DH wanting to go hiking on family weekend away.

[PooFlower]

We are off to the Lake district for a Fri to Mon weekend away with our two dc.
DH has announced he plans to go for a short hike (2 hours) on the Sat and a long walk (5-6 hours) on the Sunday. He says he will get up at first light and go so he is back in time to do other things.
Am I being unreasonable to ask him not to?
I dont mind him going for a short walk each morning however a long walk will ruin the weekend for me. He will go to bed early the night before, probably wake dd2 up if he gets up early and be shattered and fit for nothing when he gets back.
I feel mean though. He loves hiking but hardly gets to go these days. I wouldn't mind so much if we were away for a week but think it will impact the holiday too much as with it only being a short break.

Would it actually be easier to bump the
Lakes trip to the summer and go somewhere else this Christmas? You've said it's very expensive, your husband wants to fuck off hiking the whole time and even if you and the kids join in with some of it it'll be cold and miserable. Go for a city break instead and do Lakes in better weather. He should still make sure he doesn't disappear leaving you with the kids the entire time, though.

Yes my response would be ‘why would you book a mini break with your kids and dh and then want to spend one of those precious days walking by yourself’

How wierd of you. And selfish

Yes I saw the packing comment too. I think the dh needs to thank his lucky stars he has such an accommodating wife.

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There you go - few miles outside of York. All the shopping and tea rooms you could wish for!

theresa its TWO days he wants, and one of those is New Year's Eve but apparently because it's hiking that makes OP selfish and lazy.

There's nothing wrong with the shopping and the Tea Rooms in the Lake District and the OP already has a holiday booked.

You are allowed to go to the Lake District and not hike you know.

sentiment

You are right 2 bloody days!! Selfish arse.

Yes there is more to the Lake District than bloody hiking.

I was the 13 year old being followed reluctantly up very small fells by a slow, whining, 6-year-old sibling. It's a recipe for misery.

(And will people stop recommending Catbells as a nice easy starter for children? There are very few fells I've abandoned, but bloody Catbells seems to have a wind machine of its own that is determined to shove me off its summit.)

I'm loving 'sole-destroying', Theresamayscough -- was that a typo or Freudian slip?

Wow this thread has become even more unhinged.
So OP should go somewhere else because she doesn’t match the cliched criteria of hardened rambler and her poor DH will be unable to suffer the view of the hills he is being so cruelly denied by - well by the perfectly natural assumption that he might want to spend some time with his family on a family break.

Lake District is a perfectly lovely venue even if you don’t intend to scale the summits.

OP has said she’s happy for the family to go on short walks of a type that are appropriate for a 5 year old and non walking fan herself and DD. Is that not exercise enough or does it only count if you’re out all day scaling a mountain?

She’s also said - rather nobly- that the DH can do a walk whilst she packs up.

I can’t think of anything more designed to arouse a lifelong hatred of walking than dragging your family up some unsafe rim or pinnacle in freezing conditions. Also cost of getting everyone kitted out in appropriate gear is a fortune , whereas not so bad if someone gets a bit wet on a 2 hour tramp.

Lancelottie

was imagining hitting the ops dh over the head with a wet fish clearly!

Lancelottie

was imagining hitting the ops dh over the head with a wet fish clearly!

Has the DH had a family holiday at the forefront of his mind, I wonder?

Sounds like he's had a walking holiday for himself, with the wife and kids tagging along but not walking, in mind.

Some of you should be making donations to Mountain Rescue as penance for your silliness.

So your DP has announced his plans for time by himself both days during the weekend. Fair enough.
I suggest you announce your plans for your 'me time' too. What do you want to do by yourself for 2 hours the first day and 6 hours on the second?

We did that on my family holiday as hubs likes activity but I don't. But on the afternoon after 2 hr walk, you get to go to the spa or potter round Keswick fudge shops while he watches kids. It sounds like he misses something he really enjoyed. I would be ok caring for kids if I knew I got my own break. Oh and he does washing up AND bedtime while you watch Dance Moms.

I wouldn't stop him. It's good exercise and six hrs isn't that long. Just make sure he buys you dinner and have a sinfully long bath. Also make sure he checks the weather before hand has a phone with battery and the GPS turned on and a survival kit. I wouldn't recommend hiking in winter for amateurs

Couldn't you come to an agrement and he only goes hiking on the Saturday morning and leaves it in the Sunday?

six hrs isn't that long

Six hours doesn't seem long when you're off doing something you love. Six hours can feel like a fucking eternity if you're in the middle of nowhere with two kids either entertaining them, or dragging them on something they don't want to do.

My kids hike (5 and 11) always have done. It's an adventure and the lakes are made for hiking... That's why people go there! So i'd make the short one a family hike (that's the equivalent of a regular dog walk for my kids) then let him have a longer one alone but asked if it could be more like 3 hrs while you take kids for a trip?

I go to the lakes and I don't hike.

Right I'm going to say this once more for the cheap seats at fab back.

OP is not trying to stop him going hiking full stop, she's asking if it's unreasonable for her to ask him not to go on both days and leaving her with the kids each time.

Don't be afraid to have separate holidays now and again.

It is more likely to strengthen the marriage than weaken it.

If he needs breaks to do a lot of physical exercise, he would be better off going with a like minded friend.

At 5 my ds walked an 8.5km trek in Exmoor quite happily. It wasn't too cold though and we had a picnic lunch (you take soup/hot choc in a flask). We just planned a suitable trek that wasn't too arduous and it had plenty of changing landscape to break up the time....ie big trees - steep hill - moorland with views - streams - wood - more streams. We had a packet of sweets and a map - we would pick somewhere on the map, i.e. derelict cottages/wall/stile/crossroads and when he had navigated us there we all got a sweet. He complained when we were about 10 mins from the end as we kept him occupied and interested throughout. It was great fun!

But whoever mentioned that hiking in winter is a different game, was dead right. If you don't have the kit or the right mindset it would be foolish. Even if it looks like a nice day, the weather can change very quickly.

Seems wrong on Sunday; who chose Destination? Does not seem Family ished? I'm sorry.