Was I being unreasonable to comment on trolley?

[queenthequeen]

A lady and I were in the same aisle or the supermarket and I made what I thought was a friendly comment about her trolley.

She got really angry and asked what the duck it had to do with me.

I once went to Sainsbury's with my Mum and we filled the trolley with nibbles and booze. The woman at the checkout said "Oh lovely, looks like it'll be a fab party!" to which my Mum replied "No it won't, it's for my Dad's funeral"

I often wonder if the woman ever commented on another load of shopping ever again!!

Posted too soon - YWBU OP, just because there's really no need to comment on other people's shopping.

ClashCityRocker - The girl on the checkout actually said these words to me once 'ooh, are you having a party....' It was just me and ONE friend. "I said yes I am" - !!

You sound nice and friendly. She may have been having a bad Day.

oh you must like Dr Pepper

YWNBU to chat to a stranger. YWBU to say something so banal.

I wouldn't have sworn at you, but I would definitely have marked you down as a dimwit.

Supermarket shopping is a bit like public toilets. We all know why we’re there, but we’re not supposed to ask if other users are happier now they’ve pooped.

I think it’s a shame!

Least you didn't comment on the gin... seriously think OP was just making light-hearted conversation? At least you acknowledged another human being and tried to start a chat!

The contents of my trolley are personal. Not as personal as the contents of my handbag or my underwear, but still personal. I wouldn't be deeply offended but I'd still prefer you didn't comment on what I'm buying. Walking around with your week's food and toiletries on show is one of those small vulnerabilities - I wouldn't want you to rifle through my kitchen cupboards and I don't really want you to take notice of what I'm buying either.

Of course some people don't mind chatting about this stuff. But since a significant number of people do mind, it's not really a very friendly thing to do, is it? You can stick to topics that no one minds and avoid making people uncomfortable, so why not do that?

Just stick a pregnancy test or pack of condoms on the top, no one will comment then!

You sounded judged. You got a mouthful in return. It's done with.

judgey

Food and drink can be a strangely touchy subject for many people. My daughter for instance is vegan and a lot of people get really wound up by the word vegan.

Maybe she's addicted to fizzy drinks and a bit embarrassed. It's not exactly healthy.

I know this may sound far fetched but she may be using Dr Pepper to drink instead of alcohol or any number of reasons. I’d have kept my mouth shut however her response was unnecessarily rude which makes me think there’s more to it... or she’s just rude. I’d just say yeah and wonder off. But it would bother me if somebody commented on my trolley as if they were judging me!

*wander

Maybe she's addicted to fizzy drinks and a bit embarrassed. It's not exactly healthy

I'm the biggest dizzy drinker in the world and wouldn't bat an eyelid at someone commenting on my stacks of cans In the trolley

Unless they were rude of course

That could be taken as a thinly veiled judgey comment. As in: 'are you sure you should be buying so much of that sugary crap you fatty? '

@queenthequeen

There was no need for her to be so nasty, but I have to say, it really fucks me right off when people comment on what I buy; whether it's another customer, or a checkout operator. What I am buying is shag-all to do with anyone. I know it's sounds petty to get irked (and it is!) but it does annoy me. No doubt this woman felt the same as me.

In the past, I have been on lunch at work, and gone out to buy the Friday lunchtime cakes -12 in all sometimes - and sometimes the person serving said 'Oooooh, you'll not be able to fit in your car if you keep buying this many cakes!'

Then I had a time where I used to enjoy a certain cake at Greggs, which was 10 minutes walk from me at the time, and I had one on a Tuesday and one on a Friday, and EVERY time I went in, this one woman said (VERY LOUDLY!) 'Oooooooh, here she is, after her custard slice!' EVERY. FUCKING. TIME.

EVERYONE in the queue looked at me.

It got to the point where if I went to get it, and she was behind the counter, I would leave it.

That could be taken as a thinly veiled judgey comment. As in: 'are you sure you should be buying so much of that sugary crap you fatty? '

THIS ^ In spades.

I never comment on other peoples' trolleys.

A roll of the eyes gets my point across quite satisfactorily.

I am friendly and mostly happy but people who comment on my groceries are not welcome. I am sick with a chronic disease and getting to the store is difficult. When i am well enough, i buy healthy food. When I'm sick, i do not get to the store. Therefore, my cart is very full....and stop asking me how many children i have! However, if we have the same good taste to purchase x, smile and nod at least.

You were passing a friendly comment that's all,I would have laughed and had a quick chat.perhaps she took a harmless comment the wrong way.

Your comment would have annoyed me as it can come across as a bit judgy, also you’ve obviously been peering at the contents of my trolley, which is nosey.

Surely this is called "Shopping Basket Shaming"?!

I wouldn't go there.....

I think I would be a little annoyed if someone passed a comment like that on my trolley content. Idk but I kind of think its rude to stare at what people have bought and at the very least, you don't pass comment. I wouldn't have reacted like she did - but I certainly would have walked away thinking 'mind your own business you nosey cow' lol

Imagine you had a lot of crisps, chocolates and sweets in your trolley for Halloween ....and lets say you have 3 oz's of extra weight on you - and I walked past, looked in your trolley and in what I think is a humorous tone said 'ohh dear - all that chocolate's not going to help is it dear?'...the chances are you wouldn't find it as amusing as I did. I think with strangers its best to not pass comment on peoples diet, she clearly felt you were having a dig at her love of Dr Pepper

She was aggressive and immature. No judgement (as in the meaningful word, to act according to interpretation of circumstances. Not the overly-used-until-it-means-nothing judgmental form. [sigh].) employed in interpreting your tone.
Who cares if you briefly strayed outside your bubble of personal space/social isolation to speak to her. Hardly called her a greedy bitch. That defensive interpretation is on her.