To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

There is nothing to be discrete about.

There is nothing to be discrete about.

There is nothing to be discrete about.

You need a rethink.

No therapy needed thank you. You however need ks2 comprehension exercises my lovely if you think that anything in my post can be interpretend as breasts disgusting me.

Again, these women are few and far between because you can feed without having the whole breast on show.

Or maybe lots of women are worried and ashamed of showing their breasts during feeding because of people like you, maybe they’ve read and seen so much in the media and social media recently about breast shaming that they dare not show even a bit of sideboob incase someone like you starts a thread about it to bash them, or worse actually challenges them in public.

Maybe if society stopped sexualising breastfeeding women could stop feeling ashamed, oppressed and guilty about feeding their babies in a way that makes them comfortable.
The few women that are brave enough to feed this way should be applauded for normalising what should already be normal not shamed and made to feel like exhibitionists.

I’m not alright because the pervasive hateful misogyny surrounding women’s bodies is a massive issue. None of us should be alright about it; none of us should be perpetuating it.

So is the Sam Faiers photo OK Bonk? I can't see any more boob there than the non-breastfeeding pic Sierra posted.

These people can’t help being bloody gay or mixed race. What utter tosh

As opposed to babies, who can obviously control their hunger?

If I ever breastfed with my boob flinging out there would have been sprays of milk flying about all directions before the baby latched.

Madbum excellent post

I know it depends on the person, but for me if I'm trying to eat and I see someone's whole boob in my eyeline it does put me off my food. I think it should of course be allowed, but a little subtlety is really appreciated, as with many things.

Really singing? Really?

exposure to your swollen, veiny breasts might understandably put people off their food rather indicates your disgust. Please seek help.

Was about to type a response but TheLuminaries nailed what I wanted to say. Do you go around pointing out other things that are "unnecessary"? Or just bf mothers?

But why would boobs put you off food? Would someone in a low cut top put you off your dinner?

See to me top of the boob is fine because society has taught me that to be attractive I must expose the tops of my boobs. The side of the boob is also acceptable as this will also make me more attractive if I expose it. The lower boob however is disgraceful! It's so offensive! Just sitting there, thinking it owns the world! And don't even get me started on the nipple. That's just crossing all sorts of lines.

I think OP is playing a game where she gets points for every time she says “whole breast”. Perhaps she works for KFC.

I am 48

I was a peer supporting breastfeeding counseller for about 2 years

Innumerable babby groups

Never seen a whole tit just sitting there

Brief flash as the baby comes off definitely

So i assume it must happen...but it cant be that frequently otherwise i would also have seen it

Unless people are hanging around in places where this happens a lot

OP, the fact is that anyone who is put off their food by the sight of a breast is IN THE WRONG.

They have a skewed idea of what a breast is and they should feel ashamed of themselves.

But who would sit there eating their food while staring at a woman breastfeeding? Who is THAT weird? If you actually mind your own business and don't look at the breasts you find so repulsive, you won't be put off your food will you?

Mutha pukka has her milky orbs out as she quite rightly says " I don't eat my dinner under a blanket so why should she "
Meh ! It's only a tit .
Now if the woman's vagina was out I might be slightly offended

Sauvignon

sauvignon

I am feeling relieved that i said tit now

Christ I mean look at this one!! Even the baby is disgusted about what they're being forced to do.

Let it all hang out I say.

Op please explain how you discreetly feed wearing a dress? I have never managed it.

Oh come on say. I was about to eat my tea. I mean, all that skin- it’s put me off my pasta

Sorry nerr!
I bet your pasta was yummy too :(