To ask you who you secretly fancy in RL?

[Midge1978]

Obviously we wouldn’t act on it but just for fun!

A GP where I work - gorgeous man!
My very young electrician. My daughter fancies him too

I've never fancied a colleague - ewwww! You should see the men I've worked with, lots of straight 'n' single ones but no ways. In fact I haven't seen a remotely fanciable stranger in ages.

On the flip side the man at the dry cleaners fancies me, I feel like he's looking at me naked when I go there. I stopped going, and always take something of DH's. He is quite sleazy but always asks me what I want to pay and so I get very reasonable dry cleaning.

A guy at the gym. Although not young enough to be my son, he is definitely too young for me, but he is lovely looking and always very polite and considerate. I turn into a complete wibbler whenever he is in gym, even managed to fall over my own feet once in front of him.

@Auldspinster
Fanny gallops

My DS's teacher. He has a lovely soft welsh accent and seems so sweet and kind.

DC1's music teacher . He's very much not my type, and I'd be surprised if he's 30, but I'm perimenopausal and my ovaries are a law unto themselves.

The most gorgeous guy in the world (IMHO ) who's mid 30s and lives in north London.

He knows who he is and ...... it's not a huge secret

Oh, loads of people!

Celeb wise, William Beck from casualty (terrible show that has me shouting at the tv but, y’know, William Beck...)

He plays Dylan.

I think it’s Dylan I fancy though, because he’d be so hard to impress, but of course I could...

Oh me too Tatty! I find casualty bloody annoying but Dylan is mmm. I think it's the grumpiness.

Dylan is the only thing that makes me stick with Casualty.

I had a job in the NHS once where I had to seek legal advice a fair bit. The guy I had to talk to had the most amazing sexy voice. I'm sure I used to spend more on my legal bill than I ought. The way he used to say my name had me in pieces.

One case needed him to come to a meeting and I was so excited to meet him..... but he looked a bit like this. My crush crashed.

Most recently I've had a crush on a colleague. But lately I've started working more closely with him and have realised he's a total arse. Thankfully as the crush was a nuisance and at least now I can't talk to him like a proper human.

A colleague. We flirt at Christmas parties, otherwise we ignore each other. We are both married with children.

I didn't think very highly of him for the first few years we worked together. I don't have much to do with him. I always thought he came across as arrogant.

One Christmas party he started chatting to me and something just clicked. I saw him completely differently.

I hate feeling this way.

Shamefully, a colleague I have a massive soft spot for him... I shouldn’t

The chemist

The guy who works in the restaurant down the road. He looks like Cillian Murphy.

When I left to go on maternity leave (sadly never to return) my manager told me how brilliant I was and how lovely. He’d never said anything like that before, he usually just gave his orders or took the mick. Then he hugged me and when I eventually pulled away he hugged me tighter. My legs literally turned to jelly!

Two of my neighbours (married - not to each other). This other married guy I know.

The clinical psychologist who diagnosed ds with autism. He listened to me with his big brown eyes...

The man living next door, swoon. Lithe tight body, wavy hair, so polite and lovely. But he has a lovely girlfriend.
Ds3's teacher, lovely smiley face.

A really fit-in-a-dirty-way bus driver. Have only seen him once but still haven’t stopped thinking about him. I think (hopefully!) he noticed me too, there was a definite zing as a mutely showed him my ticket... mmmm..

Midge1978 I had just bought a flat with DP. He was the only person to make me question being with DP. I never went for the drink as I knew something would happen. He gave me a lift home once and I pretended to feel ill as I knew he would try and kiss me. We both left that site and moved onto different jobs. Text a few times and then lost contact but always thought of him and what could have been. Then a few months ago bumped into him. He hugged and kissed me. I was with my kids. He knew I had one as he speaks to an old colleague so I know he asked about me. He's now married with a baby. I was so jealous. For a couple of weeks he was all I thought of again and it hurt like hell. Thought of contacting him. Then I got my head straight and realised how disrespectful it would be to DH and his DW.

One of my clients.

And I was really upset that I looked like a sweaty, 'fat' (post baby) mess when I used to look awesome.

Mummatwinkletoes that’s very admirable and takes a lot of integrity and self control to do as you have done.