To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

Sweetpea, I'd complain to the manager if the staff are holding your eyes open, all Clickwork Orange-esque and forcing you to look at boobs, blue veined or not while eating your toasted tea cake.

Speak for yourself sweetpea! Not all lactating breasts are like that.

Sorry op but I think yabu about this. If a breastfeeding mum chooses to cover up, then it is her choice. If she chooses not to, that is also her choice.
But I don't think it is up to you to say that a lady should cover up, even partially. Therefore should a lady wearing a low cut top cover up?
Would you expect a person feeding a child with a bottle to cover up the bottle? No. So why would you expect a person to cover up a breast?
(FWIW, I chose to formula feed exclusively because it was what I wanted to do. But the idea that breastfeeding should be hidden or be something to be ashamed to do in public doesn't sit right with me at all).

I had to have a fair bit of breast out for my son to latch and feed effectively. I also didn't make him feed with something over his head as I wouldn’t like to eat like that. It took me ages to get the hang of breastfeeding and I wasn't going to let people put me off just because they can only see breasts as sexual and nothing more.

I personally do not want be confronted by a huge blue veined boob while I'm trying to eat my toasted tea cake in a cafe. Yes it's All wonderful and natural and free, on tap, bonding etc. But do have a bit of decoram

Are you backwards or something?

Would a veinless boob be ok?

OR you could, I dunno...look away 😱😱😱 perish the thought!!!

Oh dear. This isn’t much good for the old self confidence.

I try to be discreet when I am out and about feeding my dd but I really feel that it is so relative - one person’s ‘wafting’ breast is someone else’s discreet feeding.

I fed my 3 week old dd during a wedding ceremony of a friend over summer. I thought I was being terribly discreet but it turns out that the angle the photographer was at meant my boob was featured heavily in the bride down the aisle shots. I feel genuinely bad as that wasn’t my intention but really I tried my hardest and the bride and groom appear not to be concerned.

I typically use one up one down when out but I would think nothing other than “good on you” as it is just easier. I honestly think there are times when I am so worried about covering up that I take longer, baby gets frustrated and therefore I end up flashing anyone who is looking.

It would be absolutely wonderful if women feeding babies could be just that and no more and no less.

Is the objection really that it's not okay because the breasts in question aren't attractive enough?

Where have I said I was protecting him from my breastfeeding friend? He walked in and wondered she minded and felt awkward, I explained that she was fine with him watching tv there.

Basically OP, you yourself wouldn't choose to BF with a whole boob out. Neither would I actually, but that's MY choice.

I wouldn't choose to wear Dr. Martens, ruffles, or anything midriff revealing.... again, MY CHOICE.

This is about choice, preference, and NEED. I actually found it pretty hard to feed under a cover or without exposing a decent amount of boob (think big, saggy and baby with tongue tie).

You need to find something else to be offended by. Stinky food on public transport, dog fouling in public, etc etc. Have fun.

Where have I said I was protecting him from my breastfeeding friend? He walked in and wondered she minded and felt awkward, I explained that she was fine with him watching tv there.

Exactly. You tell him it's fine and move on. If he is uncomfortable after the fact, that is his problem.

@Sweetpea55 lmao aw mate if I ever saw you giving me a hacky look I'd definitely squirt my breast milk at you. I'd also help you shove that tea cake somewhere more appropriate

I find it annoying when you get women on social media blatantly trying to provoke a reaction.

I'll probably sound totally unreasonable saying this but when DS was a baby, I massively struggled with BF. I just couldn't do it and after weeks of trying I had to stop for the sake of my mental health. For months after I felt a failure and absolutely HATED when people posted intentionally provocative BF photos like OP mentioned- revealing or not. Nothing to do with a boob being out.

I have no issue with nudity and completely support those who BF. Still just when you get these 'I don't give two shits what your opinion is' mum's who post 100s of photos of them BF. It's hard trying to explain my issue relating to BF on social media to people, without getting a negative reaction.

I find the objection due to their unattractiveness appalling actually. I can’t even begin to explain how frustrated and annoyed that makes me

It’s simply being a bit discrete about how much you have on show because it does make some people a little uncomfortable.

Why does it matter to you if people are uncomfortable?

If that was the determining factor in society, then we'd be back a couple of centuries! Who gives a shit?
If people are uncomfortable then that's their problem.

I personally do not want be confronted by a huge blue veined boob while I'm trying to eat my toasted tea cake in a cafe. Yes it's All wonderful and natural and free, on tap, bonding etc. But do have a bit of decoram

I don't want to be confronted by someone noisily eating their food while chewing with their mouth open, but that's my problem, not theirs and I just look away

Passmethecrisps. Sadly, this was likely to be the intention of this thread. Take heart in the fact that an outstanding majority of the responses do not agree with the OP. Don't let a few people with their own issues knock your confidence. Your baby(ies) are far, far more important

Pandora I wouldn't even consider an 11 year olds feelings. I wouldn't adapt what I was doing to save them embarrassment.

Well I would and did.

Wow, you would hate to be friends with me then. I am very claustrophobic to the point jumpers can cause me to feel enclosed. I wear vest tops daily. When I breast feed I have my breast out and do not cover myself at all. However, with baby's head in the way you see very little. You probably see more of my breasts when I am not breast feeding than when I am.
I may come off quite opinionated with this post. However, I am the bloody disgrace of a mother that if my baby needs feeding I will feed on bus, in a cafe or just walking down the road having a chat with my DP - you know as if it is a natural thing!
Simple - if it makes you uncomfortable feel free not to look. I see things around me that make me uncomfortable daily. I have 2 wonderful parts of my body I put to good use when uncomfortable sights are around. The first is my neck - it allows me to turn my head away and look somewhere else. The second amazing part of my body is less practical but more effective - eyelids! I simply close them and hey presto I can't see anymore!
I am so tired of people having a negative opinion on how women 'should' feed. Breast/bottle - covered/uncovered! For crying out loud a baby is being fed. It does not matter how as long as the Mum is comfortable in her choices and her baby has a full stomach, what does it matter?

I'm fully aware the problem lies with me but I just wish some people would be a little more understanding regarding BF. I do think that if a boob is enough to put you off your tea cake then you have deeper issues going on. Are you repulsed by your own boobs?!

Haven't read the whole thread but JesusTap that is a brilliant photo! OP if you want to cover yourself up, crack on. Your opinions are far worse than your tits though - maybe pay more attention to that.

Personally I don't want to see someone eating a teacake in public. They are disgusting.

Sorry, I also want to make it clear that I have no issue at all seeing women BF out and about in public. It's just bloody social media!

Oh well, sweetpea just close your eyes and shove your teacake in your mouth. I’m sure you you can find it in the dark.

I could never really get the hang of covering up, dd from when she was born would push off anything covering her or cry and refuse to feed. Tshirts kept creeping up and because she was so fidgety other things fell off