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How to get out of something that I didnt agree to?

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 18/10/2017 15:59

I am very close friends with a group of 5 ladies, known each other since high school.
We all have children ranging from the ages of 1-6.

Friend 1s child started reception this year and has joined the PTA aswell. Friend 2 & 3 already have children at this school. Friend 1 is the only one on the PTA.

Friend 2 has just text me, saying she didnt know I was offering a prize at the christmas fair.

Me: What?
F2: One of the raffle prizes is a colour & cut at KungFus Salon.
Me : Must be an error and mean another salon.

Cue a whatsapp message of friend 3, with a screenshot of the flyer and the message "kept this quiet. Its lovely of you though"

In the flyer it mentions how the school will be grateful for donations etc etc, raffle tickets go on sale after the school holidays for X price. It then goes on to give a "sneak peek" for some prizes up for grabs and sure enough their is my bloody salon 3rd on the list offering a colour and cut.

Text F1 did she sign me up. Yes she did, that was her contribution (?!)
I asked F1 will she be paying for the voucher. She has responded No, she wont be because its for a good cause and the rest of the community has donated bits and bobs.

Now Im stuck.
I didnt agree to any of this and now leaflets have been given out advertising my salon donating one of the prizes.
All the money goes to the school so it is a good cause, but i just see it as my child doesn't attend that school or any school for that matter. This "donation" will leave me anywhere from £30-£45 out of pocket.

Would i look horrendous ringing the school up and explaining what has happened or shall I suck it up and just do it.

OP posts:
bianglala · 19/10/2017 00:08

Dying to know what happens now!

CorSie · 19/10/2017 00:14

Can't believe the cheek of it! Glad you've let her stew, can't wait to see the outcome!

RobotGoat · 19/10/2017 00:16

Just RTFT when I should be getting some sleep instead. I was so worried when you posted your first plan that CFF was going to get away with it. Good on you for attacking this head on and dealing with it straight away! Love your text to CFF; let her wait! /

HeebieJeebies456 · 19/10/2017 00:27

Call the school first thing in the morning - BEFORE you text her back.....if at all Grin Grin

Ceto · 19/10/2017 00:35

In answer to the question whether you would be donating or not, I'd have been tempted to text back "No. Will you?"

Marmalady75 · 19/10/2017 00:36

Is it sad that I can't wait to read all about the fallout from your email to PTA lady and headteacher???

SpareChangeDownTheSofa · 19/10/2017 00:42

I would text her back ''I just sorted it. So what will you be donating?''

EKLInTraining · 19/10/2017 01:30

Shamelessly placemarking Wink

DJBaggySmalls · 19/10/2017 01:32

DF are agog. We must know how this ends.

DeadMorose · 19/10/2017 01:57

Placemarking for morning. Quite shamelessly too, I must add.

ohfourfoxache · 19/10/2017 02:01

Bloody hell she's got a nerve Shock

Sorry Kung but she ain't no friend

Rescuepuppydaft2 · 19/10/2017 02:15

I'm sorry that your friend put you into this awful position Kung fu! I think you have handled things perfectly! Hopefully friends 2 and 3 are suitably disgusted with so called friend 1's behaviour! They sound like good friends, especially having offered to pay 1/3 each! I hope that they will put f1 straight and tell her how awfully she has behaved! I hope that friend 1's abysmal behaviour, doesn't impact on your friendship with your other two friends!

Good luck in contacting the school/ head of the PTA tomorrow Hopefully the message you sent to the head of the pta, doesn't get lost in her others folder! Or that you managed to get her email address!

ifuckarses · 19/10/2017 02:20

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AlbusPercivalWulfricBrian · 19/10/2017 02:22

Placemarking Blush

Benedikte2 · 19/10/2017 02:52

Well done OP.

QueenAmongstMen · 19/10/2017 03:49

I have been up feeding the baby and I could have gone back to sleep myself a good while ago but I made the mistake of having a quick browse of AIBU whilst I was feeding and fell upon this thread.

I absolutely LOVE the CF threads, they are by far my favourite ones and this one is brilliant!

I honestly can't believe the cheek of F1 - who do theses people think they are?!

You've handled it perfectly OP and I can't wait to see how it unravels

FeralBeryl · 19/10/2017 03:50

Please update as soon as pta woman responds. I’m loving the spate of CFs lately Shock

treaclesoda · 19/10/2017 04:12

I think you were very restrained OP.

I do like how you've left her in suspense. Grin

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 19/10/2017 04:47

Wow - good outcome, OP! I like your message and I totally agree that after the CF "F"1's responses to you, she fully deserved to be dropped in it.

Of COURSE there's no "profit" in you doing a free cut and colour for someone - you have to pay for all the products, AND pay for your time, AND you get nothing in return for it!! which part of that does the tit who suggested it was a good profit not understand? Hmm

VinIsGroot · 19/10/2017 05:05

Awesome work !!!

purplepandas · 19/10/2017 06:00

Well done op, I like your style. Can't believe the original cheek of your 'friend' but even more surprised at their refusal to make any contribution.

tillytown · 19/10/2017 06:10

When was she planning on letting you know what she had done? The day of the raffle?

TheDowagerCuntess · 19/10/2017 06:23

To think, aaaalllllll of this could've been avoided if she'd just asked you in the first place

Nquartz · 19/10/2017 06:33

What a great update to wake up to. Well done you!

OnionKnight · 19/10/2017 06:34

That email is brilliant, I hope F1 had a restless nights sleep.