You're so lucky that your husband helps around the house

[zumabuma]

What is wrong with society these days? I am "lucky" that my husband "helps" me around his own house???!!
Helps???
This use of word I'd really bringing me to a rage just lately. This is supposed to be the 21st century when women go out to work too, why are young women still so "grateful" when their husband does something to "help" at home?
It's angering me. My DH is almost given angel-like treatment by female friends, because he's so "helpful."
He does his share. That's it!

Dh did all my maternity as I only had the minimal this last time. Not one person raised an eyebrow. Dh hangs around with a few sahds or work part time dads. Again never commented on by anyone.

Picking up mans pants and cups, treating him like a baby, ironing his shirts and buying his clothes, acting like his mother

Ahh I see now, sorry I thought you meant general SAHP duties and was deeply offended. Couldn't agree more with you now that you've explained. My brother is in his 30s and still lives with my mum and gets his washing, dinner, lunch etc done for him. Makes me very angry but not much I can do.

Apologies for my initial rant at you it was uncalled for and I take it back

Sorry, this is just an issue that frustrates me. It ALWAYs appears on mn. I don't know why when there is no need for life to be like this anymore. Yes, men should change, but you are only treated how you allow yourself to be.

I'd just like to say to everyone on this thread: if you're happy with the way you do things, then the way you do them is absolutely fine whether it's the majority opinion or not. If you're not happy, then things need changing because being happy is important.

I think the first few weeks after giving birth are a time when housework should not really be expected from the person at home, ditto when looking after a sick child, if there are medical issues for the SAH parent and so on.
Agreed. It is common sense.

Yes, men should change, but you are only treated how you allow yourself to be.
This. Some men do expect gold stars for helping. But i don't get why women put uo with it.