My granddaughter is beautiful, and . . . .?

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She's 10, year 6 and people actually stop us in the street to tell her she's beautiful. This has been going on for her lifetime. She says thank you.
She says, 'thanks, I'm also really smart and I'm a good climber'.
Her looks are the only thing that strangers comment on.
Thankfully, she's level headed. Her class had a one-off lesson on how the media treats girls and women, and she had a lot to say about it - so did her friends.
A girl's looks are not the most important thing about her. We all know this, except random strangers don't seem to have got the message.

But just because you dont find someone attractive doesnt mean 1000 other people dont. The world would be more positive if we saw the beauty in everyone. All of my friends are insanely beautiful.

Yes Martha agree completely. But there are crap holes out there like some men who like to rate women's beauty and that's what I find quite worrying when people comment on my little ones appearance.

Thank you apple

As someone who grew up believing herself to be ugly I wonder if any women with similar experiences agree with others on this thread that telling children they are beautiful is harmful/negative.

I always knew I would tell my children they were beautiful.
I think being uptight about it is a bit of a luxury tbh.

Like well off people who tell you that money doesn't make a difference to their lives.

Intelligence/high IQ is held up like some morally superior less shallow attribute to be born with than looks.

Exactly. So pathetic.

Assuming anyone who is pretty or attractive physically, is going to be boring and less intelligent, and less physically attractive people are going to be smart and interesting, is pathetic and laughable.

Thats true cappuccino. I think thats why i give women genuine compliments as another woman to counteract the horrible leary comments men give under the "guise" of compliiments.

OP - I understand you and get this.

I've read several quotes from older women saying its great when you are over a certain age and finally you never get comments in the street, the freedom of invisibility.

A man stopped me a few days ago as I walked with 12 year old DD and said "Wow your daughter's hair is amazing" or something like that. I felt shocked. It felt weird and creepy. Leave us alone to walk in peace and freedom. I know he probably meant it from the best of motives.... but it didn't land well with me.

And at DD's age (and your grand-daughter's age OP) they are walking around unaccompanied too some of the time. So do they have to start dealing with male strangers stopping them and talking about their appearance?!?

Better to be annoyed by being complimented for being beautiful than devastated by being told you are ugly.

I have a 10yo boy and people do comment on his looks, at least as much as his older sisters at the same age.

I would find that response from a child quite boastful and not really something to be pleased about.

I get it OP,I had that growing up and my Mum thought it was a lovely compliment but I hated it and I still hate it just as much now when people comment on my looks as an adult.

Careful now Dances he will grow up with no personality.

God yeah, these people paying compliments, what a bunch of utter bastards.

Someone really wants to punch someone for saying their baby's gorgeous? Lol.

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dances but is he good at climbing??

so what this happens with loads of kids. Would you rather they did the opposite? Or do you want her to walk around with a t-shirt listing all her academic success.

I'm forever being stopped & told how adorable my dog is. I do let them know though that's not her only attribute, she's also brilliant at eating her own poo & yapping for 20 minutes at a leaf that's blown across the garden

It's super gross for people to be stopping a child to tell them they're beautiful.

I don't understand why posters are saying it's a compliment. Is it a compliment when men do the same to women in the street? Of course not. It's intrusive, creepy and demeaning. It would gross me out if people were doing that to my kid.

Ah well at least hes got his looks dancing ;)

super gross

I grew up feeling very ugly and was bullied badly for my looks. Luckily, I have 2 dcs who do not take after me in the looks department and get several compliments about their looks. I love it as they will not experience the embarrassment and shame I felt as a child about the way I looked.

OP, you really need to step out of your experience and realise there are far worse things than being complimented for how beautiful you are.

Growing up good looking also means you develope a boring personality

Haha wishful thinking there. It's more likely the other way round as they have more positive feedback through there lives as people are nicer to them so they end up with a more positive view of the world

Yes dances but is he good at maths?