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How to get out of something that I didnt agree to?

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 18/10/2017 15:59

I am very close friends with a group of 5 ladies, known each other since high school.
We all have children ranging from the ages of 1-6.

Friend 1s child started reception this year and has joined the PTA aswell. Friend 2 & 3 already have children at this school. Friend 1 is the only one on the PTA.

Friend 2 has just text me, saying she didnt know I was offering a prize at the christmas fair.

Me: What?
F2: One of the raffle prizes is a colour & cut at KungFus Salon.
Me : Must be an error and mean another salon.

Cue a whatsapp message of friend 3, with a screenshot of the flyer and the message "kept this quiet. Its lovely of you though"

In the flyer it mentions how the school will be grateful for donations etc etc, raffle tickets go on sale after the school holidays for X price. It then goes on to give a "sneak peek" for some prizes up for grabs and sure enough their is my bloody salon 3rd on the list offering a colour and cut.

Text F1 did she sign me up. Yes she did, that was her contribution (?!)
I asked F1 will she be paying for the voucher. She has responded No, she wont be because its for a good cause and the rest of the community has donated bits and bobs.

Now Im stuck.
I didnt agree to any of this and now leaflets have been given out advertising my salon donating one of the prizes.
All the money goes to the school so it is a good cause, but i just see it as my child doesn't attend that school or any school for that matter. This "donation" will leave me anywhere from £30-£45 out of pocket.

Would i look horrendous ringing the school up and explaining what has happened or shall I suck it up and just do it.

OP posts:
scootinFun · 18/10/2017 23:16

Will you be dropping a print out of your letter into school tomorrow - just to make sure it is received by Head of PTA...

Mumof41987 · 18/10/2017 23:17

Why can't you offer a cut and colour ?? It's a one off and as my sister is a hairdresser and owns her own salon I know that you make a good profit from doing a colour and cut !

paranoidpammywhammy2 · 18/10/2017 23:18

A relative won a free meal for 2 with bottle of wine voucher from a school raffle a few years ago. When they went to use it at the fairly pricey restaurant - the owners had no idea what they were on about, the voucher was nothing like their publicity and had been faked. My relative was quite embarrassed and the owners had no connections with the school.

AnathemaPulsifer · 18/10/2017 23:20

Why can't you offer a cut and colour ?? It's a one off and as my sister is a hairdresser and owns her own salon I know that you make a good profit from doing a colour and cut !

Because she'd have to pay for the colour AND lose the money from the paying client she could have booked in at that time. And nobody asked her and it's not even her kid's school. Why the hell should she? Are you F1?

Anniegetyourgun · 18/10/2017 23:21

Why can't you offer a cut and colour ?? It's a one off and as my sister is a hairdresser and owns her own salon I know that you make a good profit from doing a colour and cut !

More to the point, why the blazes should she? Hmm

Kintan · 18/10/2017 23:21

I love how you are ignoring her texts as she did yours :)

unfortunateevents · 18/10/2017 23:22

Mumof41987 why should she offer anything?! She has no connection with the school and had no idea that her "friend" was offering her services! Who knows when she would have found out about the prize?! Perhaps when someone turned up in her salon to claim it? How would you like it if someone offered your services out without even the courtesy of discussing it with you?

TsunamiOfShit · 18/10/2017 23:22

Why can't you offer a cut and colour ?? It's a one off and as my sister is a hairdresser and owns her own salon I know that you make a good profit from doing a colour and cut !

You can't make a good profit if you're giving it away for free...

flutterby12 · 18/10/2017 23:24

What a CF!

FrancisCrawford · 18/10/2017 23:27

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Willow2017 · 18/10/2017 23:27

Mumof

Your sister makes a profit for doing her job for free?

Tell us her secret please.

Willow2017 · 18/10/2017 23:30

Zen
Did you read any of the ops posts?

CFF1 has ignored the op since she found out apart from to ask her if she is still making her £50 donation for her!

GabsAlot · 18/10/2017 23:32

wow just rtft what a monumental twat

sorry op shes no friend no matter what happns now the way shes responded to you about this is fucking awful

BadLad · 18/10/2017 23:34

Why can't you offer a cut and colour ?? It's a one off and as my sister is a hairdresser and owns her own salon I know that you make a good profit from doing a colour and cut !

Hi, F1.

timeisnotaline · 18/10/2017 23:36

I just can't believe she wouldn't even pay £15. The entitlement of it!!

Mumof41987 · 18/10/2017 23:38

Apologies I hadn't rtft

TeaAndToast85 · 18/10/2017 23:38

I love the idea of her stewing away wondering what 'sorted it' means. Hahahahahaha

Mumof41987 · 18/10/2017 23:38

Sorry bad lad but I'm not f1

Waddlelikeapenguin · 18/10/2017 23:42

Your texts are great, i hope you sleep well & CF worries all night

buckeejit · 18/10/2017 23:49

Great stuff!

Phenella 😂

I had a bit of sympathy at the start with CF getting carried away & then it dwindled when asking friends what to do instead of apologising & talking directly with you. Then the 'are you donating or not' text was the last straw. She deserves both barrels & you shouldn't tell her anything more. Will be interesting to see why she comes back with tomorrow.

She needs to learn a lesson from this.

Jux · 18/10/2017 23:49

Well done, KungFu! I, too, hope you sleep well and CFF worries all night Grin (I'm so mean!

Do keep us posted!

Msqueen33 · 18/10/2017 23:50

What a total brass necked CF. Surely any rational person would quickly apologise and say they'd made an error. The world of cheeky fuckers is rife.

Ninabean17 · 18/10/2017 23:58

Keep f1 stewing, OP. Cannot wait for pta's response!

TemptressofWaikiki · 19/10/2017 00:01

Well done! You handled that well.

8misskitty8 · 19/10/2017 00:04

What a cheeky cow.