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Aibu to buy Jo Malone advent calendar?

166 replies

tropical1 · 20/10/2017 19:22

I put my name on a waiting list for one back in February, I didn't think I'd get one as they are very sought after.
The shop rang me today to say I'd got one!
It's £300 which I have got but now I'm thinking it's hugely extravagant and a bit self indulgent.
I could do much more useful things with that money like put it towards Christmas presents etc.
But I would love it and don't often treat myself,
Aibu to have it, just this once?

OP posts:
ssd · 20/10/2017 23:46

bloody hell £500, yes I might be tempted to buy one to do that

Birdsgottafly · 21/10/2017 00:11

OP, if you love it, get it.

I've treated myself to a theater trip. in December and 'new' lips, that comes in at just over £300. It's good to treat yourself occasionally.

You'll get a lift everyday in what is the most stressful month of the year.

TSSDNCOP · 21/10/2017 00:14

Only if you got the handbag goat and bench too Lemon you know the drill.

LondonNicki · 21/10/2017 00:20

I saw it today and was tempted to buy it. If you can afford to it go for it... maybe ask your family to contribute as Christmas presents? I think it looks fab.

Runningissimple · 21/10/2017 00:33

coco I'm suggesting that if some people lived a bit poorer others could live a bit better. I think it's weird to spend £300 on an advent calendar. Not a view shared by many on here, clearly.

Runningissimple · 21/10/2017 00:37

Also I don't think it's 'living poor' to not spend £300 on an advent calendar. Grin

Birdsgottafly · 21/10/2017 00:42

"coco I'm suggesting that if some people lived a bit poorer others could live a bit better. I think it's weird to spend £300 on an advent calendar. Not a view shared by many on here, clearly."

It s a view shared by many, including myself. But not getting my lips done and going on a trip, wouldn't change the social structures that keep people poor, nor would the OP not getting something that she has wanted for over a year.

My Mother would make snide comments about the odd expensive thing I would buy, my answer would be that i didn't know how she afforded to smoke/drink and go out every weekend.

Unless you've got details of someone's spending you can't comment on whether they are wasteful etc.

WorraLiberty · 21/10/2017 00:44

In all honesty OP, if you have to pose this question to strangers on the internet, that should tell you that no, you shouldn't buy it.

If there was no problem at all then you would have just gone ahead and bought it.

I can't imagine anyone would start a thread like this if the purchase was likely to cause no problems whatsoever.

Telstar99 · 21/10/2017 00:49

If you can afford it and you have always wanted it then get it.

I think it seems extravagant, but then some people spend money on ciggies, going to the pub, gym memberships, name brand clothes, collectible sci fi and cult tv stuff, and name brand ornaments and so on...

So yeah go for it, if you can spare the £300. Pay no attention to the people saying 'some people can afford £300 on an ornament, some people got to food banks' type posts. They are very unfair and unjust.

Runningissimple · 21/10/2017 00:52

I don't care what the OP spends her money on. Buying a £300 advent calendar is wasteful. Not buying it won't end world poverty but the fact that anyone thinks that this is reasonable is symptomatic of the completely out of control consumerist hegemony that we live in.

I don't think that's a particularly controversial viewpoint and I'm not being snide because the OP invited opinions. I'm sure if I had that much money, I may well do the same. It's still unreasonable.

Arealhumanbeing · 21/10/2017 00:54

Please get it. The only good reason not to would be that you had decided to go for the Diptyque one instead.

It isn’t just a calendar. The contents will be worth a lot more than £300 and will last you for the whole year. I went for the Diptyque one last year and still have some skincare, 3 mini candles and quite a lot of perfume.

I think you’re just feeling guilty and maybe buying into the idea that we just “shouldn’t” spend out money on these things.

Runningissimple · 21/10/2017 00:56

Why is it unjust to point that out? Surely it's unjust that we live in an economy with such disparity of wealth. Surely we should acknowledge that and try to be responsible in our attitudes to how we live?

You can buy a £300 advent calendar if you want but your feeling that it's a bit decadant or outrageous is well placed. I don't really see the problem with that. Genuinely puzzled.

Arealhumanbeing · 21/10/2017 00:56

*our.

BakedBeans47 · 21/10/2017 01:01

If you can afford it go for it but you can surely treat yourself to something equally lovely that either costs a bit less or gives you more for your dosh?

Disclaimer: I am shit with advent calendars and keep forgetting to open the partylite ones I have had the last few years so not bothering this year!

Birdsgottafly · 21/10/2017 01:04

" Surely we should acknowledge that and try to be responsible in our attitudes to how we live? "

Some people buy lots of things, that don't last, don't particularly spark joy and are easily discarded.

Others buy less, but love what they buy. Just because something is expensive, doesn't mean that it's a product of out of control consumerism.

It's the unnecessary tat, the secret santas, the token cheap gift set, the poundland ornaments for every occasion etc, that is consumerism out of control and has created a throw away society. Not the one off-real treat, expensive item, that has been wanted for over a year.

We should be buying less, but paying more for goods and food.

Telstar99 · 21/10/2017 01:04

It's a view shared by many, including myself. But not getting my lips done and going on a trip, wouldn't change the social structures that keep people poor, nor would the OP not getting something that she has wanted for over a year.

My mother would make snide comments about the odd expensive thing I would buy, my answer would be that I didn't know how she afforded to smoke/drink and go out every weekend.

Re @Birdsgottafly comments, we used to go on a few holidays abroad, including the USA and North Africa, (because we worked and saved,) and my cousin used to make snarky remarks about how 'it's all right for some!' Yet she smoked, (15 a day,) went to the pub twice a week, and had 16 pets (including 3 dogs.) Confused And she didn't go out to work, and never had.

So she spent probably double the amount in a year on ciggies and booze than we spent on holidays, but she couldn't see that. Neither could my mother, as she asked me a couple of times if I could lend my cousin some money ('just a 100 or so,' she would say.... some 15 years ago,) towards her gas bill. I refused, and my mother was disappointed, and gave me a kind of Hmm look. Then she said it would be nice if people could help each other more! Confused

It IS unjust by the way to say she is wrong to spend the money because other people have less than her. I usually find people who think people should share their 'wealth' a bit more, are the freeloaders, and the ones who want to live off other peoples hard work. Usually because they feel 'entitled' and a bit sniffy and resentful that others have seemingly been dealt a better hand in life than them. In most cases, it's just that the other person has worked harder and made better choices.

Arealhumanbeing · 21/10/2017 01:07

It certainly looks extravagant and could feel unreasonable to drop £300 on an advent calendar.

But when you boil it down it amounts to around £25 per month (over a year) for a couple of luxury treats per month. A lot of people spend that in a week on take away coffee.

GaryBarlowsTaxReturn · 21/10/2017 01:13

If you love the brand then go for it. Even if you don't like a few if the products you can eBay them for £££. I had the liberty calendar last year. I had it as a Christmas present &
Opened the whole lot on Christmas Day. I'm still using lots of the bits now.

If you had posted on style & beauty you would have had a totally different set of responses

Frazzled74 · 21/10/2017 01:15

go for it! I doubt I will ever have that disposable income for myself this near to Christmas but if I did, I might buy it for myself. Yes, there will always be homeless people etc etc but there are also exceedingly rich people spending a hell of a lot more than £300 on themselves. Treat yourself .

Luncharmstrong · 21/10/2017 01:17

Bloody hell, who knew these things ever existed .
What a triumph of marketing. It makes me oddly sad.
Even if I was a millionaire I wouldn’t even think of buying one.

But we’re all different.
Op if it makes you happy , do it

Runningissimple · 21/10/2017 01:28

But a Jo Malone calendar is tat. It's just posh tat Confused Just because you really want something doesn't mean it isn't tat! I don't think beauty products bring 'joy' ffs!

I wasn't saying that she shouldn't buy it because other people have less. I just commented that it's not quite right that more and more people are struggling to pay for the basics while others can spend £300 on nothing. The two are interconnected- read some economics - but it's a bit simplistic to say she can't spend money because other people don't have it which is why I didn't say that...

Any sharing around needs to happen on a legislative scale rather than an individual scale to make any real impact imo.

It is extravagant but I guess that's the point. It's the season or something Grin

Arealhumanbeing · 21/10/2017 01:44

I don't think beauty products bring 'joy' ffs!

Well they bring me joy! And obviously to OP too. Especially in miniature. Smile

Impatientwino · 21/10/2017 06:00

My mum bought me a molton brown one last year to cheer me up after a phenomenally difficult year and because she knew I was dreading Christmas so wanted to give me something to look forward to every day even something small. It was beautifully packaged and I was so pleased.

I loved opening it every day and finding a little treat for myself. I'm still using the miniatures now so they have lasted all year. It had 3 mini candles in and I've taken those on weekends away.

I would love a JM one! If you want one get one - life is too short - do what makes you happy - even the little things.

KimKatCourtney · 21/10/2017 06:29

The pious comments on here drive me mad. With 3 children I bet you are bottom of the pile all the time, if it makes you happy - get the calendar and enjoy it!

ZaraW · 21/10/2017 07:12

If I really wanted something I wouldn't post on here asking for opinions if you can afford it buy it. Of course people are going to say it's a ridiculous amount to spend on candles and as I have no interest in them I'd say the same.

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