

i don't walk down the street with 'my tit' out ffs, I feed my baby by sitting down somewhere comfortable for us both.

Maybe we should sit in a toilet, balance uncomfortably surrounded by the sweet aroma of body excrement?

But as long you're not uncomfortable eh???

protecting

Obvious troll is obvious. Look at "its" username.

The only time I've had significant comment on public bfing was waiting for a delayed train on a rather cold station concourse when the manager came across to say 'don't be feeding the baby there...... come in to the office where its warm and we'll find you a cuppa while your at it'.

That’s so lovely. Doesn’t take much to be kind and considerate and make someone’s day a bit better

Dc2 wouldn't feed unless I wapped my tit out and fed him standing up bouncing gently at the knees. God only knows what that looked like

NoCrying that would be a much more efficient use for a feeding cover, no question!

I'm a bit concerned op - you refer to breasts as ' things' on more than one occasion - you mention that inadvertently seeing a breast might put you off eating your lunch - and also when you do actually refer to a breast as a breast you use an odd terminology - 'the' breast - not her breast or my breast or your breast.

You sound rather disconnected to your breasts.

Why should paying customers have to suddenly turn and stare at a wall

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

How can anyone be offended about BFing in public?

It’s just so silly.

What did we do before clothes?

Did all those naked humans run around screaming “My eyes! My eyes!”

It takes a few seconds to engage one’s brain and see that it’s just a social norm. Which means we can change it if it’s a stupid one.

It’s just a boob FGS.

Protecting, you know perfectly well that it's extremely easy to avoid looking at anything in a restaurant that you don't want to look at without staring at a wall. Personally, when I don't want to look at someone picking their teeth or similar, I look at the person I'm with, or the book I've got with me, or out of the windows or, well, anything really.

It was fantastic CoffeeCupCake, it turned what would have been a really stressful journey into an easy one

Amongst the women I’ve talked to about breastfeeding, not one cited feeling intimidated as the reason they didn’t. Some did for a few days but wanted to share the feeding routine with partners etc, or needed to spend time away from their baby early making bf not a realistic option. Some wanted to drink alcohol.

But it is certainly part of the reasons some women do stop breastfeeding.

I have not met a single breastfeeding woman ( and I have met thousands) who was not daunted at the prospect of breastfeeding in public.

Until you are in that situation of having to feed your baby in a public place you can't really understand how it feels.

I’ve fed both my DC and with my first I would always go somewhere private to feed, with my second however I’m more comfortable in my skin about feeding so will feed when it’s needed but I still would choose to cover myself as much as I wanted because I wouldn’t want people staring at me. Most of the time you can’t even tell that a baby is feeding unless you are really staring and then I think that’s the other persons problem not the lady feeding.

Speakout I breastfed for 6m. I think there’s a difference between women who feel daunted feeding in public and women who would rather not.

Whenever I fed my son in public it would have been difficult to tell he was being fed and not just cuddled.