My granddaughter is beautiful, and . . . .?

[OfCourseEveWasFramed]

She's 10, year 6 and people actually stop us in the street to tell her she's beautiful. This has been going on for her lifetime. She says thank you.
She says, 'thanks, I'm also really smart and I'm a good climber'.
Her looks are the only thing that strangers comment on.
Thankfully, she's level headed. Her class had a one-off lesson on how the media treats girls and women, and she had a lot to say about it - so did her friends.
A girl's looks are not the most important thing about her. We all know this, except random strangers don't seem to have got the message.

He is proving a bit of a point here

@TheFirstMrsDV

Careful he will grow up with no personality if he is beautiful!

PMSL

BEAUTIFUL CAT by the way @danceswithotters

@bilaystockandbloom

Someone really wants to punch someone for saying their baby's gorgeous? Lol.

I know! You couldn't make it up could you? What a ridiculous thing to say! @CappucinoLoverr said this. (Page 4.)

attractive people have boring personalities.

@fizzthecat1

Haha wishful thinking there. It's more likely the other way round as they have more positive feedback through there lives as people are nicer to them so they end up with a more positive view of the world

Exactly what I said. People saying this are just trying to make themselves feel better.

I love this thread

The next time someone tells my ds or dd how beautiful they are (which they are, natch ), I'm literally going to shout at them that they're gross, demeaning, shallow, and that my children are actually REALLY good at maths. I wouldn't seem at all unhinged, not at all, no.

dances

He is stunningly gorgeous though. But, sorry, that's a SHIT thing to say. My bad.

bialy i dont think an apology is necessary. It seems he is only good at beaing handsome 😂

He looks to me like he's got hidden depths martha

My DD's and DGD are all stunningly beautiful.

I don't stealth boast

My DS got lots of comments, usually in relation to his long dark eye lashes and how it was wasted on a boy. So I disagree that it's only girls that get comments on their looks. Btw my DS is a shit climber, but good at maths.
Also, people have commented on my cat and how sleek his black coat is...

@biallystockandbloom

The next time someone tells my ds or dd how beautiful they are (which they are, natch wink), I'm literally going to shout at them that they're gross, demeaning, shallow, and that my children are actually REALLY good at maths. I wouldn't seem at all unhinged, not at all, no.

Bahahaaa ha ha ha.

I am fucking beautiful, with lovely blonde hair and gorgeous big blue eyes - AND I am funny and intelligent - AND good at maths.

But no-one better tell me I am pretty or I will be bloody offended and will jolly well crush their grapes and apples! Grrrrrr.

I wonder if it's getting worse. My daughter looks so much like me, childhood pictures of me are almost identical to her now ( not a stealth boast as I've really lost it these days!), people tell her she is beautiful all the time. I only remember my mum saying it when I was young. Definitely not strangers.
Though maybe it was the crimpaline flares in the 70s ruining my look.....

This thread is unfair.

This is a genuine issue for some people and they can't discuss it without the majority of people either taking the piss or not able to handle the fact that some people have genuinely gorgeous children.

Of course if your child is normal looking to others/beautiful to you, it isn't the slightest issue if someone calls them gorgeous. I'ts just what you say.

It's a different matter entirely if their looks become their whole identity because people don't stop talking about it.

This thread is unfair.

This is a genuine issue for some people and they can't discuss it without the majority of people either taking the piss or not able to handle the fact that some people have genuinely gorgeous children.

Of course if your child is normal looking to others/beautiful to you, it isn't the slightest issue if someone calls them gorgeous. I'ts just what you say.

It's a different matter entirely if their looks become their whole identity because people don't stop talking about it.

My Dbro and a couple of friends were child models and the most beautiful children. People told them. They grew up to be attractive and smart and have hobbies and talents. Literally no one i know has ever been negatively affected by being told they are beautiful. But then i was/am called ugly by strangers which is worse.

I spent a considerable amount of time pushing my dd around in a wheelchair.
She didn't get comments about her hair or anything like that.
In fact I think she was largely invisible as she tended to be ignored by people most of the time.
Perhaps she was defined by her disability? I don't know, people never engaged enough.

I think people take these declarations of beauty with a pinch of salt because the people who generally protest that their looks are detrimental aren't actually that beautiful. Samantha Brick anyone or more recently www.digitalspy.com/tv/this-morning/news/a840377/this-morning-viewers-woman-too-attractive/

My two often get told they're handsome and I remind them that they smell as my motherly contribution to keeping their feet on the ground.

We've had comments from strangers since they were tiny. They have a kind of cute look going on (nothing to do with me) and tend to attract hair rufflers and assorted odd bods.

I remember a really posh lady saying to her friend of ds1 that he had a very "appealing little face."A creepy episode in an airport where a bloke pointed at ds in his buggy and called over his girlfriend without acknowledging me to say he wanted to get one "just like that." Japanese tourists asking to have their photos taken with them. All bizarre but harmless, except possibly the airport bloke who I got the hell away from.

I'd forgotten about Samantha Brick!

People say dd is beautiful. She loves it but just kind of smiles and moves on.

I think lucky her. Don't remember anyone saying I was beautiful. I just thought I was bang average.

A perfectly attractive women just not very self aware.

The very ordinary Samantha Brick

DD's childminder told me when dd was about two that dd would grow up with such confidence as everyone who encountered her stopped and complimented her apparently. I was working full time so wasn't out and about with her too much. She has indeed grown up confident. She now wears glasses and looks quite nerdy really but she has an innate confidence probably from always being admired as a baby and young child. She still gets told she's beautiful but it's like water off a duck's back. I can confirm that she is also good at maths and reads books at a pace of knots and she 'thinks' she is good at hockey (but she's not lol). Bless her. Oh to have had the confidence she has.

I firmly believe that children should be complimented at any opportunity for anything and everything. Mol an óige agus tiocfaidh siad. ;)

I feel the need to confess that DS can't actually play the trombone and is pretty avarage at maths - l was just making a point - although he does genuinely have miles of hair ... which will doubtless be the ruination of him.

Learning to accept a compliment graciously is a life-skill, though ...

But isn't it just human nature to appreciate someone/some thing that is aesthetically beautiful? I don't see the problem.