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Was I being unreasonable to comment on trolley?

213 replies

queenthequeen · 15/10/2017 14:19

A lady and I were in the same aisle or the supermarket and I made what I thought was a friendly comment about her trolley.

She got really angry and asked what the duck it had to do with me.

OP posts:
starzig · 15/10/2017 15:20

Moral: don't make off hand comments to people you don't know. You don't know if they have issues, problems, have had a bad day, or just don't share your same sense of humour or flippancy.

bungaloid · 15/10/2017 15:21

On a similar theme I was shopping in Waitrose (of course) and the cashier was telling me that they'd just got a minor reprimand from their manager as a customer had complained that they weren't chatty enough. Who does that kind of shit? Bizarre weirdos. I expressed the sentiment that I don't generally go shopping to have scintillating conversation with staff at the checkout. I offered to go tell a manager that I'd had the most amazing checkout experience but they said not to bother. I should have done it anyway.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/10/2017 15:22

Didn't someone say here in AIBU a while ago that the rule here in U.K. to never talk to anyone on the street?

Only in the south, Homework.

They are miserable buggers awn there. Up in t'North, and in Scotland we talk to anyone and everyone. You can be 10 minutes waiting for a bus and by the time it's arrived you know the life stories of the other 15 people in the queue and they know yours.

I like it. [sile]

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/10/2017 15:23

Sorry Smile not [sile]

hmcAsWas · 15/10/2017 15:24

Ah Waitrose - its in its own little world isn't it Grin

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/10/2017 15:24

lots of gin.

Oooh! You're never going to drink all that are you? I couldn't manage more than three bottles myself.

RhiannonOHara · 15/10/2017 15:24

Only in the south, Homework. They are miserable buggers awn there

Not in my bit of London. People chat and smile quite a lot.

Hoppinggreen · 15/10/2017 15:25

I have loads of conversations in the supermarket - stand near the apples ( or your product of choice) and before long somebody will join you.
This must have happened Darn sarf

CalmanOnSpeeddial · 15/10/2017 15:26

I desperately wanted to find out why the guy behind me in the queue yesterday was buying five jars of cherry jam and an iceberg letttuce but I restrained myself (with difficulty).

BlueButTrue · 15/10/2017 15:27

You are in a supermarketYou do what you have to do. Then you leave. Honestly, why on earth would you comment on someone else’s trolley contents?
Weird

I think it's sad that so many people think like this. Unless someone is making a critical/snarky comment about your trolley contents, why is it such a crime? Some people are just nice.

Last week I had near enough the same shop as the shopper behind me. Literally, it was so unusual since I buy quite odd bits - think lemon sorbet, strawberry laces and avocado.

I kept making eye content with a 'knowing' smile but got no response Sad

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/10/2017 15:28

Are you in a Special Bit of London Rhiannon.

Is there an area called "Little Newcastle" or "Little Manchester" or "Little Comrie" down there?

derxa · 15/10/2017 15:28

On a similar theme I was shopping in Waitrose You must never make comments in Waitrose. However the poor staff are obliged to chat and so I do. Loudly and with raucous laughter. I enjoy the catsbum faces of the others in the queue.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/10/2017 15:29

lemon sorbet, strawberry laces and avocado

I blame the BbC GoodFood website. You never needed ingredients like that when I was a girl . ..

WorraLiberty · 15/10/2017 15:32

I'm also in London and the people here are very chatty to strangers too.

I can only assume none of them are Mumsnetters.

Fekko · 15/10/2017 15:32

I wonder when I see folks on chefs whites buying loads of jars of gravy and loaves of bread etc. I wonder what the mark up is like!

RhiannonOHara · 15/10/2017 15:33

No, Schadenfreude. I just live in real London, as opposed to 'That London', which is full of unfriendly surly types but thankfully exists only in people's minds.

BlueButTrue · 15/10/2017 15:34

I also don't like that particular kind of comment as I've had smarmy men say similar things who think they're being oh so witty and funny

Men have made a 'oh so witty and funny' comment about one of your product choices that is in the same category as Dr Pepper? Really?

I could understand if it was fanny blockers or something but bottles of fizzy drink?

BlueButTrue · 15/10/2017 15:35

Schaden those aren't ingredients - I eat them all on their own Grin

MrsKoala · 15/10/2017 15:38

I went to see Richard Herring comedy show called 'Somebody likes yogurt'. Which was about someone at the check out saying that to him when he'd bought lots of yogurt. He was quite outraged and pointed out that if he'd bought bog roll would they say 'oooh someone likes shitting'.

I've lived all over and have found no difference in friendliness in the North or South or London. You get chatty people everywhere. Apart from MN of course.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 15/10/2017 15:38

I wouldn’t have responded to your “knowing” smile either, Blue. Mainly because I wouldn’t have been clocking the contents of your trolley in the first place, I’m far more interested in my own.
Are you people the ones who start threads about I FOUND A LIST!!
as if what someone else was planning to buy at the supermarket was on a par with the latest blockbuster?!

CalmanOnSpeeddial · 15/10/2017 15:40

I did, however, earlier in the year comment to the chaps in the queue behind me that they had the makings of a really cracking Eurovision party in their trolley. Given the date, their appearance and the contents of the conveyor belt it was a pretty safe bet (yes I’m in London).

HateIsNotGood · 15/10/2017 15:43

Well I got the thread title wrong - thought what could you say about trolleys, maybe the kind of trolley it was perhaps. Open thread so it was a trolley in a supermarket, then got confused because the trolley was the same as the many trolleys that Dr Pepper had.

Wtf I thought, I thought Dr Pepper made a soft drink and had always assumed (in error I see now) that the Dr was a bloke. Then I thought may be there was a 'rap singer' called Dr Pepper who had a video with Dr Pepper Trolleys and it was a 'thing' as "she had so many". Then....the penny dropped.....

Contents, trolley contents...a supermarket trolley with lots of Dr Pepper in.

Don't no if YANBU or not, depends if it was bottles and cans. Probably the trolley pusher had an unwelcome guest who would ONLY drink Dr Pepper.

WetsTheVet · 15/10/2017 15:45

Throw a lamp at her in the home furnishings aisle and tell her to lighten the fuck up

BillyDaveysDaughter · 15/10/2017 15:48

Bloody hell OP, I think you were a bit unlucky. I wouldn't see that as rude at all, I'd probably beam brightly and say yeah I do actually, it stops me quaffing alcohol! And then we'd banter a bit in an amused fashion, I'd pay for my 13 bottles of Dr Pepper and fuck off.

But clearly that's only in our strange little world.

JonSnowsWife · 15/10/2017 15:53

I said something like oh you must like Dr Pepper as she had a lot of them)

I'd have told you to fuck off too. Sorry! Grin

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