to find it sad that women talk about their DH’a achievements like they are their own

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On all these “how much do you earn” threads I find it sad to see so many women who gave up careers of a lot of money to be a SAHM and talk proudly about their DH’s income as if it’s their achievement. I wonder why it’s always the woman who cares for the children and how so many woman can decide to give up work leaving them in such a vulnerable position if the husband leaves them.

Who is invalidating sahms

Well, there’s the one’s wondering how we can spend our DHs’ money... then there’s the ones calling us lazy, then there’s the charming poster up thread that says we’re just making our way through life using our vaginas... so take your pick really.

Sunandmoonshine, I get that it was my comment that made you vom. What about it though? How is it any of those adjectives you used?

@LipstickHandbagCoffee yes. I just don’t understand why this thread has gotten so nasty.
It’s always interesting to see others opinions and talk about it but this thread has just turned to name calling. It’s not intelligent conversation or debate anymore.

If it wasn't for you he wouldn't have all these kids! He wouldn't need to feed extra 2+ mouths and all associated expenses! It's just such an entitled opinion

Yeah, cos it's not like he'd have had kids with someone one else and still had two extra mouths to feed etc. What with HIM obviously wanting a family too. Obviously we should feel sorry for all the poor menz forced into having kids and being beaten into agreeing their wife should be a sahm (or vice versa!)

I love the fact I earn and don't have to rely on handouts from my husband. Yes, most people say they have shared finances but really, how do you spend someone else's hard earned cash on yourself and still feel content?

By being secure in the decision they made TOGETHER with their partner for one of them to be a sahp.

It's interesting that some view sahp-ing as having no positive impact on the wohp career at all when even the courts recognise it does.

ftw

Is that the comment someone said was reminiscent of prostitution?

I couldn't find it

It didn’t get nasty, it started nasty.

Barbarian it's bloody obvious darling - you have a day nanny and a night nanny of course. Like Madonna.

Or perhaps your husband could make some compromises like you do.

This whole thread is a like the girl's team on The Apprentice. It's a disorganised bitch fest that has lost sight of the original point.

So who want's to be Project Manger?

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My DC are all male however I know they value women as much as they do men and know that they are equal in society.

This might be because I am extremely vocal about equal rights, but may be confirmed as my DH is as vocal as myself about such things.

rufus yes, hang on...

alittleeducation

I think sun should do it

• rouge grocers' apostrophe there

This whole thread is a like the girl's team on The Apprentice. It's a disorganised bitch fest that has lost sight of the original point.

Thats just about every thread on here

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I can't believe you have to ASK what is offensive about your comment @lipstick

@ftw I agree that the op’s original post wasn’t nice BUT I feel as intelligent adults we could have turned that into a debate with genuie opinions. Instead now it’s just name calling ?
I wanted to put in my opinion that SAHP are valid but have since been called lazy, boring and a prostitute 😂

The OP is of low IQ. Anyone who cannot see this in a balanced way is stupid.

It's a difficult decision many families are faced with. There is no right answer here.

Stop slagging each other off. You don't know each other's specifics.

rufus, posted at 11.11 today...

‘It becomes less of a feminist issue then (financial independence, career, etc) and more of just a basic question of: so basically having a vagina and marrying well relieves you of a lifetime down the pit. It seems kind of lazy, and there's actually something even more mercenary about THAT option. In a way, it's saying "I'll use my vagina (to have sex, to give birth) in exchange for money and property", whereas paid work (unless you're in the sex industry) has none of these connotations.’

I think sun should do it.

@rufus

There are threads with points?

For the SAHMs who said that childcare was bad & why have kids if you don't want to raise them.

I'm currently on mat leave & my 3 yr old goes to combo of childcare/grandparents for 3 days & sometimes more. The baby (9m) also goes now for a few hours. Does that make me a shit parent?

It's interesting that some view sahp-ing as having no positive impact on the wohp career at all when even the courts recognise it does.

No one is saying that.

Obviously it does. It's cheaper and easier to have a SAHP than pay for child care.

That doesn't mean Melania Trump is running the USA or that Richard Branson's wife created Virgin or that a surgeon's husband is trained to carry out surgery or that any professsional achievement of a man or woman is that of his SAHP