To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

No op - Sierras post was spot on. You often see much more of a woman's breasts in a low cut top than when breastfeeding, even indiscreetly. Unless it's the engorged nipple itself you take offence to 😉

But why does it make you feel uncomfortable or put you off? I think you really need to think this through and explain just why it would make someone uncomfortable.
If I was in a restaurant and saw someone with their whole boob just ha going out I would probably do a double take and think 'omg that woman's got her boob out!' then i would notice the baby and realise oh she's just about to feed her baby. Then try not to have her in my eyeline as I'm staring off into space iykwim. At no point would I be offended or put off my food.
Even if I was offended, what's more important- not offending a stranger or making them slightly uncomfortable for possibly a few minutes out of their day or jeopardising an early breastfeeding relationship by making it more difficult for a new mother. It can be so hard in the early days to get breastfeeding established and that is so much more important, especially as we have woefully low breastfeeding rates, than making you feel a bit uncomfortable for what, a few minutes tops?

Oh these women. Flashing their veiny, tired flesh. Haven’t even bothered with fake tan. Not making any effort. These women. No self-respect.

Ffs it’s discreet.

Anyway. Yabvu.

Furthermore don’t know if anyone saw them but Sam Faiers (bird from towie) posted bf photos of her feeding her son that were so utterly beautiful and not yuck in any way.

Here’s one. And good for her

Lethal But I’ve made it clear that that’s the norm (as in Sierra’s picture), because that’s how most of us feed and it’s discreet!

I get where you're coming from OP. So do lots of people. They just wouldn't admit it. I breast fed both of mine, absolutely everywhere. But was happy to be a bit discreet, particularly in restaurants. It really is possible to be pro breast feeding and still aware that exposure to your swollen, veiny breasts might understandably put people off their food.

You keep saying that it's 'not hard to be discrete' it's also not hard to not look at a woman breastfeeding. If you physically cannot turn your head away, close your eyes!

Come ON everyone, we all know ‘that mum’ who makes such a song and dance about breastfeeding

I don't but I hear a lot about her in our society's misogynistic dialogue.

Even if I do ever meet this mythical creature, I really won't give a fuck. If I don't want to to look at her boobs, I'll look somewhere else. If I'm talking to her, maybe I'll try looking at - gasp - her FACE!

Are page three girls still topless?

Bit pointless posting that - Since that IS discreet feeding

No. You dont get to decide the levels of discreetness on how a mother feeds her baby. That ignorant shit is what made me feed my premature baby daughter in a supermarket toilet a decade ago.

Out of interest OP what about having the whole boob out do you think makes you so uncomfortable?

Why? Have you seen an optician about that?

😂

How must of us feed - no extreme cover ups, no efforts really. But a small bit of consideration not to expose the whole breast. Baby may show a bit of nipple between latches, totally normal and to be expected.

Very different from having the entire breast out, which hardly anyone actually does

singingtherapy you need actual therapy if breasts disgust you.

Is the Sam Faiers photo discreet enough op?

Op you really need to post a photo that shows what you are talking about.

If most people doing this, what is it you want OP? If the vast majority of people do it the way you think is right, there is literally no purpose to your thread. Railing against a problem that doesn't exist makes absolutely no sense and is frankly quite strange.

I do and don't agree with you
I don't because if you feeding it may time to time be visible- that's fine

BUT some women to make a point to prove something put it all on FB 'look at me I so don't care'

I can’t believe you’re genuine OP. All this bullocks about ‘how most of us feed’. People are different- how can you not see that?

Neither of my babies could feed like that. Should they have starved? Should I have been locked in my house? Fuck the fuck of you awful misogynistic fuckwit.

OK so what you’re repulsed by is women pulling their top down instead of up?

Fuck the fuck of you awful misogynistic fuckwi

Are you quite alright? There really is no need to get so heated:

It’s just a discussion on MN.

If you’re so confident to tell me to fuck off then I doubt you’re the type to care anyway

Op, are you able to say what it is about the ‘whole’ breast you find so incredibly offensive? You’ve used that phrase about 109 times on this thread and it means fuck all. Babies latch at the nipple, so you’d have to look hard, and continuously, to see much ‘whole’ breast. Are there particular areas? Aureole, or lower curve? A total flesh allowance? Or a percentage? And what is the thing with ‘restraunts’? Presumably you have boobs? Does the thought of them being used to feed a baby put you off your dinner? Are the men in your life unable to eat a burger if there is a whiff of tit? It’s just bizarre.

do and don't agree with you

don't because if you feeding it may time to time be visible- that's fine

Of course it’s fine, it’s inevitable a lot of the time