To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

I appreciate women who make no effort to "cover", society needs to be exposed to what boobs are for. Not coddled and encouraged in their indignation and horror that breasts exist to feed babies. I'm sick of snide comments from my friend to my infant son like "no honey, don't pull off the blanket, we don't want to put on a show!" Oh yes, because I chose to breastfeed so I can flash people and give em a free show, it gives me such a kick . I'm still uncomfortable and self conscious, which pisses me off.

I remember struggling with hot itchy sweaty blankets and coats, trying to shield grown adults from the horrors of...boobs! And my baby also thoroughly frustrated and screaming. Nope.
The way I look at it, they're trying to normalize breastfeeding, and they get a lot of flack. But bless em

We went to Spain when ds1 was 7mo we would find ourselves in a restaurant and and ds1 feeding and waiters would stand watching and smiling and telling us how beautiful it was, which i found nice but weird. In our hotel was a group of walkers from France and they were obviously horrified, one day one of them came over and asked how old ds1 was and when i told her said abruptly 'how long are you planning on feeding him for' i said till he didn't want to anymore, maybe 2ish. She wasn't impressed and actually stamped back to her group spoke to them all in French they all looked both furious and like they were going to vomit and said very loud things in French about it while staring at me. It was surreal. I still remember it and crack up.

Men may like to believe tits belong to them, but they don't. They belong to us and if we choose to breastfeed, to our babies.

I'd really really love to add 'suck it up'

Not my circus, not my monkeys. I don't have DC. And I don't care how people feed their baby, if baby is hungry then feed.
Boob in, boob out, it's just a bit of flesh and I can't bring myself to get offended by a boob
Even if someone was walking down the street topless, tandem feeding - not my problem. If they're comfortable and baby is happy then that's the main thing. I can look away, but that would be my issue to deal with

It is as a result of attitudes like the OP’s that I have sat discreetly feeding in public, in physical pain from a poor latch so that I wouldn’t offend anyone by getting my “whole boob” out to fix it. And it’s the reason why I still get flustered when feeding my very distractible baby in public 8 months on!
Pleased to see that the majority of people couldn’t care less about seeing a breast being used for its sole purpose.

I think the possibility of someone being offended is of far lower importance than a baby being fed in the best way (which is sometimes tricky or downright hard). I wasn't able to bf my first and am now bf my second. So I'm not anti formula by any means, but the reality is that many mums stop because they feel they can't get out and about while feeding. I don't 'waft' my boobs, but would it make it easier if I could...yeah probably. I went overseas to visit family in a culture where women to bf with naked top halves and it was quite liberating!
So if increasing breastfeeding rates to 80% required all mums to be able to walk around topless then it would be a price worth paying- I'm being ludicrous, but even taken to its most extreme I just don't see what the big deal is...

It's all been said already but to add..

1. there is nothing to be discreet about

2. it's ok to have top of boob exposed in low cut top, it's ok to have bottom of boob out in lifted top style feeding. But both areas of the breast simultaneously. That's a no no?

3. the only way to normalise bf is to do it more. More tits more often in more places! Then it won't be an issue.

4. there is nothing to be discreet about

5. maybe said mother wanted to make a song and dance about it. Maybe she is proud because it took her a long time to get to where she is with it. Well done her.

6. maybe she just is so exhausted she dosent give a shit who sees her boobs anymore.

7. why are you the boob/ discretion police?

In summary YABU your attitude stinks

Spanish isn't a race, for goodness sake.
It's a nationality. It also has varied cultures and histories, and certainly not homogenous (as per most of Europe too). Race implies genetic and biological traits, which extend far beyond nationalities.

If someone is offensive to Spaniards they're not racist, they're xenophobic.

White Spaniard? Caucasian is your race.

I'd love to be able to feed discretely but have giant boobs and a baby with latch problems. No choice but to have full boob out a lot of the time.

God they’re only boobs doing what boobs are meant to do. If you’re offended, avert your eyes.

Funny/not funny breastfeeding story. In IKEA with new baby screaming the place down. There's nowhere to sit and feed around the till area AT ALL till I saw a square of sofas for people to chill on in the middle of a big open space. Sat and fed with back to the tills to be discreet as much as possible. Still felt awkward as I chanted 'nothing to be embarrassed about' and baby latched on and off badly, screaming in between. Luckily though nobody could really see.

Until I finished and got up and realised....there were fucking cameras projecting exactly my couch across screens to all the tills. I guess promoting the sofas.

I actually held back tears of shame while continuing to chant 'nothing to be embarrassed about' all the way to the car where I had a cry.

YABVFU.

Aw, Karate

Karate Id have felt just as embarrassed if I had a screaming bottle fed baby who wasn’t taking properly

karate you fed your baby against all the odds

Statues of of breastfeeding women in public places is what we need, to commemorate all the brave women who've got on with it despite public shaming and to get everybody used to the idea that it should be a normal sight

Karate I think Ikea should have reimbursed you for that excellent demonstration of how comfy their sofas are

Agree with YABU.

Having first child in the next few weeks - feel very strongly about wanting to breastfeed him. I will probably try and cover up as much as poss as that is totally my choice and I think I will feel more comfortable that way (although who knows how I will feel when he actually arrives) however I couldn't care less what other women decide to do and doubt I'd even notice to be honest. I don't tend to really LOOK at other people when I'm out and about anyway... And I think there are far more sights to be offended by than a woman feeding her child!!

OP, you didn't say that. It was in response to Welwyncitydweller.

Karate. IKEA are Scandie and progressive so you were perfectly in keeping with their ethos!

People probably thought you were a model

I can assure you I did not look like a model. More like a half crazed, unkempt shell of a woman😂

Rackelle, believe you me, another BF mother couldn't give a stuff about your 'norks' and if you don't want to see another BF mothers 'norks' , just look the other way.

This won a major portrait award recently (portrait of the artist's wife and daughter)

Breastfeeding SHOULD be allowed wherever & whenever. But I breast fed for thirteen months and always covered myself with a muslin cloth. I think some women get everything out to make a point. Don't understand it, women have breastfed for thousands of years, so why do some women constantly expect a pat on the head? You can be discreet. Yes we know it's natural, but so is farting, doesn't mean I just let one rip whenever I feel like it.

As grown women can we all just say ‘breasts’ please. I know you think using words like ‘norks’ strengthens your pathetic argument that breasts are objects of humour and/or sex but it’s really very childish.