...to think you can't just leave 11 people waiting while you nip next door to bf your baby?

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One of our neighbours is hosting a murder mystery for several couples in our cul de sac. One couple have a bf 6m baby. They have accepted neighbour's invitation and are having a grandma over to babysit. Neighbour is planning to wait for Gma's call and then she can just nip home to feed baby back to sleep if she wakes up and the murder mystery script can wait for 10 mins. Surely SWBU to expect the other 11 guests to just wait for her? V. unlikely she'll be only 10 mins. Host neighbour and I think she should decline invitation.

Does nobody bother to actually read threads on MN anymore??

No. Everyone's busy cancelling cheques.

Give her a break she's probably really looking forward to it. Why not add to the suspense

May have already been said but I presume expressing is out of the question?

I find it a bit odd to extend an invitation to someone who clearly has a young baby and then to retract it later, because of her duties as a mum?

I think we are all being distracted by the BF thing.

More importantly - Murder Mystery Evenings - what fresh hell is this?

When did people become so... unocommodting of others? Horrible.

I'm self employed and have been doing bits of work for months

This - I'm freelance, and also really enjoy my work (plus it's at a computer, so not exactly physically demanding) - I was back at my desk as soon as the fog cleared with DS1 (probably about 2-3 months) - and with DS2 who was easy, I don't think I ever really stopped (well.. OK.. on the week leading up to his birth where I was having frequent contractions, I didn't do much - but I was home in less than 24 hours after my EMCS, and for whatever reason it was pretty painless the second time and I was pretty much back to normal in 2 weeks!)

Seriously? Have you neber had kids? YABVVU

OK - haven't had time to read all the posts but:
surely some understanding is needed - she must be desp for a night out!
doubtful that nipping home will take 10 mins (also quite stressy on mum and therefore baby knowing the clock is ticking)
Welcome her along but bump her off early as the "victim" (they always are!) then she can still be part of the evening and relax without the stress of timings for BF and soothing baby. Or am I missing something here?

Oh great - was waiting for the input from those super-mums who were back to work in no time at all - absolutely fuck all to do with the OPs question!

Why not create a part for Gran n baby?

Yes, even murder mystery characters breed.

I BF both my DC so it’s quite normal for me. Murder Mystery evenings on the other hand ...

I haven't breastfed myself, but have had many friends who have.

This is possible?!?!

But how would one reach? Or would you pump and then drink it from a bottle?

Doesn't sound like a very friendly crowd if you can't incorporate the needs of a bf baby.

When ds was newborn, I took him to a housewarming party of an old work friend. I already knew I disliked his girlfriend, but when I arrived she brayed (like a pissed up donkey) "oh my fucking God, some silly bitch has only brought a fucking baby into the house. Hahahahaha - someone get a fucking spear and kill it quick."

I left. And never spoke to my friend again. I am sorry to have lost his friendship but if that's his kind of woman then I may have misjudged him.

She was a dick but wtf were you doing bringing a newborn to a piss up??

Glass of wine
loo break
YABVU

This.
It's a bit mean-spirited to complain. Poor woman's probably really looking forward to it. Have a heart.

It was a housewarming. I was staying for an hour to share my old mate's excitement at getting his house. The only one steaming was the he-hawing girlfriend. Friend had also expressed a desire to meet my ds. We were going to exchange presents - housewarming/baby gift. Should I just have stayed at home for 18 years?

Wow! If she pops out for 20 mins is it really that much hassle to pour a glass of wine and have a chat. She's clearly looking forward to it, probably doesn't go out much she this is the perfect opportunity. I wouldn't mind at all!

@Undercoverbanana that’s disgusting!

Yes. Because it's either bring newborn to party or stay home for 18 years with absolutely no middle ground.

@Undercoverbanana what she said, not you taking your baby there...

Should I just have stayed at home for 18 years?

Yes. Children should be not seen and not heard. Same goes for the parents

People!!!! OP IS THE NEIGHBOUR. THIS IS A REVERSE. RTFT!!!!!!!!!!

If I were you I wouldn't go OP but I think it's very rude to invite someone and then make it clear you don't want them to come