To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

I feed pretty discreetly. That’s my choice. How another woman decides to feed her baby is absolutely her choice, and nobody else’s business.

YABU.

Yes we know it's natural, but so is farting, doesn't mean I just let one rip whenever I feel like it.

What a strange comparison. Breathing is natural, must we stop doing this in public too?

Why are you looking?

Yes we know it's natural, but so is farting, doesn't mean I just let one rip whenever I feel like it.

We're comparing breastfeeding to farting now?

For the love of all the saints.

So if I point out that some people are probably made uncomfortable by the sight of your uncovered hair, would you breast-covering people agree to wear a headscarf on that basis?

I remember sitting at a bus stop, freezing cold and baby started wailing for a feed NOW. Shops were shutting (Sunday if I recall correctly) so nowhere to go. Popped baby on boob and sat chatting with the elderly lady beside me while baby fed. Bus arrives and I pop baby down, hop on and pay, sit down on bus and realise left boob was out the entire time
Then realise why the driver was furiously avoiding eye contact 😂 Made a right tit of myself.
Many times I accidentally showed a bit more of myself than probably needed, many times people didn't realise baby wasn't simply sleeping. Oh god, many times he decided to wave it around and have a chat, loudly dribble and gurgle milk. Latch on latch off repeat.
Who actually cares though? My male friends thought it was hilarious or very sweet, my female friends (all of whom had bottle fed) were amazed and many inspired to give breastfeeding a go with the next one. No one sat gawping at my breast. They didn't see breast. They saw baby needing feeding and mummy attending to babies needs.

I also had no problem feeding him in toilets out of sight. Why have your boob publicly on show when feeding a baby but covered up when not?

Are you being serious welwynn?

Next time there's no room at a restaurant you and your friends go out too. Just say politely that you'll still have the dinner and you'll eat in the ladies. After all, it's not like a toilet is considered unhygienic...

I don’t know if this was your intention af all, but as a new Mum you have really knocked my confidence at breastfeeding.

I have a small back size and large cup sizes. Feeding my baby is very difficult without getting the whole breast out. I’m so self conscious about being judged I prefer to return to my car and breastfeed there, rather than settle in a coffee shop or sit in the shopping mall. If I can find a breastfeeding room, I will go there but it is very isolating.

Even when sitting in my car, I feel paranoid that someone is going to walk past and judge me for it.

I have tried lifting my top, but then I can’t see if my baby is properly latched and he has bits of material dangling in his face.

I have no idea what ‘whole boob’ actually means in this context as my baby is covering the nipple - but you probably will get side boob views or possibly bits of aureole, and I don’t really know how to cover that as my babies head isn’t big enough for it.

You are completely the problem for new mothers trying their best.

It’s a fucking boob!!!

They are out on beach on hols all the time

Wtf is wrong with people

New mothers please ignore all this crap. The only people who will judge you are judgy fuckers who would be judging you on something or other anyway. Feeding your baby from your own body is a superpower

Cherrychasing. I was quoting.

But I breast fed for thirteen months and always covered myself with a muslin cloth

Well done you. I'm not willing to fuck about under a muslin cloth with a month old baby with a poor latch and my massive tits. It's wonderful that you managed to discretely hide your tit under a cloth, but completely fucking irrelevant to the rest of us.

I'm not doing it to prove a point, I'm not progressive or some earth mother, I'm just someone relatively new to breast feeding, with a massive pair of knockers. So you can take your judgement and shove it up your arse.

WonderLime bless your heart I really feel for you Ultimately I think this is one of the reasons why I didn't manage to BF longer than a few weeks. It's hard enough for a lot of women to get a latch and the last thing we want to be worrying about is people judging us in public. As a result I avoided doing it in public, instead deciding to express bottle feed. Don't let silly fuckers make you feel like you need to hide away. Easier said than done.

What you said resonated with me hugely. I too used to try and BF in my car also worrying people could see. I used to sit in the back seats as the windows were tinted. Don't let stupid people's opinions defeat you. You're doing an amazing thing. I wish I had read positive threads on BF at the time as it would have given me more confidence.

I'm expecting DC #2 now and after reading all these positive posts, fully intend to whip it out whenever and wherever baby requires me to! to all those who are struggling and have struggled in the past.

Sometimes I want to wear a wrap dress and my DD won't tolerate a muslin draped anywhere near her. Technically my whole boob is out but so fucking what. I'm feeding my baby, forgive me if I didn't give consideration to your prudish feelings when I dressed this morning. I'm not doing it to make a point or to get attention or any other ridiculous reason. I've breastfed for 3 years in total (2 babies). I don't want to worry every single day if I can breastfeed 'discretely' in what I'm wearing - as long as I can get a boob out one way or another it will do.
Maybe spend less time staring at breastfeeding mothers in case you glimpse an inch of boob flesh. The horror!

I always breastfed completely naked other than some Perspex stripper heels and a nipple tassel on the unused boob. I did so in the hope that I could seduce other women's husbands, feeding my baby was just a by product really.

I know this thread will have really moved on and it's probably been addressed to death (I'm only on p4) but this has really got on my tits:
Why should the bf mum's feelings override someone else's?
Why should someone else's feelings override the BF mother's? Is she supposed to subjugate her own and her baby's needs to the whims of someone she doesn't know and will never see again? Like hell!

BF? Then get your boobs out, keep them covered, whatever feels best for you. These whingers aren't putting your feelings first so why should you worry what they think? Just feed your baby and be happy.

I breastfeed 1yo DS in the baby carrier, walking down the street, on the bus, and on our walk through the university campus, whole breast hoiked over the top of my neckline, most mornings on our way to nursery/work. He's still feeding quite a lot, and I can't express, so have to maximise our morning/evening feeds on the way to nursery/home. I couldn't give two shits who sees a hint of my nipple/underboob/side boob/whole boob. My priority is a healthy, happy DS. Not other adults misplaced squeamishness about a piece of flesh doing the job it was designed to do:

wonderlime please don't worry. I love seeing new mums feeding babies, it's beautiful. Most people don't even notice!!

I know Radio my comment was to Rockette!

I love seeing new mums feeding babies, it's beautiful. Most people don't even notice!!

Can I just point out to any new mums or mums-to-be that the vast majority of people aren’t the least bit phased by BF in public. I’ve done it for 4.5 years in total and have never had so much as a dirty look. I’ve had maybe a dozen comments though - every single one of them positive about what a beautiful thing it is to do. And I have made positive comments to others (where it’s appropriate of course!). The ‘OPs’ of the world are few and far between IME

Oh dear...Not a WHOLE breast I would never do this...I always make sure I only whip out 97% or less of my boob.

I’d like to know where the offending mother bought a top that reveals 100% of one breast and the side of her body but covers the other up completely?

OP, do you think art galleries should cover up dreadful indiscreet pictures like these? churchpop.com/2014/08/10/31-beautiful-paintings-of-mary-nursing-the-baby-jesus/

It's become more of a thing lately, like "oh look at me I'm feeding my baby my boobs are out and I don't care because it's natural". I don't have a problem with it if your feeding your baby then whatever but it's when they get in your face about it like there trying to prove a point. It's like get on with it, I don't give a toss.