Was I being unreasonable to comment on trolley?

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A lady and I were in the same aisle or the supermarket and I made what I thought was a friendly comment about her trolley.

She got really angry and asked what the duck it had to do with me.

Some ppl are complete assholes take no notice OP , YWNBU!

Iamagreyhound Yes that was actually one of my first ever posts on MN!

I‘ll send you one of mine for Christmas, Blue . Pages and pages of booze...

"Oooh you must like [said item]!"

Well of course I fucking like it. That's the whole point.

Not because the criminal masterminds of Ryvita are going to come for my loved ones unless I buy in bulk

I commented to a woman with a whole basket absolutely brimming with cat food pouches! I asked how many cats she had, but they were going ton holiday and this was for the cat sitter. Boring! I wanted her to have 50 and this was just the morning breakfast run 😯

I've come across people with eating disorders who down a lot of fizz. Wonder if that explains the sensitivity?

I'd have been cross at somebody judging my shopping too, but I'd likely have ignored the comment and seethed in silence like I usually do when somebody upsets/offends me.

It was none of you beeswax what was in her trolley, much less your place to comment on it. I'm surprised anyone has the time or inclination to notice what anyone else has in their trolley

Commenting on Dr Pepper perhaps she thought you were taking the piss (fattening/rotten teeth .... nothing positive about Dr Pepper!)

I had a kid once say wow mummy she’s got loads of water (we drink bloodynloads if carbonated water in my house so sometimes I’ll buy 15 bottles or more which was fine
Another time a randomly weird bloke kept commenting as I put stuff on the conveyor belt ‘oh, have a cat do you’ ... yes we have two ‘ sweets for the kids’? Yes and perhaps me too ‘really he said’! .... next comment was’wine eh ... I don’t agree parents with children should drink alcohol at home’ ...... silence from me because I’d suspect my local coop wouldn’t enjoy a customer telling someone to fuck off with the judgmental comments ...

I don't mind chitchat at the supermarket (which is a good thing considering I work in one!) but for someone to randomly make a comment about my trolley would probably be met with either a quizzical stare (at best) or being told to get lost (at worst) depending on the comment made.

It's one thing when you're in a queue at the checkout and so are stuck with the person in front/behind you and so are passing the time by finding something to chit chat about in the hopes the other person is similarly bored and up for a bit of chat to pass the waiting time.

Also if you see something in someone's trolley and you make a specific comment about them because you want information - eg they have a specific brand of peanut butter that you've been looking for and ask "Oh, were did you find the Jif PB, I couldn't see it anywhere on the shelf, I hope you didn't get the last few jars!" or if you're both going for the same item and they appear to be stocking up and you make a passing comment about the item "That's a lot of cat food, got a whole herd of them at home or just stocking up?"

If however you're just passing someone in an aisle, commenting on their trolley when you have had no other interaction and nothing has prompted the exchange (Eg if the lady had bumped her trolley into you and you said "No harm done, I'm sure it's not easy to manoeuvre the trolley with all those heavy cans ... you must love Dr Pepper to have that many") then it's weird at best or can come across as judgey at worst.

I thought you were talking about her trolley, not the contents and I’m thinking what’s so interesting about a trolley, do some have wide wheels and a turbo engine?

Anyway, sounds like she was having a bad day or maybe a grumpy arse.

I don't think I have ever even noticed what other people put in their trollies at the supermarket.

It seems like a fairly innocuous comment though. I wouldn't have paid it much attention.

Nobody has ever commented on my trolley that I can remember. Should I be upset or worried about that? Clearly no-one else pays me enough attention!

There's some sensitive babies around to think that a simple comment like that is unreasonable. You'd tell someone to fuck off for that one comment? Well that says more about you Jonsnowswife

Ah yes, the 'what's the matter love can't take a joke?' Argument.

I can't abide cps (Comment passers)
either, so. Yes, IMO ywbvu.
Let that be a lesson to you to keep your beak out In future.

What's the odds of there being a thread created saying
Wibu to have said to some poke What the duck has it got to do with you, when she commented on the contents of my trolley

*nosey poke

I would feel really uncomfortable if people started judging on the contents of my shopping trolley. Even if you think your comment is innocuous, I'd just keep it to yourself.

I'd be annoyed if someone said that to me. I once arrived back from buying my lunch from Tesco and the boss's wife said "banana good, Jaffa cakes no" (it was a mini pack) and walked off. None of her business!

Was it actually Dr Pepper or were you using that as an example? I think the problem is if someone is self conscious about what's in their trolley, they're more likely to react defensively. If for example it was large quantities of alcohol, you probably wouldn't comment in case they were an alcoholic. Or large quantities of condoms or sanitary towels you would probably avoid commenting to avoid causing embarrassment. It may be that she was embarrassed about buying large quantities of fizzy pop - maybe she has an eating disorder. So to her, pointing it out could be akin to pointing out to someone that they've got a trolley full of condoms. Obviously you can't know what people's sensitivities are but it's safest not to comment.

Ugh I hate people commenting on what I buy, I just find it really awkward. Someone commented on my full trolley at the till once. Something like "ohh that's a lot of food". I kind of half smiled. "Are you going to eat ALL that? You must be having a party" I said it wasn't really a party. "Oh so it's just for you then?" I had had enough by then so just told the truth that it was food for a funeral. I wanted to avoid it so they didn't feel like an idiot but they really brought it on themselves. If you want small talk then that's fine, just talk about he bloody weather or something!

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LOL, like the advert says "Dr Pepper, what's the worst that could happen?" Well, now you know

Maybe she is very keen on Dr Pepper or maybe she's having a party. Either way I make a point of never commenting on anyone's choices. It reminds me a bit of Caroline Aherne's wonderfully nosy shop assistant.

I was in the queue with a full trolley and the woman behind me was almost leaning into my trolley checking everything out.
'Can I help you?' I asked in icy tones.
'Oh, I was just looking to see what I'd forgotten' she answered.
I thought it was brilliant.