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AIBU?

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Original poster

...to think you can't just leave 11 people waiting while you nip next door to bf your baby?

277 replies

Yoplate · 17/10/2017 19:06

One of our neighbours is hosting a murder mystery for several couples in our cul de sac. One couple have a bf 6m baby. They have accepted neighbour's invitation and are having a grandma over to babysit. Neighbour is planning to wait for Gma's call and then she can just nip home to feed baby back to sleep if she wakes up and the murder mystery script can wait for 10 mins. Surely SWBU to expect the other 11 guests to just wait for her? V. unlikely she'll be only 10 mins. Host neighbour and I think she should decline invitation.

OP posts:
sailorcherries · 19/10/2017 09:33

If it could be a guaranteed one break of no more than half an hour yanbu in wanting to go OP.

If you think it may be multiple breaks and/or take over a half hour/45 minutes than yabu as it will disrupt the evening.

If you can express and want to express then that is a solution. If not then you have to decide how disruptive it will be and whether it is fair to attend.

Unfortunately that is pary and parcel of being a breastfeeding parent.

I'd assume that the host didn't know you may need to leave before inviting you.

Angela712 · 19/10/2017 09:33

Yes YABVU.
Let the baby starve / stop a new mum having a night out because you cannot bear a whole 10 minute break?!
Please

SusaninNZ · 19/10/2017 10:06

So I think this is a joke - how could anyone object or feel it’s inappropriate to pop put - or stay in - and breastfeed a baby. If not a joke then shame on you! It’s a mild inconvenience - instead you should be supporting this mum for what she is a great mum who’s putting her baby first.

MadMags · 19/10/2017 10:14

Read. The fucking. Thread.

Threenme · 19/10/2017 10:48

Angela and sis, I've said I'd pause for my friends but I see how people don't want to. it's not their responsibility really though is it? Op chose to breast feed her baby. As you say she's putting her baby first that does limit your freedom as you are obviously the only one able to do it.

Angela712 · 19/10/2017 10:57

Madmags - I know OP is the neighbour in question- an referring to the original question.
In case it escaped your notice I don't think it's an unreasonable request.
High horse.
Get down.

MadMags · 19/10/2017 11:11

You're referring to the original question, answering as though OP is the neighbour, even though you know it's a reverse...??? Ok!

NewLove · 19/10/2017 11:17

It would annoy me but then I don't have kids. I suppose it depends if the others do. Being a murder mystery fan I can say it will disrtupt the flow of the evening. With experience of friends' BF - I hardly think it's going to be 10 minutes...

SusaninNZ · 19/10/2017 11:23

Dear Gluteus - given these posts I think a long poo is definitely needed by these party go-ers

NewLove · 19/10/2017 11:30

Dear Gluteus - given these posts I think a long poo is definitely needed by these party go-ers

Nope we just want to have fun not wait for someone to feed their bloody PFB

Lweji · 19/10/2017 11:33

Angela

YABVU means you are being very unreasonable.

Who did you actually mean was unreasonable?

Lweji · 19/10/2017 11:34

not wait for someone to feed their bloody PFB

Bloody hell.

Now babies become "bloody PFB" just because they need to be fed.

gluteustothemaximus · 19/10/2017 11:56

Hahahahaha...I've heard it all now....babies are 'precious' if they need to be fed Grin Grin

SherbrookeFosterer · 19/10/2017 14:18

Every birth is different.

Support her, don't undermine her. YABVU, I am sorry to say.

Lweji · 19/10/2017 14:49

The OP is giving birth?

I do need to RTFT again!

AndrewJames · 19/10/2017 14:56

If the host doesn't want to pause the game to accomodate that is up to them.
It's a bit twatty, but their house their rules.

SusaninNZ · 19/10/2017 20:17

Frankly I’d rather stay home then deal with all the judgemental stuff - a bit like people who complain about babies in cafes or on planes - just the way it is I’m afraid - babies can’t feed themselves and suggesting she express or get a bottle is ridiculous - that’s her choice not the other’s at the party

And actually it’s the choice of the host isn’t it? - then if other guests don’t like it hey can have a childless evening somewhere else - she invited the breast-feeding mother.

Babies are not disabilities - they’re not easy - but they’re worth it!

Angela712 · 19/10/2017 21:36

Lweji THE ORIGINAL QUESTION!!!!!!!!!!
I know OP has now said SHE is the neighbour but I was answering the thread, not the subsequent revelation. Which if you read my answer should have been apparent
facepalm

Jeanneweany · 19/10/2017 21:57

I am sorry. But wtf. I have been to one mystery murder and it was crap. I think despite it being crap the woman should stop bf. Time for bottles. No one wants a person around dripping of milk. It is so abnormal for a parent to break off an evening to tend to their child. Especially when it 2 mins away. What she should do is leave the kid alone preferably with siblings and call in every 15 mins or so. Then she could top the kid up. Then the other players can work in into the character.

Jeanneweany · 19/10/2017 22:02

Sarah1234 crimewatch cancelled. Hmm

Jeanneweany · 19/10/2017 22:52

Please don't anyone tell me off. I've run out of ideas for usernames😁

Lweji · 20/10/2017 00:58

Why would anyone answer the original question if they knew it was a reverse?
facepalm

Lweji · 20/10/2017 00:59

Jeanneweany

Put down the glue and walk away slowly.

pinkcandy84 · 20/10/2017 04:18

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JanKind · 20/10/2017 08:08

YABFU with friends like you ...